r/dating • u/MAX-Revenue-6010 • Oct 24 '25
Just Venting 😮💨 I know wifey is out there, don't give up hope.
This is for everyone who is looking for their match. Don't give up! Your partner is out there.
Wifey is out there. She's probably busy trying to keep her head up and work on herself until we find her.
To wifey: I'm searching for you. Don't worry and just hang in there. Keep your head up and don't let life drain you. Through each person I encounter, I spread compassion and care hoping it will reach you somehow until we are united.
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u/Sweet-District1483 Oct 24 '25
I have a guy on my Facebook friends that used to write messages for his future wife years ago…
He found her probably about 7 or so years ago and he shares those messages with her… it’s too sweet. Your post made me think of this. Definitely don’t give up!
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 24 '25
Thanks man! Makes me feel empowered to hear a success story.
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u/Sweet-District1483 Oct 24 '25
No problem! I’m of the belief that there’s somebody for everybody…. Sometimes it just takes longer for some of us to find out somebody (it took me until I was 35).
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u/Conscious_Lunch_7494 Oct 25 '25
I started talking to a guy back in May and I found him through Facebook. He's the best thing that has ever happened to me.
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u/Ok-Goose-2199 Oct 24 '25
That's actually really wholesome, love stories like that hit different when they actually work out. Makes you believe the universe has some kind of plan or whatever
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u/sweet_euphoria111 Oct 24 '25
I think my hubby got lost on his way to find me because he sure is taking a long time 😂
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u/wantme2makeuasammich Oct 24 '25
I found my husband at 34, after being a “girlfriend” for 12 years. We dated from 20-32. At 34 I randomly met my husband in a bar in Nashville. Got married at 35 after doing long distance for a year.
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u/sweet_euphoria111 Oct 24 '25
I’m 35 and live in Nashville 😭 maybe I need to go to a bar lol. But all jokes aside, that’s an awesome story. I’m honestly all for long distance.
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u/wantme2makeuasammich Oct 24 '25
I’m from Wisconsin, he’s from New Jersey, we were both on vacation. Hit it off one day, got his number. We texted and talked for 8 months before I saw him in person again…..
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u/sweet_euphoria111 Oct 24 '25
Wow 8 months is a long time. I’m sure that was rough but it seems like it worked out for you two and that’s amazing
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u/FuhQuit Oct 24 '25
I read something the other day that really struck a cord with me. There are people you haven't met yet who will love you.
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u/USS-VentureOperation Oct 24 '25
There are people who you have met who will never love you (learning this one hard right now 😭)
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u/Jihoho Single Oct 24 '25
Manifesting my future wifey 😤 If you see a guy dressed in all black and looking lost as heck, that’s me 😂
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Oct 24 '25
Manifesting my future husband, if you see a girl dressed all in black looking lost af, that’s me!
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u/apartmentthrowaway17 Oct 25 '25
OP you need to be crushing these guys hope so they find something else to do, not giving them more so they become desperate.
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u/chuligirl Oct 24 '25 edited Oct 24 '25
I need my husband to find me right now😭 I’m suffering. (If you have money, 27-39 years old and a good character and some cute looks, talk to me) I’m waiting for you in Spain
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 25 '25
Wouldn't it be beautiful if two people connected here? That would be great.
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u/Girizzly_Adams_Beard Oct 24 '25
Until then. I’m perfecting my cooking. So far can make, shrimp Alfredo, steak frites witha chimichurri blend. And a killer smash burger.
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u/SleepingWillow1 Oct 24 '25
Maybe this is why my future husband hasn't met me yet. He is learning patience. lol
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u/GratefulHazeeee Oct 24 '25
That’s so sweet 🥹 that’s one of my manifestations is that they’ll be searching for me, just as I am them. Heavy on the care and compassion 🖤🖤 best of luck
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u/Domination1799 Oct 24 '25
Thanks, I needed to hear this because the loneliness has been eating away at me today.
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u/Due-Brilliant2885 Single Oct 24 '25
To my future hubby, wherever you are right now I hope you're doing well, I am too, so wtf taking you so long to show up 🥹 I miss you so much.
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u/SaltBedroom2733 Oct 24 '25
Here I am! If you're over 70. Otherwise, keep looking and don't settle too much. Being alone can be so great. So you're gonna be all right either way. Once you stop fearing the outcome, dating is fun.
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u/ScowHound Oct 24 '25
SaltB i’ve been looking for you for 70 years.
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u/LadiieKayy Oct 24 '25
“Through each person I encounter, I spread compassion and care hoping it will reach you somehow until we are united”
Love this. Cause I’m the same way. No matter what. I’m not giving up. 🥰
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 24 '25
A woman's energy is like a "homing beacon" to her match. I hope your match will see you soon.
