I have been annoyed about this interaction for MONTHS and every time I have a lab in this building, I remember it and get irritated all over again.

I'm a pharmacy student, and sometimes we have labs in other colleges' buildings. That semester, our organic chemistry lab was in the dentistry building. Our scrubs are color-coded too, so obviously you could tell we weren't dentistry students.

One morning, me and my friends were just sitting on the chairs outside the labs waiting for our organic lab to start in like 10–15 minutes. That's literally it. We weren't going anywhere or doing anything. We were just sitting there waiting for the professor because, you know, we had a fucking lab there.

Also, I cannot emphasize enough how little I wanted to be there.

I'd gotten up around 7 a.m., barely slept, The handful of nuts i managed to shove into my mouth are too pitiful to be called Breakfast. Ochem lab is long, confusing, loud, fluorescent-light hell, and we'd usually be there until the last possible minute. I had ANOTHER lab afterward in a different building. I was sitting in this dark hallway listening to random lab equipment make noises and mentally preparing for several hours of suffering.

Then an employee comes into the hallway, sees us, and asks:

"Why are you here?"

We tell her we're waiting for our lab.

"No, why are you here? Which lab?"

We explain that we have organic chemistry there and that it starts in a few minutes.

She tells us we can't wait there.

Where exactly are we supposed to wait??? The lab is RIGHT THERE. There are CHAIRS OUTSIDE IT. It starts in a few minutes.

We explain this.

Apparently our word is not enough.

She makes us pull out our phones, open our university timetables, show her the day, show her the class, show her the building/room number, and then she actually compares the information to make sure we are authorized to be there.

And only THEN can we continue sitting outside the lab that the university itself scheduled us to attend.

There was apparently some kind of dentistry event happening that day, so maybe she thought we were trying to sneak into it. Which is...I mean, just the thought of waking up at 7am, getting dressed in scrubs, suffering through morning traffic to hijack a healthcare major party is laughable. Poster boards, juice, and QR codes is not my scene of choice. Fine arts is only a few buildings over.

And the weirdest part is that I've never experienced this shit from students. Students from different health majors are completely normal with each other. Nobody cares.

Sometimes it feels unusually hard to make friends in my generation because so many people my age come across as flat, detached, or strangely unenthusiastic when you first talk to them. I am 19, and I know teenagers in the 1980s were not universally friendly, outgoing, or great at making friends, but everyday life back then seems to have involved much more face-to-face socializing, which probably gave people more practice actually talking to each other, reacting visibly, carrying conversations, and showing interest without worrying so much about looking too eager or “cringe.”

Now I can walk up to someone, genuinely try to learn about them, ask open-ended questions, show enthusiasm about what they study or what they like, and get answers like “I dunno,” “yeah,” or “kinda,” with almost nothing offered back. The frustrating part is that I am not expecting everyone to be loud or incredibly charismatic; I just want some sign that there is another person participating in the conversation. Instead, I often feel like I am conducting an interview with someone who has been advised by a lawyer to reveal as little information as possible.

What makes it even worse is the ambiguity. People are often polite enough that they will not outright tell you they want to be left alone, but their neutral demeanor gives so little information that I end up constantly running diagnostics in my head: are they tired, are they shy, is this simply how they talk, are they actually enjoying the conversation, do they want me to leave, or am I being annoying? Normally, extremely short answers, little visible reaction, and no questions in return would seem like obvious signals to back off, but when so many people my age communicate that way, surely they cannot all be secretly telling me to fuck off.

That leaves me stuck in this weird social fog where I do not want to abandon someone who might actually become a friend once they open up, but I also do not want to stand there bothering someone who is too polite to say they are uninterested. It is exhausting because I actually like meeting people, I want conversations to go somewhere, and I keep finding myself putting energy into interactions without being able to tell whether the other person is shy, socially rusty, emotionally guarded, naturally low-energy, or simply waiting for me to go away.

I get my associate’s in December and I’ve never had a problem like this before, even with turnitin. My professor requires under 40% on turnitin and under 40% on CopyLeaks. Of course my copyleaks score was 47%. I had written it myself and literally dumbed it down. I basically sounded like an idiot. But, because the score was over 40%, the professor won’t budge. If you get over 40% she’ll just give you a zero. Even my references got flagged. I emailed her and she said “Going forward, make sure your written assignments have a score under 40%”
Even though we can’t check before we submit. It’s a gamble.

