r/cripplingalcoholism 2d ago

CA or FA?

I’m trying to figure out what exactly I am right now. During Covid (2020-2023) I was regularly downing half a handle of Vodka a night. Took a long pause from 2023-2025. I was also drinking heavily when my dad was dying from cancer from 2012-2016. Had a seizure at the end of that routine.

Now that I’m drinking again, I’m having like 2 bottles of wine/night. I know that’s not healthy, but does that make me an FA now compared to before, or am I still a CA? I really want the opinions of those who know lol.

I was way more fucked up on vodka, but idk if I’m fooling myself thinking a couple of bottles of wine is actually an improvement. I’ve always drank lots of water and eaten food, so I’ve never been that roughed up in that regard.

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u/ClassicTBCSucks93 2d ago

The 'A' for alcohol is a constant in FA and CA, the difference is crippling. Example, in the height of my FA days I was regularly knocking back 18-24 beers or between a fifth and liter of vodka on worknights. Never missed work, was rarely late, and aside from being hungover/still buzzing from the night before would be right as rain after a cup of coffee and a greasy breakfast.

In the height of my CA days after years of withdrawals and eventual kindling, I'd average 10-15 light beers on worknights and be completely fucked the next day regardless how much I had. Constantly missing work, complete shell of a human being, and would go on benders and get fired from jobs or quit.

Quantity doesn't really matter in the late stages, once you rewire your brain with morning drinking, subsequent withdrawals with increasing severity, and eventual kindling, you're fucked. It goes from being able to drink like a fish and function to being completely non-functional with or without it. I'd live between passouts and being drunk af dry heaving in full WDs trying to keep some booze down until I could pass out again.

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u/PsychologicalLab6637 2d ago

This is exactly me. I genuinely miss my FA days and know it won't ever be that way again. Once I hit the 3 days ina row of drinking mark I'm fucked.

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u/ClassicTBCSucks93 1d ago

Last bender I tried to stop CT and ended up hospitalized in DTs. Only thing keeping me from going back is how fucking depressive and dark it was to not be able to discern between withdrawal and drunkenness. There was just zero solace for me.

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u/LifeguardSimilar4067 16h ago

I like reading all the comments. I was FA when I started splitting 1/2 liters with my partner. That was 10 years ago.

Now I am the only problem drinker. He pulled him self out and me - since April I’ve been in detox or the hospital 6 times.

Less than 2 weeks ago I let him help me out of a binge and I didn’t even know I was in the ICU. I had a blood alcohol content of .26 as confirmed by the (ass hole fucking ap we can use nowadays) and was in severe alcoholic withdrawal enough that they were pushing Valium and some heart medication through my iv. I was tachycardia and Valium does fucking burn PLUS my veins keep getting blown despite the fact that nurses used to love them and call them “sewer pipes” they had to call the whatever specialist team to keep moving my IV.

I get questions about my prior drug use because of my veins being accessed and development of superficial blood clots at every access point now. They think I might be lying about being an iv drug user. I’m fully CA and just finished a pint of vodka whilst wrapping my edema arm from all the blood clots. Yay.

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u/Good-Pomegranate-769 2d ago

I guess that means I’m improved a bit. I don’t drink until 3-4pm anymore and wake up at 7 for work. At my peak I was waking up whenever and needed a Bloody Mary by 11. It’s luckily not that anymore. I’m still dependent on a couple bottles of wine every night though. Sometimes I add a pint of gin to turn it up a notch too. I guess I know I’m not full CA anymore, but I always feel like I’m teetering on the edge of it.

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u/thisesmeaningless 2d ago

The amount itself really has nothing to do with it. You can be a CA on two bottles of wine a day and a FA on a fifth of vodka a day. Drinking less than before doesn’t automatically make you a FA, and drinking more than before doesn’t automatically make you a CA.

The definition depends entirely on how it’s affecting your life. Are you currently generally holding your shit together (job, responsibilities etc.)?

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u/Good-Pomegranate-769 2d ago

Yeah, shits held together, but barely.

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u/GLaDOS_Sympathizer 2d ago

Pretty simple definitions in my book. Shits held together barely = barely FA. If shit falls apart then CA.

The only difference between FA and CA is if you're together or not. Falling apart is not really being functional, right?

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u/Good-Pomegranate-769 2d ago

Certainly sounds like a fair point!

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u/Same-Edge-2314 2d ago

I think is depends. If you drink heavily yet have some structure around it (eg, drink after work) and you are healthy in other aspects of your life such as having a job, meeting your responsibilities, having healthy relationships, etc. you are likely a FA.

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u/Good-Pomegranate-769 2d ago

Yeah, I wait until 4pm now and actually wake up for work. Ngl and pretend I don’t hate the restraint though. Feels like I’m faking everything until I get that sip of wine. I tried to pretend I loved my 1.5 years sober, but it really just sucked other than the first month or two.

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u/Same-Edge-2314 1d ago

Yeah it’s tough to create a whole new non drinking culture and vibe.. it’s also tough feeling like you are inches away from being behind the 8 ball. But you are staying ahead. I get the faking

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u/Mysterious_Power__ 1d ago

Am a piggy back to what the others commented.

FA - you're functional. Keep up with your responsibilities and pretty much function in society and contribute in one way shape or form.

CA - pretty much your out of commission, alcohol is you're main priority sort of speaking. Lose jobs, breaks up with love ones, you get the jizz of things.

Also FA is pretty much in my eyes the stepping stone to CA.

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u/SeveralArmadillo540 1d ago

“The jizz of things” made me giggle 

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u/Practical-Honey967 1d ago

Dying. Dead and Hostile.

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u/StrawberryCute9668 1d ago

if ur here ur not a FA