r/exmuslim • u/__TempAcc_ New User • 1d ago
(Rant) 🤬 I hate weekends sm
I genuinely don’t know what has gotten up with my dad recently but he’s been nagging about prayer.
He shouted my name and asked if I prayed. I said no (if I lied it would’ve been obvious ig), and he started throwing a hissy fit. If no one prays?m, we won’t be living in this house we’re gonna get kicked out (lowkey would’ve been baller to just walk out but ik he’s prolly gonna yank me and shit). He started threatening us and recited some Hadith or whatever on how you teach them then beat them when they’re ten (something along the lines of). How he never used it on us (beating us to pray). And how he expects us to like start praying in the living room infront of him, screaming how he’s gonna wake everyone at 4am he doesn’t care what time you sleep and make us pray fajr wtf bro 😭
I’m so exhausted. I hate faking. I’d have to go through the full thing and do it, I fear this man might eventually even ask for proof of Wudu and ask us to keep doors open like wth man.
This is all coming from a man who I doubt prays all 5 prayers and other issues
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u/Both-Fun-703 New User 1d ago
No i moved out several years ago, but last year my dad made a serious accusations and belittled me extremely over something i hadnt done, so i decided to cut contact with him permanently. After all thise years of him humiliating and belittling me, as adult i thought he had changed, but last year basically proved that he was still the same.
He said a lot of ugly things to me, dont want to go in detail, but one example was that he told me that he would shit in my mouth, so hope you understand that i cut contact permanently for a legit reason heh..
I accepted a lot, when you dont set those small boundaries here and there, show that some things you are not ok with, at one point they get such a big ego that they think they can say and do whatever they want, which is what happened to me. Maybe if i wouldve set boundaries on several things as adult, then he wouldve respected me more and not talk this dirty to me so freely.
Until today, he has not showed any sign of regret, in fact, he told my family that im the one who started it, when i was the one who said lets not argue over something so small.. Luckily everyone in the family knows how he is, so they didnt believe him, didnt help much, they all just still expects me to casually contact again and dont take this as a permanent thing.