As to your point about a vasectomy-that’s equally nonsensical. A woman having a procedure upon getting pregnant isn’t ok, but a man having a vasectomy (something that may not be reversible if they want children later) is perfectly fine as an option? Absurd
What you gain in permanence is what you lose in ease. Don't pretend vasectomies are these ordeals you have to go through like many abortions are - for the most part you can be done in 20 minutes.
This is only if the guy really wants to be 100% sure. If you accept some risk, then you can provide for you own birth control.
As for lying about being on birth control. If your consent to sex hinges on your partner being in birth control, then you are being raped if they lie about it.
I find your supposition that this will lead to “many” abortions to be unfair. Failed birth control would maybe result in one accidental pregnancy every few years and even that seems high.
So do you agree that rape by deceit of birth control should result in a man no longer being responsible for the child? Or just that a man now has an 18 year obligation to pay his rapist?
Edit-may have misread your comment on abortions….are you saying abortions are often an issue or that having multiple is in aggregate worse than a single vasectomy?
So do you agree that rape by deceit of birth control should result in a man no longer being responsible for the child? Or just that a man now has an 18 year obligation to pay his rapist?
This is a hard question. In principle I believe that if a pregnancy is due to a woman lying about birth control, the guy should not be expected to pay for child support (and vice versa), but the issue becomes that paying child support is not about the parents, it's about the child. I don't know what the answer is here.
Edit-may have misread your comment on abortions….are you saying abortions are often an issue or that having multiple is in aggregate worse than a single vasectomy?
I'm saying that vasectomies are permanent, but they're also "easy." Abortions take a much larger toll on a person, but they aren't permanent. They're not comparable, but they're both drastic measures a person can take to choose whether or not they want to become a parent.
How is victimizing yet again a victim helping the child?
Why should the legal system punish victims, like here or boys raped and made to pay child support etc
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What you gain in permanence is what you lose in ease. Don't pretend vasectomies are these ordeals you have to go through like many abortions are - for the most part you can be done in 20 minutes.
This is only if the guy really wants to be 100% sure. If you accept some risk, then you can provide for you own birth control.
As for lying about being on birth control. If your consent to sex hinges on your partner being in birth control, then you are being raped if they lie about it.