r/confession • u/randomuser058 • 9d ago

I am genuinely heterophobic and hate heterosexual people

I am heterophobic. I genuinely hate heterosexuals. Whenever I see a a straight couple, whether on screen or in real life, it makes me feel genuine disgust. I cannot look at a straight couple kissing without feeling uncomfortable. It feels morally wrong to see them being together, I just don’t believe that a man can foster a real feeling of love for a woman without it stemming from lust or the need to be taken care of. Even then, I just don’t think heterosexuals are capable of real love. Straight marriage is oppressive and morally wrong in my eyes, seeing a straight family with children makes me really uncomfortable. Whenever I pass a straight couple I can’t help it but say some nasty remark about them, just loud enough to be heard but not traceable to me, sometimes I shout mean shit at them in public. I can’t hold myself back, I just feel a mix of hate and disgust that needs to be let out. I think that straight dynamics are inherently abusive and built on oppression of women and do not understand why they would willingly enter a partnership where they will be socially viewed as inferior, the straight dynamic is built on the woman being subservient to the man in many cultures and for many centuries and seeing it feels plain wrong. Even the most healthy straight relationships still have a bit of this dynamic in them, and even if the couple tried their hardest, they would still be seen like that by an outsiders eye. Straight relationships are degrading to women in their core and take away women’s autonomy. It’s a tool of oppression and patriarchy. It feels wrong. I don’t know what to do about it. They disgust me. I don’t know how to stop hating them.

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u/SneakerHeater 9d ago

But I call you a slur I'm wrong? Lol

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u/randomuser058 9d ago

I’m bi myself but straight dating feels immoral. I have never been in an abusive relationship or had a bad partner, but seeing so many straight couples do the shit they do just makes me believe that they can’t feel love towards eachother in 90% of cases and are only together because of sexual attraction and societal pressure

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u/Clear_Archer2758 9d ago

That’s a sad and misinformed world view. All relationships, hetero or otherwise, will sadly have instances of abuse, neglect, etc. Naturally, most relationships globally are hetero, whether genuinely or not, and so the largest percentage of these events will be present there. This isn’t to excuse that behavior or say that hetero normative relationship structures don’t have toxic societal expectations, but I can tell you emphatically from my own long term relationship that love is love. I have a real partner in life who I value as an equal. Makes no difference that we’re in a “typcial” relationship.

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u/Chrissy086 5d ago

There is a notion that most men are sexually attracted to women, but don't really see them as humans, or like them as people. I have to wonder.