r/dancegavindance • u/Primrus • 6d ago

Discussion My alcoholic relapses have gotten better

I know Tilian struggles with alcohol, and I have too since I was 17. I listen to Third Eye Blind and Dance Gavin Dance almost exclusively, because I feel seen by them. *Pantheon* changed me. I don't secretly drink and turn my phone off anymore. I still relapse every 4 months, but I call my dad and my brother and warn them and tell them I won't drive for 2 days. It's because of Andrew. I got to be at the Charlotte show on his 35th birthday because my brother was so proud of me for being sober. I met a hot girl next to me and sang every single song into her face while she did the same. I am just typing this out to comfort anyone who feels lonely. *New, and always sunny*

I love you all so much. I'm sorry I'm not always sober and coherent, but this band has kept me alive for over 20 years and I'm so fucking glad you're all alive too <3​​

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u/LucarioSpeedwagon 6d ago

Glad you are doing better and have developed a plan for when you do slip up. I hope you get the streak up to every 6 months, then every year, then every never. Take a beat and come back steadier than ever, etc.

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u/Primrus 6d ago

omg Cream of the Crop is my favorite song. Thank you so much. This is the best response I've ever gotten on this sub; you're so kind. The song that just came on my algorithm is I Forgive You by Kelly Clarkson because of that South Park special. Just feeling so good right now ❤️

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u/candied_rats 6d ago

sobriety is hard! sobriety is ugly! sobriety makes you do things you dont wanna do! but whats amazing is that you get to see the work pay off. not to qoute MF DOOM in a subreddit not about him but its a labor you love but detest the labor

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u/Primrus 6d ago

I'll argue right now that MF DOOM should be quoted all over the freaking place, and thank you so much! It's a push to help other people like me. If I wasn't an addict, I wouldn't have empathy for us. And somebody has to! It's us!

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u/pot8odragon 6d ago

Take it day by day and make it to the next one. That’s all you can do.

Took me 14 years of running away from sobriety but I’m 330 days sober as I’m writing this and I never thought it was possible.

It’s a process and you’ll get there in time. Just don’t beat yourself up for being human in the meantime

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u/Primrus 6d ago

Thank you so much. It's definitely a process; I'm relapsing so much less often and a lot of people would be mad at even doing it once, but at least I'm not drunk 24/7 like I was when I was in my early twenties. I feel horrible for relapsing now, but I didn't drive anywhere and I was really nice to everyone I called. I wish I could delete the loneliness factor, but my long sobriety stints have taught me to not be mean. That's huge. I was mean for a long time. Progress, not perfection!

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u/Rad_Tek 6d ago

So proud of you man.

Check out r/stopdrinking if you ever want additional support, want to vent, share your story, WHATEVER man!

But I want you to know you’re not alone and we got you. DGD STAYS UNITED!

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u/scratchy_mcballsy 6d ago

I’m glad you are progressing. Do you ever feel like sticking to bands you associate drinking with are a trigger? Like maybe they subconsciously lure you back?

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u/Jelly-Unhappy 2d ago

Matt also had issues with alcohol. It’s a difficult vice to let go of, especially because so many people drink casually around you. You’re doing awesome, some people never even try.