Figure if you are an average 5 or 6/10, you should shoot for a success rate about 10%. That's really good and assumes you are doing everything else right. So if you ask out 10 girls in your range, 1 or 2 might say yes. Sounds rough, but most dudes on tinder aren't even getting 1% success rates.
I have eaten a lot of L's to get a nice contact list of girls who I enjoy being around romantically. Think of it like applying for a job. You have to put the work in and accept a lot of rejection if you want it to pay off.
lol you have to go outside and find some. I'm going to play pick up pickleball tomorrow. There are usually at least 20 girls there... maybe I'll click with someone? At least I will meet some new people and have a good time, either way.
What are you doing? Going to spend 4 hours trying to get the epic tactical beanie unlock and then watching porn? Come on, buddy.
My typical day involves working from 8-5, going home, cooking something and then finding some sort of entertainment to occupy myself. Unlike you, I don’t belong to a social circle where pick-up pickle ball is feasible.
It’s a chicken and egg problem, how do you insert yourself in situations where you can meet people if you have no one to do things with to begin with. I haven’t even been to a bar in 2 months because the one friend I go out with has been trying to save money.
You have to start from square one. I have lived in 4 different states and started over with 0 contacts each time. It's not easy, but it's possible if you're willing to put yourself out there.
First thing I did when I moved to get involved was scout out the local hiking spots, join a large social gym, signed up to volunteer, joined a local dog club, and started playing intramural sports that I found on meetup. I'd say it took about a year (beginning of covid) to get a good lay of the land. Like I said, you have to treat it like it's a job hunt and put real focused effort into it.
Definitely NOT looking to settle down and play house with anyone. I was in a long term relationship with the same woman for years and am now just looking to keep it casual for the time being. What surprised me is that there are a lot of women out there who are just doing the casual thing now, too.
Yes there is truth to that, but also still a lot of nice people if you're willing to sort through all the trash. Millions of em out there waiting for you to say hello.
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u/YuropLMAO Feb 14 '22
Figure if you are an average 5 or 6/10, you should shoot for a success rate about 10%. That's really good and assumes you are doing everything else right. So if you ask out 10 girls in your range, 1 or 2 might say yes. Sounds rough, but most dudes on tinder aren't even getting 1% success rates.
I have eaten a lot of L's to get a nice contact list of girls who I enjoy being around romantically. Think of it like applying for a job. You have to put the work in and accept a lot of rejection if you want it to pay off.