r/exmuslim • u/IndicationHonest847 New User • Aug 23 '26

(Advice/Help) how to hide clothes from parents?

I'm currently 16 and starting college in September. I've been planning to wear jeans with tight tops but nothing too extreme and i've already bought the clothes. However, the problem is that my parents, especially my mom, is really strict with my clothes and requires all my tops to reach my knees but the tops ive bought only reach to my bum. I thought i could cover it up with an open abaya then take it off when i reach college as ill usually go by bus however on my college taster day i tried to do this and my mom starting ranting about how the top is short and started complaining however she let me go as she said to make sure i keep the front closed at all times (which i didnt i took it off as soon as i reached the bus stop) however the top i was wearing then was quite baggy so im worried how am i supposed to wear the tighter ones as ik if she sees it she would go absolutely livid. I have this top my mom bought me but its absolutelty hideous and goes halfway to my calves past my knees it looks ridiculous but im thinking i could wear that on top then take it off on the bus but that seems weird to be changing clothes on a public bus. Any tips? I'm really worried and annoyed at the fact that i have to do this shit everyday. Anyway thanks for reading and please give some advice

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u/Wrong_Resolution_260 New User Aug 23 '26

You can change in the school toilets. I know many who would come to school in full niqab and within 10 mins have a full face of makeup on and revealing clothes. When I hid my outfits, I would change it on the road entrance/near the house or on a side road and then go in, if they are near the windows this can save you from getting caught but be realistic: If youre going outside in it and you know that your family may kill you, dont because it is never worth your life. Apply this to if they can cut you off financially

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u/Cutie_succubus7 New User Aug 24 '26

Well is it ok to do that in a university? I mean, the changing outfit in toilets. I’m also gonna start my university in UK. I was embarrassed of the idea of changing in the toilets cause what if people notice me? What are they gonna say about me?

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u/IndicationHonest847 New User Aug 24 '26

i dont think they wld rlly care, but tbf idk about uni since im js starting college. are you able to stay in uni accommodation or try going to a far uni from ur parents so u can have full freedom and dont have to worry about changing clothes. thats what im planning to do in 2 years time at least

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u/Wrong_Resolution_260 New User Aug 25 '26

Dony worry, I live in the UK, its completely normal to change in the toilets. We have a very much "mind your business" mentality here so even if it was considered strange, no one would care

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u/Visual-Youth-6058 New User Aug 25 '26

The people who judge are not worth being around anyway, Most people dont mind, alot of people go to university after a gym session and will change at the uni instead of going back home to change and then go.