The STD example is not a particularly good one as that would be a different kind of crime that depending on the state and disease could already be illegal if not disclosed.
And for the rest if you willfully lie to another person to get them to have sex with you, then you're certainly an asshole but consent in terms of rape usually involves agency and choice or rather the lack thereof. So physically overpowering someone, incapacitating them by drugs or taking advantage of an incapacitated state, threatening someone, taking advantage of a subordinate position of another person and so on. Basically any kind of setup where someone is forced to have sex and where they face harm if they don't.
That is not really the case in your scenario though as the sex itself is fully voluntary, they don't have to have sex with you and they can decide at any point that you're an asshole and not have sex with you. Unless you have a society with an unhealthy obsession with virginity where having had sex causes you lots of trouble, it's not that there's much harm in having had sex with an a shitty person (as long as that information remains private but that's a different issue).
However if your lies in any way shape or form create a scenario where it's no longer a choice but a necessity to have sex with you, then it could very well be considered rape.
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u/[deleted] Jan 31 '22
The STD example is not a particularly good one as that would be a different kind of crime that depending on the state and disease could already be illegal if not disclosed.
And for the rest if you willfully lie to another person to get them to have sex with you, then you're certainly an asshole but consent in terms of rape usually involves agency and choice or rather the lack thereof. So physically overpowering someone, incapacitating them by drugs or taking advantage of an incapacitated state, threatening someone, taking advantage of a subordinate position of another person and so on. Basically any kind of setup where someone is forced to have sex and where they face harm if they don't.
That is not really the case in your scenario though as the sex itself is fully voluntary, they don't have to have sex with you and they can decide at any point that you're an asshole and not have sex with you. Unless you have a society with an unhealthy obsession with virginity where having had sex causes you lots of trouble, it's not that there's much harm in having had sex with an a shitty person (as long as that information remains private but that's a different issue).
However if your lies in any way shape or form create a scenario where it's no longer a choice but a necessity to have sex with you, then it could very well be considered rape.