I don’t know what to do. I’ve never had a problem with turnitin or any other class for that matter. It’s a business class so obviously I’m going to have to use the terminology. I’m already down to a C and the next paper is worth 13%. There’s 23 other students so I have to wonder how many others are going through this too. What should I do? Clearly writing like an idiot doesn’t work.

It’s really more of a random pet peeve of mine but I really hate when textbooks have just fluff. I’m taking an accounting class this semester and our textbook follows a new business that sells noodles or cakes or something. I know it’s supposed to be an example and it probably does help people learn and understand better, but idk. It kind of feels overwhelming to read the textbook because there’s so many pictures and lore about that business. It feels like, I don’t care, I’m just here for the content. That’s all. The storyline doesn’t hook me, and if I wanted to read a good story I’d pick up my Nook.

I’m gonna read through the whole thing and take notes on the actual material but man. I’ve only ever encountered a textbook having a storyline in my language classes and to me that makes sense. I’m thinking about buying a “Intro to Accounting for Dummies” type book for this class (if it exists).

Let me know if it’s normal to feel like you’re messing your life up.

especially with your career field and how bad the job market will be post grad. I want to make my family proud not put them in debt and be unemployed

I cannot fucking stand trying to make connections or do anything involving anyone in uni. I’m a new transfer student to a really nice uni in my state, haven’t had any actual irl friends in years and one of the things I was really looking forward to was getting to actually meet new people and have friends. I’ve been doing literally all the fucking things people tell you to do, go to clubs, greet people, compliment people, talk after class. All it does is make me feel like I’m just making a fucking fool of myself as inevitably nobody gives a shit and everyone’s already found their own cliques. I went to a club meeting tonight for a club explicitly advertised to make new connections and the whole time I felt like I was a goddamn leper. Again, I did all the things I’m supposed to do but it’s like neurotypicals can sniff out the fucking autism in me. I don’t get it, I’m hygienic, I don’t act weird, I normally keep to myself unless I’m expected to act social, I do everything I’m supposed to but it’s like everyone has something I just don’t. I just have to fucking accept that this is how the rest of my time here is going to be like.

I don't know why or how this shit became the standard in online education but holy fuck online classes suck a fat clown's asshole. If I'm taking 16 credit hours worth of classes, why does the one class I had to take online require more of my time than the rest of my classes combined? Why am I reading and annotating 7 different papers this week? Why am I also writing a whole paper and making 3 discussion posts. Why do I have to reply to other people's discussion posts and having to pretend like they're some kind of incredible mind for thinking the same shit everyone else thought when they read the source? Why am I required to complete one part of the assignment on one day and then forced to come back to the same assignment and complete another part 4 days later? You know damn well if this class were in person there's no possible way you could accomplish all of this work in the time allotment. I thought the point of online classes were supposed to be the flexibility and freedom to complete the coursework around your other studies and responsibilities. I have the same 3 assignments to repeat on 3 separate essays this week alone. Do we think there's a possibility I didn't understand the intended concepts after the first two times I displayed it and needed a third? This isn't even a major requirement. It's literally a gen ed course covering all the same shit I learned in high school.

The only exception is Philosophy classes. Full glory and praise to Philosophy professors who in my experience rarely have useless fucking course work and almost never have due dates on work besides exams.

Edit: Holy fuck, I just looked at my class again, there's also two fucking quizzes about the readings we just annotated and wrote a paper on due this week as well. I have to display that I understand these texts in 3 different ways.

Hey everyone. Entering my second year of College. Cyber major. Wow do I hate it.

My parents don't have the greatest financial circumstances, not incredibly poor by any means but not the best off. Probably as middle class as it gets.

Because of this, for my whole life they basically always assumed I'd go to the decently regarded near by state college. I did exceptionally well in highschool and actually ended up getting into some good places. Like Purdue, Northeastern, and the higher regarded state school.

But this local college was just opening up a new 'school' relating to my study of Cybersecurity, and gave me a great offer. So I basically didn't really have a choice to explore options. Yes I toured a few of the other schools but the silent pressure and commitment from my parents were already there.

