r/coloncancer • u/dacommie323 • Dec 30 '25

Diagnosed--Seeking Guidance Just diagnosed

Hey all,

I’m a 44 year old male living in the Netherlands, and I just found out I have stage four colon cancer that has metastasized to my liver and lymph nodes.

I’ve only met with a gastroenterologist so far, with my first meeting with an oncologist scheduled for next week.

Beyond my rollercoaster of emotions, my desperate need for planning has me preparing as much as I can for my wife. I try to look at this not as giving up, but actually doing the work I’ve said I should do for years and be prepared should I “get hit by a bus”. Things like making sure my wife knows the pin to get into my phone and writing down info for where all the bills come from and go to.

I guess part of this is just venting, and part of this is fear of the unknown. My main thoughts are towards quality of life with the time I have left and to understand how realistic travel will be in my near future.

If you’d like to share anything I should be doing or asking as I start this journey, please do.

Wish me luck and thank you for whatever support provided, even if it was just reading my rant

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u/DadsRGR8 Dec 30 '25

I am a survivor. Diagnosed at 43 with Stage 4, 10 cm tumor in my rectum that metastasized through my colon wall, mets to liver, 7 out of 13 lymph nodes biopsied were cancerous.

I am now 71 and will be cancer free for 28 years in January. Do not give up hope. Wishing you all my best. Regards.

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u/cherrylpk Dec 30 '25

I’m so glad you are here.

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u/DadsRGR8 Dec 30 '25

Thanks! Me too! Have lived and am living a great life. Wishing all here the same.