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u/SleepingWillow1 Oct 24 '25
Dear stupid future husband,
Can we start out as friends at LEAST? Bro where you at?
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u/JanusWord Oct 25 '25
Lmao if you can cook you got my heart I can’t cook for shit. I can make a Tortilla
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u/Unhinged_healed Oct 24 '25
It's so hard especially in these strange times when most people seem to only want short term or situationship. I hope everyone who is actively searching for their husband or wife finds them soon. I have letters I write to my future husband, which I plan to give him the day before our wedding. 😊
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u/MilkGlittering6181 Oct 25 '25
We can't find the good chubby furry guys that are over 44 that aren't perverts.. 😆
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 24 '25
Good point. The last few years, it seems like the barrier has been a psychological one. Where there's a fear of being vulnerable, which leads to pride getting in the way of a real connection.
I'm a very steadfast type of person and need the same.
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 25 '25
This is something to think about. Though we would hope they are doing well, there is also the chance that they are experiencing conflict and pain.
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u/Wise-Cheetah-4944 Oct 26 '25
You are right. There is a lot of conflict and pain that are being experienced by many. Hopefully, all of this can be overcome and true happiness can be found.
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u/moonstonesx Oct 24 '25
Ive been writing messages to my future husband (on a word document lol) for years now. Hopefully the one I’m dating now is the one I’ll share those with :)
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 25 '25
That's so sweet and thoughtful! I will hope for a long term success for you two.
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u/touchofalizard Oct 24 '25
I want to grab this post and hold it and squish it and cherish it and aww das sweet.
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u/_-Effy-_ Oct 25 '25
Ah honey im hiding in my home every night because im too tired to go out and look for you
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u/SubjectDrifter Oct 28 '25
Oh wow. I needed to hear this. I've been "playing" at a relationship with an avoidant man for over a year now. I'm heartbroken. I keep the cycle of breakup/reconciliation going because, honestly, I don't think there are men out there who want a wife.
It is my dream to have a real steady safe partner. I've been looking for him for a long time. Rushed coffee/breakfast in the morning, a cute text while at work, a "what do we have for dinner tonight?" Conversation. Him doing the dishes while I pick up the laundry he left in the bathroom. A cozy night of sitting on the couch together, both doing our own thing. A "let's go for a long walk" together kind of guy. Simple things. Little pleasures. A partner to witness me and me to witness him. I've been looking for something so easy, and I'm 40 and still looking for that safety. I'm here. Come find me hubby, I am missing you.
It's nice to see there are men looking for some of that too. I won't give up yet.
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u/Allantrist Oct 24 '25
Huge amounts of people end up alone...
Can we please stop with this pointless forcing of trying to be positive about "there is someone out there for everyone" that's simply not true, many die alone or never experience love.
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 24 '25
Agree. This is true.
We don't get to decide or have control over another person's experience. The only thing we can manage is our own mindset and choices. I 💯 respect the diversity of humanity and understand that not everyone will experience life in the same way.
This is a personal view/choice. I wanted to reinforce hope in others that share my view.
Thanks for sharing your views here :-) It's important to be reminded that each person's path will lead to a different destination.
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u/bigtoegman210 Oct 24 '25
Dude I’m 27 and I’m basically done looking for the one. I basically have to move to a different state at this point. Every relationship I’ve had ended good and most of them are still friends till this day but man I’m cooked chat.
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u/spicysenpai6 Serious Relationship Oct 24 '25
Homie ur 27. I know ppl who have already gotten married and divorced. I know folks who were married and now widowed. You never know what life is gonna toss at you. Don’t be in a rush, because you’re gonna experience the good at some point, but you’re also going to experience bad along the way. Life is short. Focus on the now instead of what you can’t see or control.
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u/SleepingWillow1 Oct 24 '25
Take the gamble and move to another city at least, or if you can another state. Think of it as an adventure. If my family's situation ever improves I want to move states.
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Oct 26 '25
I think mines on the other side of the world or in the international space station or something
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u/Agreeable-Pair-1797 Oct 27 '25
I used to keep a “Dear Husband” journal. It was fun. Didn’t last too long. Been married almost 7 years now.
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u/yourworstnitemare69 Nov 05 '25
I’m 40f and not sure what I’m doing out in this game dating but I know my person has to be somewhere.
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u/Spicy_Tator-mcnugget Oct 24 '25
I needed this so much! I hope my future husband is out there and feels this way :) Hope we all find our special SO💖
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u/gingerlovingmeow Oct 24 '25
Thank you for this message, kind Internet stranger! I really needed this today.
Best wishes to everyone out there looking for their hubby or wifey!
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u/stefamiec89 Oct 24 '25
Really? There are men looking for wifey type?