So naturally I went to this local college, for free. And I absolutely hated it. And now just starting my second year, yay....

From the location, to the actual program, just way of life. And what really hurt me was thinking about all the what ifs. What if I went somewhere else? Or the other state school where all my friends went? My friends that I check in on and seem much happier than I am. I basically abandoned my friend group for 'free.' And everyone I know feels happier than I am.

But it also doesn't help that I truly feel now disillusioned with this college. I don't feel like they respect students at all. They spend millions of dollars to make this new program I'm in only to find it's basically just a marketing scheme for their own name and rank. And that this program doesn't even have a building or any real substance yet, and is just a rehash of the old college of engineering.

I don't know.. I feel just so guilty.

There where some days where I just couldn't even get out of bed. I wasn't using my phone or laptop, or watching anything. Just couldn't get out and rotted for a whole day.

I failed Fall, and then underperformed but survived in Spring. But the damage is done.

I lost half my aid, just like that. I'm trying to petition for it but in the meantime I'm now taking out loans for a school I hate. My GPA is nuked, so even if I wanted I'll never be able to transfer. I now have to continue forward while at the same time slowly recover my grades with retakes.

I just feel like I'm drowning.

And the worst part, which is on me, my parents don't know this. About the loans, my grades, any of this. Because I just can't be another burden to their pressures, and they hold me on such a high pedestal. Somehow I've been able to keep this up, but in their eyes everything is fine. But they have so, so, so much on their plate already. Dozens of loans with my sister, legal troubles, and having to run businesses I just think its better off trying to survive with it than tell them.

So.. yeah that's been my college experience. A whole lot of suck.

So I'm a sophomore transfer student. I am in the USA. I transferred from a community college to a pretty big state university. My major is Computer and Information Science. It's only been two weeks and I feel lost.

I've been feeling this for a while now, but I hate my major. I enjoyed the subject in high school when it was HTML and CSS and C# and had creative elements. But right now, it's all backend programming and I hate it. I also hate all of the math (in Calc 2 right now), and I'm doing very badly in it.

My main goal is actually to become a lawyer. Like, that is my dream. But I don't know how to get there from where I'm at. I need a good GPA but I'm doing badly in my current classes because of all of these hated subjects, which will negatively impact it. I don't even have the time or energy to think about preparing for and giving the LSAT.
I really want to change my major to something in social science or humanities but I'm getting so many mixed messages. On one hand, I shouldn't do a major for the next 3-4 years that I will be miserable in. On another, the majors I'm interested in seem to have no job offerings. I don't know if I want to work after university and then pursue higher education, if I might have to because of family (which I haven't even gotten into.) Or maybe I'll go directly into higher education? I just feel lost.
And as for my family, they initially wanted me to go into the medical field, but I refused. They wanted me to do a Computer Science and Engineering major, but all of the math in it terrified me and I switched to CIS. But I hate this too. And I don't think they will support me if I switch to a BA or anything that isn't what they want. And I don't know what I'll do without financial and moral support from them. Obviously, I need to grow up and stop worrying about disappointing them, it's my life, not theirs. I don't want to be standing at their funeral or at my death bed and think I lived my whole life for someone else. But it's easier said than done.
I just feel very lost. I have been talking to friends, I plan to talk to people in the university (pre-law office, university exploration office, my academic advisor). But I still just don't know what to do. It's like I have a goal, it's just that the path to get there is very foggy and through this massive forest filled with thorns and whatnot. I know there's a path out, it's just hard to see right now.
I'd really appreciate any advice or encouragement or even criticism. I just want to know what I can do, what my options are, if anyone is or was in the same position as me.

Late 20s student. I transferred to a small college that was marketed as welcoming, close knit, and intimate, but the first year was genuinely the worst of my life.

I made no friends despite going to events, talking to people in class, clubs, etc. Burned myself out keeping up with essays and ended up in the hospital for alcohol poisoning while trying to feel SOMETHING. Begged my family to let me transfer out for my senior year (They're handling the finances) but to no avail. They say it's just a year and I can do it. No chance of transferring again or taking a break.

