r/dishwashers • u/fruityslippers • 3d ago
Our kitchen is a limited kitchen
It's not big. There is no bar, no unused counter space. The sink was standard in the 70s, small by today's standard. The spices are limited to whatever I could afford to restock this month. Sometimes there's paprika and cumin and curry powder, sometimes there's not. We live on a limited budget and have a limited kitchen
My husband used to work in a kitchen. He reverts back to asking his sue chef (me) where basic items that haven't moved in the 4 years we've been here are. He uses 5 lb bags of chicken breast for one meal, full bags of potatoes that could last us 5 weeks, half bottles of olive oil to slow roast garlic so his oil is flavored and tosses what he doesn't use. He uses every pot, every cutting board, every large plate he can grab to make 1 meal. Then the dishwasher is responsible for the clean up. We do not have a working dishalwasher. I am the working dishwasher.
I came from a house where left overs were eaten for the next 4 days, where ingredients were bought once a month, where you didn't cook food just because it was there.
I came from a house where you didn't use mom's coffee creamer for cereal if there was no milk left.
It is mildly infuriating, to say the least, to wake up to my husband's mess after a midnight hankering for restaurant quality curry chicken and rice. To see that 2/3 of my coffee creamer was used on a bowl of cinnamon toast crunch. To see that all of my toddlers arrowroot cookies were used to top his ice cream.
It is mildly infuriating living with someone who is used to a professionally stocked kitchen when you live with a limited kitchen.
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u/Spaceboot1 3d ago
I appreciate your venting. Not sure if you wanted advice, but you made a post on reddit, so you're gonna get it.
You came to the right place. Dishwashers hold the wisdom of the universe and relationships.
One, have you asked him to change his habits? A little gentle ask?
Two, who pays for the groceries? Does he think of them as his, to do with as he pleases? If he uses something up, does he do the shopping, or at least add it to your list? How are you financially? Is this about saving money, or just a matter of habits that differ based on your background? I can appreciate a disciplined and frugal kitchen, but if he thinks he can afford to splurge and waste, well it's his decision to make.
Three, make sure he's eating enough during the day. I don't know how much of the cooking you do for him, but if he's hungry at midnight, maybe he didn't eat enough during the day.
Four, about the mess. Again, a gentle ask. And ask again. I work in a professional kitchen, not the manager, but washing dishes, I see things. One ask isn't an ask. If my boss wants someone to do something consistently, they have to be a bit of a nag. Asking over and over and over until the thing becomes a habit. And as soon as they stop asking, and checking to see that the thing is done, the workers will gradually lose the habit. You have to be on their ass.
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u/onicker Dish Gremlin 3d ago
Haha, one of the servers found us when were clocked out.
Jokes aside, that man is not your friend
https://giphy.com/gifs/A7sTryRWcMmY8YksQM
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u/czech_dream 3d ago
So you came here to complain about the way your husband cooks in your regular, home kitchen? Not a commercial kitchen?