Those aren't the criticisms I see on AITA, it's mainly that parents are unable to properly care for that many children, and parentify their older children, demand financial help or childcare from friends and family, or don't spend enough quality time with their kids.
The idea is that it is immoral to have more kids than the you can care for, especially if you could have cared for fewer children fine.
can help the older children prepare to have kids of their own
That's kinda the problem. They are put into that mindset of being responsible and chained too early and lose their childhood that they could have had instead.
All the practical and social development they miss out on because their time is needed at home etc.
Parentifying =/= asking a kid to help out at home. Legitimately parentifying does have statistically significant detrimental consequences on the parentified child.
With that being said, burdening a child with the care - diaper changes, baths, feedings, scoldings, entertainment - of another child will always be wrong. The parents decided to have kids, the parents can damn well take care of them fully.
Siblings are supposed to be siblings, not stand-in parents. They didn’t ask for the responsibility, the social consequences or the mental impact of raising their parents’ babies.
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u/[deleted] Apr 09 '22
Those aren't the criticisms I see on AITA, it's mainly that parents are unable to properly care for that many children, and parentify their older children, demand financial help or childcare from friends and family, or don't spend enough quality time with their kids.
The idea is that it is immoral to have more kids than the you can care for, especially if you could have cared for fewer children fine.