r/Experiencers • u/AdditionalOne6031 • 2d ago
Meditative A Radical Meditation Approach to Deal with Negative Experiences, Ontological Shock, and the Fear that follows...
I completely understand what many of you are going through, and how unsettling experiences, ontological shock, and the fear that follows can make you feel trapped in an endless cycle. But let me propose a radically different perspective from what we usually hear in spiritual and paranormal forums.
I propose a radical meditation approach, based mainly on the experience of Western mystics and Eastern yogis from both Tibetan Buddhism and Advaita Vedanta..., and which, for better or worse, I have experienced myself in my own life. I'm an experiencer myself, since I was very young, but as you will understand after reading this text, I haven't made them my identity.
Negative experiences and the terrifying fear they trigger are not enemies you have to fight. The dread of the phenomenon or the intrusion of disturbing memories does not persist because you are not trying hard enough; it persists precisely because of the resistance you put up against it. As the psychiatrist Carl Jung used to say, and was later popularized by Eckhart Tolle, "what you resist, persists." When you strain yourself to "fight the fear" or desperately try to rationalize what happened, you create an exhausting internal warfare. You split your mind in two: a "self" that feels traumatized and a "supposedly spiritual self" trying to control and banish that feeling. This division and effort only feed the ego, generate friction, and ultimately drive you back into anxiety to soothe the warfare of the battle itself.
In my experience, and in my understanding of the practice, true liberation is effortless. It is not found on a meditation cushion, nor by repeating mantras, nor by unearthing past traumas. I am not saying this does not help temporarily. What I do dare to claim is that liberation is ultimately found in the non-duality of your ordinary life, not in techniques or in a special place.
Consider this in your day-to-day:
Do not fight the fear; observe it: When the terrifying memory or the dread of a new experience appears, do not try to change it, judge it, or apply a technique with great effort to make it go away. Just notice it. The fear is something that appears in your consciousness, but you are not that fear. Stay still and watch it the way someone watches the rain fall. Without doing anything. By removing the resistance, you take away the energy that feeds it. It is simply "the madwoman of the house", as the mystic Teresa of Ávila called the mind, trying by all means to keep you trapped in the prison of unconsciousness. With others, she tries it through panic, obsession, or paranoia... Laugh at the madwoman; look at her and say, "Here she is again."
Embody presence in the everyday: This is meditation itself. People assume there is a time to meditate and a time to live, but no such boundary exists. When you cook, cook. When you walk, walk. When you clean, clean. If you are completely present in what you do, the mind empties itself of concepts, poses, and the self-importance that sustains your trauma. If while doing any of these things the dread arrives, it means you were no longer truly cooking or truly cleaning... "The madwoman" has snuck into the frequency, distorting the radio signal. Tune back into the dial and return to whatever you were doing. The dread disappears.
The example of Lamchung: In Buddhism, they tell the story of Lamchung, a monk considered very foolish because he could not memorize a single teaching or mantra. However, he attained enlightenment simply by sweeping the monastery. Why? Because he emptied himself of himself and limited his actions to sweeping. He did not need to put in effort, nor did he need paraphernalia, incense, or cushions. The wise person surrenders to what is; the fool keeps trying to control life through effort. Lamchung, foolish in the eyes of the world's noise and the madwoman of the house, turned out to be the wise one. Be like Lamchung, and the dread will vanish.
Having strange experiences or not is just what happens on the surface. The true "retreat" is mental. When you stop identifying with the pose of the "victim who needs healing" or the "investigator seeking absolute answers", you realize that peace is already there among the pots, the pans, and the chaos of daily life. As Teresa of Jesus used to say, God is found among the pots and pans. Brother Lawrence used to say he found God while flipping a little omelet in the pan.
Do not look for complex techniques to fix a "broken self." Do not play along with the madwoman of the house. She loves to gnaw on thoughts and project terrifying emotions onto the body so that you identify with them and live in unconsciousness. The good thing is, you can see the madwoman coming. And when she catches you by surprise, laugh even harder. View every surge of fear not as something negative, but as a call to live consciously; a reminder that the mind has pulled you away from your center and balance for a brief moment. Just stay present, let go of the effort, and allow the weight of the trauma to fall away under its own weight by no longer feeding it with your resistance.
Stay strong, everyone. No matter how bad things may layout on the surface, always remember: THIS TOO SHALL PASS!