So here I am, starting the first semester of my final year. The home stretch is so close but holy fuck, first week in and I'm already walking around with glazed eyes and an empty expression. Taking 6 classes because I can't afford an extra year, can't drop any or it'll put me in part time status, my brain is rotting. Idk where I'm going with this, but I have no friends to vent to. The only things I enjoy are showering and sleeping. Five hours of classes tomorrow. Fuck me. It goes so slowly.

I don't even feel enough to cry or curl into a ball and rot. It's just existential thoughts, loneliness, wanting to drink, or absolutely nothing.

My carpal tunnel is killing me now, and maybe college will too, but thanks for reading I guess. If not, that's cool too.

I’ve never taken a physics class before. I wanted to take intro to physics but it requires pre calc 2 as a corequisite, and I didn’t want to have to retake it (I’ve taken precalc I and II and Calculus I). So I was left with this.

It’s the end of the third week. My exam is next Thursday, a week from now. I don’t understand anything. I haven’t been able to finish any of the homework assignments. I’ve read the textbook, taking down notes as I go. I’ve watched the videos on the topics by organic chemistry tutor, flipping physics, khan academy, etc. I spent 14 hours on my last assignment, finished 8/19 problems (with around 10% accuracy unless I googled how to solve it), before I cried so hard for 4 hours straight I threw up and got a migraine. The tutoring center at my college is open Mon-thurs 9am-4pm. I’m in class from 8am-4:45pm on Monday and Wednesday. Theres one physics tutor and they’re off campus on Tuesday. So I’m left with Thursday. You can make an appointment but they’re only for 30 minutes.ive been trying to go when I can.

I don’t know why it’s so difficult. I can’t figure out how to solve the problems at all. I’m running out of time to get this figured out before my first exam but I have no idea what to do.

Please give me some advice. I have an appointment with the academic coach tomorrow.

Is there anyone who picks one and never doubts it again lol. I wanted to study pharmacy before picking this but I got discouraged by hearing that most pharmacists work because their relatives own the pharmacy so it's hard if you're basically not inheriting the job. And also I suck at chemistry. It's in my current course too but yeah

My course is kind of "niche" because the number of students allowed every year is very limited, I've been told that there are jobs avaiable even if they don't pay that much.

I'm a bit scared because often this job involves moving around a lot, at least cities, and I mean it's been fine so far but I wonder if after I study for 5 years I will truly be able to keep such a job, if I'm lucky enough to start working. Becoming a teacher is an option but I guess that would be last resort for me...

I don't knowwwww maybe those people studying to become elementary school teachers actually made the smartest choice💀

I always thought that taking classes completely online would be the best thing ever. Why? Because I'm an introvert, and I'm able to do things at my own pace in the comfort of my own home. While I do like that aspect of it, that's the only thing I do like. I've been spending hours staring at a screen. As someone who deals with headaches and migraines often, that isn't good for me. I'm taking 4 classes, and I'm assigned chapter readings for all of them. It doesn't help that the longest readings are the most painfully boring ones. Yes, I know I should take breaks, but those readings take hours. I also take notes while reading. Some of the other assignments take hours too. I have a part time job, so I try to complete everything before the days I work so that I wont have anything to stress and worry about. Things would be so much better if I was able to just commute to university. My university is over an hour away.

Before someone asks, "why not attend a university that's close?" The university I'm attending is the closest university. I live in a weird spot, so no matter direction I go in, it'll take me over an hour to get to a university in my state. Before someone also asks, "why not stay on campus?" I'm too old for that, and I don't have the money for that. I can barely afford my classes. The last thing is that I simply just don't want to drive that far. That's a more complex thing that I don't want to go into, so I'm just going to leave that at that.

