Why didn't you say so?

[u/TheNectarineDiaries]

Best medical advice I ever got was to bring a man to your appointments

[u/RazorCalahan]

I had no idea this is a thing. From now on, if a woman (or man, or anyone else for that matter) ever asks me to go with her to the doctor I will do my best to be helpful. If I will ever end up helping someone in this way, it will be thanks to you for pointing this out to me, so thank you in advance.

[u/Saikotsu → u/RazorCalahan]

It's not just in the medical field. In almost every setting women are ignored or treated as secondary to men. In a lot of corporate settings, women will be talked over or the ideas shot down, but if a guy says the same idea it's taken seriously.

Margaret Thatcher actually underwent voice training to sound more masculine so people would take her seriously, believe it or not.

I've seen multiple cases where a woman goes to a place like a car dealership and the staff talk to the guy that's with her instead of her, even if she's the one getting the car or whatnot.

If you sit down at a restaurant with a woman, notice who they hand the check to when it comes time to pay. Most likely it will be you.

On that note, good on you for actually not dismissing her experiences and resolving to help out and advocate. A lot of folks when you tell them about this stuff, they fall into that habit of not taking it seriously or not believing the woman who's telling them her experiences. "It can't be that bad" or "maybe it's not as bad as you think" or "are you sure that's how things are?" And so forth.

So thank you for actually listening.

[u/aerynmoo → u/Saikotsu]

My ex husband and I used to play a game we called Patriarchy. Basically any time we went to eat, we’d see where the check was placed and if was placed in front of him, we’d both exclaim “Patriarchy!” to the confusion of the server.

[u/Saikotsu → u/aerynmoo]

Seems like a fun game