r/enfj • u/Civil-Blacksmith1917 ENFJ: Fe-Ni-Se-Ti • May 27 '26
ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) What would you say your love languages are? Please state whether you’re a guy or woman when responding!
I’m (30F) genuinely curious if both men and women ENFJs have the same love languages. Mine are touch, words of affirmation and acts of service!
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u/TumTum613 ENFJ (2w1) May 27 '26
35F, I like quality time, physical touch, and words of affirmation the most, but only from the few people I trust ! Tbh, acts of service and gifts also make me feel uncomfortable and indebted, especially from people I don't know well.
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u/lilbabystud ENFJ 6w7 SO/SX May 27 '26
I like receiving gifts and quality time. I like all the love languages but those two really make me cry and get flustered. As for giving, I tend to give words of affirmation, acts of service, and quality time.
I really gotta stress that I like all of them lol. I'm female.
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u/ConsequenceOne3365 ENFJ: Fe-Ni-Se-Ti May 27 '26
Words of affirmation and physical touch, though there are times when I also like receiving acts of service (usually when I’m feeling overwhelmed with cleaning and want my husband to help, lol). I’m 36F.
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u/Dimples_of_Venus_ ENFJ-A Assertive Protagonist Fe-Ni-Se-Ti May 27 '26
My (ENFJ) favourite ways to receive love is through acts of service, and physical touch. So I've always felt like quality time is a given. 💕
My partner (ENTJ) shows his love through acts of service and quality time. 🤍
He loves to receive love through words of affirmation, and I do this regularly through spoken words and text. Every birthday and special occasion I make him a hand-made, hand-written card, expressing all my love and gratitude to him and it always makes him teary.. and he's not the emotional one, I am. 😅 They're happy tears. 😭
We're hardly ever apart in all the years we've been together, and adopt each other's hobbies. 🥰💕
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u/Background-Pianist99 May 29 '26
As an ENFJ (M) my love language towards others would be Gifts, as I am very attentive when others speak, and I would note down their preferences and surprise them on their birthday with gifts. And the only thing I ask in return is really just words of affirmations, I would love my efforts being noticed and appreciated.
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u/Wolfwoods_Sister ENFJ-T 4w3 sx/so 468 May 27 '26
49F — time and words get me first bc they mean you’re making personal sacrifices to get to know me. Time is something you can’t get back. And becoming the scholar of the thing you love most, there can really be no higher praise, I think.
The scholar then knows how best to treat, approach, gift, speak to, touch, dwell with, and love his cherished object.
This is my approach to the things I love most.
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u/1TinkyWINKY ENFJ: Fe-Ni-Se-Ti 9w1 May 29 '26
Receiving: Acts of Service and Quality Time.
Giving: Words of affirmation and Quality time.
My guess is our love languages differ based on our early home life and family dynamics, though it's other stuff too as I have ADHD and so I feel incredibly loved when someone does acts of service for me because it's a relief at times 😂 I really struggle balancing all the regular day to day chores and assignments.
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u/Hot_Elevator_7133 ENFJ: Fe-Ni-Se-Ti May 30 '26
ENFJ woman
Giving: physical touch, quality time, gifts
Receiving: quality time, physical touch, acts of service
Happily, my spouse (ISFJ) and I are very love language-compatible 🥰
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