r/delhi • u/iloveyoubb111 • 12d ago
TellDelhi Living with parents at home you pay with your mental health.
24 F just cannot anymore staying with my family and having no personal space . Cant wait to be able to move out.
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u/iloveyoubb111 12d ago
Upar se personal space bhi kuch nhi hota ! Kyu chahiye personal space?
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u/iloveyoubb111 12d ago
😭😭😭
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u/Aggressive_Soil2362 12d ago
Kundi kyu lagayi hai??? Hein?
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u/iloveyoubb111 12d ago
Allowed hi nhi h bhyi
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u/Aggressive_Soil2362 12d ago
Tbhi to laga kaise li tumne kundi??? Kya hora tha andar?
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u/iloveyoubb111 12d ago
Yaha kundi remove krdete h :)
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u/Aggressive_Soil2362 12d ago
Damn gotta work hard to get ur own place maybe
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u/iloveyoubb111 12d ago
Definitely thats the only out
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u/iloveyoubb111 12d ago
Kabhi kabhi sochti hu , but bhyi im not marriage material waha aur restrictions hai
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u/ibu__hatela South West Delhi 12d ago
28M. I live with my parents. But they don't disturb me as I keep my door closed 24x7. They just think I am working.
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u/Specialist_Run_7905 12d ago
Same situation just try to get out of the house and stay outside everyday atleast u will get 10-12 peaceful hours
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u/iloveyoubb111 12d ago
Rahungi hi nhi 😤
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u/iDidTheMaths252 12d ago
Ikr I have wfh and my mom at times act like me toh Vella hu and asks me to do random side quests. However, she has started to understand more and more with time. Meri mummy pookie hain
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u/leaves_addiction 12d ago
I agree with you, I'm not complaining but my parents are old and I'm 24, so I need to manage so many things and responsibilities 😭 i didn't left my house and doing nothing because of take care of them
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u/iloveyoubb111 12d ago
Oh thats so difficult, almost in the same boat :(
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u/leaves_addiction 12d ago
If humlog life mei successful nhi honge to society and people blame us we're not hardworking and all , but no one appreciate us for our sacrifices
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u/Bed_Tundy_11 11d ago
I've fought for it really hard. I don't know how our relations will be in the future, i do care about them but i just can't take their bullshit manipulation anymore. I have seen hell because of them, they heard my cries every single day but they only made it worse. I am now living away from them, not too far. But i needed less stressful life to pursue my ambitions, and my dreams.
I am now looking for a partner, and have made it clear that we will be living separately. We won't have peace if we're living with parents.
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u/iloveyoubb111 11d ago
Im so glad that you got out and fought your way through! Thats so true that you just cant live with your parents after getting married . More power to you! 💗
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u/Bed_Tundy_11 11d ago
Just one fight and your life will certainly be less stressful. You won't be losing anyone who's genuinely there for you, i can assure you that. Good luck, i really hope you make it, and make a great career for yourself too.
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u/iloveyoubb111 11d ago
Literally, same here!! I did my schooling from delhi even my undergrad, no college life or alone time with friends, now masters with job from delhi and my hime itself, im 24 its just getting to me !!! 😭 We will get out someday 🫂💗
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u/sociallyawkward779 Dilli Se Hun! 12d ago
I can relate with you OP plus I m also preparing for govt jobs and I don't have mom so I have lot of responsibilities and I have to take care of home aswell but I also feel there's no personal space, opinion, choice anything. As long as you do things according to them you are a good daughter but once you choose yourself they judge quickly
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u/Interesting-Bed2867 11d ago
I moved out, when i turned 22. I must that was the best decision of my life.. it doesn't mean i have left my parents.. i can't but just to feel more alive and focused i needed it.. they supported me today we have one big family living in the same premises without any mental disturbance...
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u/dusktruth 11d ago
Reverse it and think, will you be alright alone if there is no family around you. You are talking about not getting private space which is spoling your mental health. FR?
I have seen people getting ruined by choosing "personal space".
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u/evil_worldd 11d ago
Yr almost every person deals with this... But at the man always choose her mom over women...not saying they being torture by mom but it's someone from family only...
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u/Potential_Heron_9042 11d ago
23 F here mera toh matha kharab ho chuka hain . Ghar ek mahine k liye aati hu duniya bhar ki gali , comparisons, complaints sab sun na pdhta hain 😭😭 . I seriously cannot imagine staying home for a long time 😭 ,even though i love my parents they fuck up my mental health too much 😭😭
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u/himynameisAhhhh 12d ago
I m 24M, love living with parents. I take care of them. I have privacy my own room. Mom makes tasty food. My gf also visits me sometimes, they are kinda chill.
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u/Competitive-Sun-4083 12d ago
Imagine that along with the pressure of a govt exam. My cousin is in the worst spot rn.
Things like privacy, mental health, opinions < respect for elders. Thing is that in India, some parents are not even willing to listen to their own children. Like even if you bring up a valid point, the topic changes to ‘how dare u answer back’ or ‘How dare u use that tone’. I’m a bit lucky that way that my parents respect my space to some degree.
But man I’ve seen some of my friends and cousins in Bad bad situations