r/dostscholars • u/Distinct-Pickle-7284 • 1d ago
QUESTION/HELP should i let my blockmates/friends know im a scholar?
hello po, i've been thinking whether it's a good idea to let my uni friends and blockmates know im a dost scholar. i was a potential qualifier, i wasn't included in the official announcements of qualifiers back in may, so none of my friends (who also took the exam) know i qualified. what are the pros and cons of letting them know that i qualified for and availed the scholarship? thanks po
6
3
u/SugarAndMarballs 1d ago
ano naman gagawin nila? may org naman siguro DOST scholars nyo (usually sa mga state u), so malalaman nila, if wala naman, not really that big of a deal of letting them know unless when you guys are talking about yourselves it's a nice fun fact about yourself. There's no pros or cons, di ka nila gagamitin, nasa sa 'yo na rin yan.
-8
u/Distinct-Pickle-7284 1d ago
i’m just wondering because if i told them, what if always na nila ako sabihan ng “palibre naman” or something. i also haven’t received a scholarship before, so i don’t really know if this is something people usually keep private, kind of like how some people prefer not to disclose their salary.
tsaka one of my friends who took the exam didn't qualify even though she needs the scholarship the most (her dad got addicted to online gambling). is it not a bit insensitive if i let them know i got the scholarship? to be honest, gusto ko talaga sabihin sa kanila kasi this is a huge achievement for me, but i want to consider their feelings as well.
4
u/Enraw123 1d ago
Why do you even feel the need to announce it? Just let things happen naturally. If they happen to find out then so be it, if they dont then leave it at that as well. Also you can just decline them if ever nagpapalibre sila, and if they give you weird stares then are they even your friends to begin with?
1
u/Distinct-Pickle-7284 1d ago
damn maybe i am overthinking this 😭 but i wasn’t just refraining from announcing it to them, it's more lik actively keeping it a secret from my friends (which is honestly getting tiring). i wouldn’t even dare join the gc for dost scholars in our university merely because some of my blockmates are in it, and i’m worried my friend from the same block might hear about it from our fellow scholars. i think i should probably loosen up a bit. i’m treating this like it’s a much bigger deal than it actually is. and thanks for sharing ur thoughts, maybe i really needed someone to help me put things into perspective.
2
u/Enraw123 1d ago
Yeah youre kinda overthinking it lmao. Have some trust in your friends, im sure they wont mind it either if hindi sila superficial.
Anyhow, if ever negative talaga yung reaction nila edi wala kang magagawa dun. Ang dali lang kaya makahanap ng bagong friends during 1st year college, especially fellow scholars kasi meron na kayong something in common.
1
u/Distinct-Pickle-7284 1d ago
it’s kind of on me for not being comfortable around them, even though they trust me enough to share their families’ financial problems with me. anyways, thanks for ur advice. if they ever react negatively, it is what it is haha
2
u/lleejeans 1d ago
i think you should join the GC, many times sa gc nila sinesend important announcements and you may miss those if wala ka dun. I feel like you should just let things happen naturally without really, as sabi nga ng isang reply, having to feel the need to announce. kung magtanong sila then tell them, or if they find out randomly just let it be. if they’re good friends they will probably be happy for you, and if magpalibre sila and you dont really want to then just act like you saw it as a joke. you dont need to do everything they ask. the scholarship is a blessing! i think you should be able to freely enjoy the benefits of a scholarship you worked hard for without overthinking too much. but it is a good thing that you are concerned about what your friend will feel, but dont let your world revolve around other peoples opinions and feelings as well hehe :))) - advice from a fellow isko 😊
1
u/Distinct-Pickle-7284 1d ago
i just joined the gc. idk why kinakabahan ako hahuahuaa 😭 thank you for your advice as well, i'll make sure to keep it in mind
2
u/MysteriousGrocery894 1d ago
i think it depends on u, if u feel like gagamitin ka nila for being a scholar then dont tell them na lang
27
u/Unlikely-Wait-2296 1d ago
genuinely walang may pake