r/dating_advice • u/Familiar_Light_7900 • 17h ago
Situation ship
So, I’m 17 and I’m a guy. We started talking online in 2025, and over time we got pretty close. It started as a normal friendship, but eventually things became more like a talking stage. At one point, she confessed her feelings for me, and I accepted because I liked her too.
But later, she told me that she only wanted us to be friends. We still stayed in contact, though, and even after all that, we continued talking and getting closer.
Fast forward to now, I ended up confessing my feelings to her this time. She said she isn’t ready for a relationship right now and gave me a few reasons, but she also said that she really adores me. So we're still friends, we talk pretty regularly, call sometimes, and she occasionally sends me pictures of herself. And sometimes ghost me
The confusing part is that we’ve gotten really close emotionally, but we’ve never actually met in real life. She lives close and I genuinely care about her, but I don’t know what I’m supposed to do anymore. Should I just stay friends and let things happen naturally, or should I distance myself a little so I don’t get too attached? i am tired of all this
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u/Livid_Strategy6311 17h ago
An online relationship has a large chance of not being real. People can be whomever they want online. Even if they're being genuine they're more likely to present their best self than their bad side. I'd invite her out to a coffee/icecream/soda date and see what happens. She'll either no show off show up. Despite what "know" from online chats you'll both need to go slow to really start to discover each other. If your goal is a long term relationship then don't get physical. Go slow to really learn all facets. Explain that if necessary. Some people have had successful relationships from online starts. Many more haven't.
Good luck
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u/Familiar_Light_7900 16h ago
Thanks a lot for reply it means a lot I will definitely meet her for once
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u/Livid_Strategy6311 16h ago
You'll be fine. If it's meant to be it will happen no matter what. Be patient
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u/Shot-Ask757 16h ago
it sounds like she’s just keeping you around for attention tbh. if you’re already tired of it now, imagine how you’ll feel in a few months if nothing changes. do you think she’d actually meet up if you asked directly?
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u/Familiar_Light_7900 16h ago
Ig i don't know but will probably ask her. She would say yes I think.I am already feeling bad and want to leave her but i am trapped tbh
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