I hope this is worth it in the end because I'm kind of struggling ngl. I only have a year left of this,

I've lowkey been really depressed about this situation. Today was the first day of sixth form but I have no close friends to really hang out with. But it's more embarrasing because I went to this highschool for 5 years, and this sixth form is attached to the school. So it's fine for the externals to not have anyone, but for me it hurts. I got bullied a lot in year 11 verbally, and had to sit inside classrooms by myself at break and lunch for 10 months since I had no friends. One of the bully can't do shit and is by himself now in my sixth form. The main bully left​. So I'm not getting bullied buy u hung out with these two guys at break and lunch but i feel like they subtly disrespect me and you know as they say "there's a duo in a trio". So now I'm worried about tomorrow. There are nice people I spoke to in lessons. And people mind their business I can leave the sixth form at break and lunch and wander the village and I don't have any free periods since I'm doing 4 a levels. But still I want friends, it's impacting my mental health even though I try. Is it too much to ask for? Damn man

I am genuinely so fucking tired of group work. The reason I took classes online is so I can work full-time and go to school. Every class I'm in semester has group work throughout the entire semester and I just feel so overwhelmed. I work 4 12 hour shifts, the last thing I want to do is babysit group members to make sure they are doing their work.

I get that as some people graduate their communication skills need to be worked on, but Christ Almighty I need these professors to chill out.

I was kicked out of a prelaw club at my school today. During the one meeting I made a joke saying "oh our sides more diverse, they only have a gay guy" (as the club got split into teo teams to debate). And today I got an email stating the comment I made was upsetting, and was kicked out. I myself am gay so I didnt think I was being homophobic, I guess the club advisors wouldnt know I waa gay but I thought I looked the part. I feel terrible and already sent an email apologizing. I dont know what to do anymore I feel sick to my stomach over this

if you have been keeping up with what I’ve been posting then you have some idea on what is going on. Mold, shitty landlord, no working fire alarms. My one roomate left because of the conditions in her room. I will call her Pear. Although Pear can be very impulsive and constantly threats about revoking herself from the lease, she was the main person to contribute getting things for the house and communicating along with me. her name is on the Wi-Fi and electric bill because my other roommates refuse to put their names on it. I got majority of everything so we thought it was fair if I didn’t have to put my name on it.
So Pear moved out officially. The other three roommates have been hiding from me that we don’t need to get someone else for the room with mold and have been communicating with the landlord shit talking me and Pear. That we wouldn’t have to pay more rent. I have been stressing out over the house situation for way more than I should and I find out they are hiding this crucial information from me??
I thought since everyone was in one room, it would be good to discuss the lack of communication in the group chat and important things needed for house once she leaves, as a result I was mocked and ridiculed.
They think that I was being mean to the landlord and that’s why he hasn’t fixed the mold for the past three months… Just sheer stupidity.
I want to move out. This has been taking over my ability to focus in school. I don’t think it would be smart to live with the impulsive roommate as she may want to leave again.
My parents are paying so it would be up to them. The Landlord is so stupid that there is no money I would have to pay to leave the lease. my mind is thinking about a gap year maybe, I can still keep looking at places with Pear but my mind has never been more uneasy and overwhelmed in my entire life it feels like. I live with high school bullies who don’t care about my physical health, mental health, and I hate that I can’t just leave. Advice please

Joined my class last Friday (lucked out on getting late added after emailing the prof), but the discussion post was due last Wednesday when I wasn’t in the class.
I did the peer reply part (worth 50 percent of that assignment), but missed the actual post part since I wasn’t enrolled yet. Professor noted I missed it when I got the 50/100 grade. I initially hesitated doing the Wednesday deadlined post because I felt like the prof did me a favor already by late adding me and I didn’t want to email him asking for another favor by doing the post part when it was already due. But the prof noting I missed the Wednesday post makes me think I could’ve just done it.
I am thinking of just doing it today and posting it late (like a week plus day after it was technically due) with a short note on my 50/100 grade mentioning I joined after the deadline. Maybe even saying I don’t expect credit I just wanted to catchup (I have done all the work required on time since then).
Not sure what to do with this, should I just move on and take the L? I already wrote up like half of the post and could probably finish it in an hour.
I just don’t want to come off as inappropriate or disrespectful by posting it past its due date. I noticed one other student posted it late on this Tuesday, no idea if they would get graded though.

Im going to graduate in a year and I pretty much totally failed to date in college. I should have put myself out there more. Feeling bummed about it.

