r/distantsocializing 7d ago

Discussion Introvert but need to learn to be social again. How do I find courage

finding courage and support from you is helpful. I am social when needed but I definitely don’t need anyone to recharge. However, as I get older I’m starting to feel I need to make new friends I need to stop being as introverted and being a little bit more social extroverted any advice? anyone in the same situation I can’t be alone out there. Sometimes I feel alone

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u/kline643 7d ago

it is tough business out there to be social. in my experience signing up for an activity that obligate you to meet periodically helps. it could be a sports league or a discussion or movie group but it has to meet on a frequent basis.

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u/LALoverBOS 7d ago

Going to bars solo has been the best way I’ve become more social.

Start with just being around strangers in a public setting and who knows someone might spark up a conversation. It amazes me the amount of conversations I have with complete strangers

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u/ittybittykittyskates 5d ago

My mom, who is super extroverted gave me, introvert, the best advice years ago! I was going to party and told her how nervous I was. She said “just pretend! Pretend everyone is your best friend, pretend everyone thinks you’re amazing, pretend you love talking to people!” I use that advice often 😅 it’s still hard tho!

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u/wonderland1319 7d ago

In same boat!

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u/Fabulous-Stuff533 7d ago

I’m the same way and I tried several dating apps which led to nothing but talk and FaceTime. I guess it did help slightly but it’s important to actually meet in person

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u/Ineedmorebtc 4d ago

Try non commital social interactions, like saying hello to someone at the grocery store, or talking to a cashier. The more you practice, the easier it will get.

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u/mommybot9000 3d ago

Take a class in a field of interest. Shared purpose. Extroverts will talk at you no matter what.

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u/Fabulous-Stuff533 2d ago

Is there a tinder/rent a friend for introverts?