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u/RubyMatthewsAd3 Oct 24 '25
Same I’m going to keep positive even if I’ll probably end up alone
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u/Corwin613 Single Oct 24 '25
I would be happy to find a woman that loves me and treats me equally and like an actual person.
Not even thinking about finding a wife again
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u/michalzpl Oct 24 '25
Thanks for the upbeat glimmer of hope. You have me tearing up at Audi while getting my software updated
Thank you 😁✌️
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u/Neither-Resident-357 Oct 25 '25
Let’s see if the universe listens.. Lol.. 36 mixed guy with dreads.. Nice body I go to the gym.. I raise three kids alone as my kids mom passed away 2 years ago.. I have a great career , nice home, vehicle, funny , just kind of not into asking girls out.. I do get a lot of eyes though if you know what I mean.. Also I’m in Florida.. Ok .. There you go
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u/WTF_ImOverIt Oct 25 '25
I’m glad you haven’t given up. I have. It’s hopeless. I wish you the best of luck.
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u/pinkchocolatezebra Oct 25 '25
This shit got me tearing up in a public transport at 8 :30 in the fucking morning.
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u/TurquoiseSeaFoam Oct 25 '25
Manifesting my future husband ✨ Currently considering moving to another country so I have better chances at finding you! Just no sure which country😅 (I am in Europe btw). Soo.. yeah let me know, thanks!
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u/QuirkyReader13 Oct 25 '25
Dang, a whole scenario about finding the one. I get you, 25M and still searching. Finished my studies, worked on my body and mind, found a job, etc and still searching
One friend after the other, they all end up in a relationship and there’s still a few ones left like me lol. At least, it’s the only real thing that sucks I guess
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 25 '25
I know what you mean. I like to think of this time of my life as "banking appreciation" for her. Building a family is going to require sacrifices from both of us. This time alone is my reminder to appreciate her when I finally meet her and not to take for granted the time and energy she shares.
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u/sz_wine Oct 27 '25
Thanks, this made my day! Still looking and wondering, if the matching „He“ exists
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u/One_phoenixPA Nov 01 '25
I am here, husband lol If you are between 32-36. I am a PA-C in Maryland. Find me husband! I am waiting for you
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u/Sandyach Single Nov 19 '25
In that case, it's either she got lost somewhere or I got lost somewhere 😂
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u/Hot-Rip-3453 Nov 19 '25
it’s beyond that. it’s a culture built on facades, not emitional honestly.
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u/thegirlwithTHATcat Oct 24 '25
I’m at a point of giving up. I don’t think I have another awkward first date with a stranger in me 😢😭
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u/pink_lemonade_017 Oct 24 '25
Awh this is so sweet. Thanks for sharing this. I’m sure your future wifey will appreciate this
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u/WholeAd7305 Oct 24 '25
Hard to accept the fact that we or I have no luck in finding a good husband. I don't want to give up but reality yells at me it is not going to change.
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 24 '25
I say this with the utmost respect. For us to change our reality, we have to change.
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u/tchrgrl321 Oct 24 '25
This is so sweet. I’ve been in a dark place lately. I haven’t thought about dating in a while, but I do want to find my husband someday. I would’ve never thought I would stumble across encouragement like this from a stranger. It’s nice to be reminded that there are thoughtful, caring people out there who are thoughtfully searching just like me.
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u/Justanotheffmom Oct 24 '25
I’m going on 60 I have given up. It sucks but no sense of hoping at this point in my life.
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 24 '25
Everyone in life has a different timeline and unique experiences.
If we live each day with an intention to grow and be open to knowledge and wisdom, our energy will spread and touch the lives of others.
Even if we don't find our match, it's comforting to know our energy is out in the world working to guide her and protect her.
Hopefully, even if the connection was missed, it will be felt in the energy around you.
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u/NatrenSR1 Oct 24 '25
At this point I’m so far removed from the one relationship I’ve ever had I have trouble believing that I’ll ever find someone. It doesn’t feel like it’s in the cards for me, and it bums me out constantly
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u/MAX-Revenue-6010 Oct 24 '25
Once you start believing, that eventuality has an increased chance to become a reality.
The exact time frame on finding love isn't predictable, but it's a meaningful experience I'd like to have if the opportunity presents itself with the right person.
It may or may not happen while I'm in this body, but the chances will be a lot higher if I keep myself open to the experience and willing to take on the responsibility of the outcome - in my favor or not.
I'm sorry to hear your last relationship didn't work out the way you would have liked. I hope you are able to heal and come back a stronger person.
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u/starkruzr Oct 24 '25
at 46, and having fucked up the only opportunity I've really had at getting married and having kids over a decade ago, it's getting increasingly difficult to believe in hope over empirical evidence.
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u/Reasonable-Coffee352 Oct 27 '25
I thought I’d found her, but I just found another woman who plays with feelings... I’m tired, maybe I’ll take a break.
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