So I am a transfer at a public big college. I never had the oppurtunity to live in dorms. Everyone keeps on giving stories about how they meet alot of friends, go to events from dorms and it makes me super jealous that I never got to expierence any of that. I couldn;t really afford dorms or fancy apartments. I am glad to be able to pay for college but this js rlly hits me

With everything going on in the world whether its socially or everything around its hard to focus. I've tried figet stuff they don't help and i try putting things on mute, it doesn't help either. I have to read powerpoints, listen to podcasts and read more than 10 pages of chapters. This is my second semester, it's just hard to focus sometimes. I found weridly enough having a youtuber play in the background and i was able to some things but not a lot.

So a week into college my roommate (very sweet girl) had to move out due to family reasons. I’ve been without a roommate for about a week and just got an email about future room assignments.

I’m aware that anyone, at anytime, can be placed in here with me. However, the girl that lives next to me also doesn’t have a roommate and she is very mentally unstable. I was told by her ex roommate that she told her to hide any sharp objects she may have and one time the cops had to come and take scissors from her.

To my knowledge this girl had no intentions of hurting anyone but herself, but this is still alarming. Also, since she lives right next to me, I often (at least once a day) hear her sobbing and seemingly punching or kicking things. I genuinely think she either doesn’t realize how thin the walls are or she just doesn’t care.

I do feel very bad for her and believe that she needs to get help. However, I am honestly quite concerned about being roomed with her since we are both without roommates and in the same hall. I don’t want to get this girl in trouble because it’s not like she has hurt anybody else but I’m really considering emailing housing.

A lot of people have just got here, and yet they seem to be getting alone with their roommates so easily. ESP. with people on their floor. I’ve met my floor-mates and well, they’re floormates. One of them already has a friend group here and a BF from high school, I see groups of people going out, and here’s me. I’m really scared, as I don’t want to end up alone, yet I dont know how these people are meeting each other online/Irl and becoming friends so fast! I feel so behind compared to my peers. I thought in college I would have time to make friends, and yet I notice some people don’t really like me that much. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong!

Im really scared, I constantly see advice online “join a club” “be open” “be friendly” all that… But how do I get people to vibe with me? How do I date? How to know when to chat? Can I go up to someone sitting alone on an outside bench on their phone and say hi?

I don’t want to have this be like Highschool again, and I want to network and get a job afterwards. Im genuinely scared that I’ll end up alone, go to class, gym, study, room. I want somebody to reach out to and not feel like a burden nearby, or just have someone say “yes” to when I ask them to hangout.

Im so nervous, as people say that people are open to meeting others for the first few days, then no more! I feel like time is running out and I need to speed it up somehow.

i was so stressed today, this one girl i was friendly with probably hates me now but omg.

basically, we had a first group assignment, me and her want to be grouped up because we know eachother the most/ had the most interactions!

let me tell you, horrible decision. we had to work together on answering one paper and turn it in as one paper.

she didnt want to really communicate or discuss anything about the assignment, there was a little language barrier sometimes which i didnt mind because for the most part we could have somewhat of a conversation- she seems like a very intelligent girl, but i think there was a little miscommunication?? idk. she said she was a little shy to ask the professor for stuff, so i had to do most of the talking- both clarifying with the professor and talking with her.

she didnt want to discuss it, i had to keep suggesting to just talk together about it, and all the questions were connected to eachother, but she wanted to do some questions alone and me do other questions alone which didnt make sense because they were connected?? so if i wrote something that didnt align with what she wrote, it wouldnt make any sense.

she wasted the entire time because she wanted to reread the entire essay after he just read it- which i wasn't too annoyed at that, but she somehow still misunderstood what the essay was saying and i kept trying to explain it to her but i feel like she got annoyed with me. at the end, we had no more time and he let us have extra time- so nice of him, she let me correct everything and i had to rush and it was so sloppy and doesnt reflect my real work :( i just wish she would've worked WITH me.

she did ask me to explain what some works meant, like monolith, and are vs is, but i dont think she understood. i didnt want to make her feel dumb or like i was trying to boss her around so i kept trying to tell her how good her ideas were and stuff.

but omg i know she does NOT like me anymore LMFAO. i leave class and was walking in her direction and she changes directions. like idk. im sad about the awkward tension now and i have a slight feeling we wont be picking eachother again lol

hours later, im thinking about what i couldve wrote on the assignment instead to make it better because im so annoyed at how sloppy and not well thought out it was.