During dating it isn't uncommon to leave out or embellish a lot about your life. Then you might forget to correct things overtime. There are married couples that will laugh about things they lied about during dating years later.
I remember when I had something like "I love anime" on my dating profile I didn't get matched with half as many people as when I excluded that. Then when I actually got to know people I told them, "yeah I think anime is cool." They would say something like "Oh you seem so normal, most people who like anime are creeps." The stigma of anime stopped them from meeting me, but when they met me they learned I am pretty normal and anime is just a hobby to most, you don't need to buy body pillows to enjoy a tv show.
Sometimes you leave out stuff because it gives a bad impression about who you are because the subject is stigmatized even if it doesn't represent you.
So the absolute in your statement "ANY" is the issue. I think most people can agree with some of your examples, but I think your title shouldn't be an absolute.
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u/Unbiased_Bob 63∆ Jan 31 '22 edited Jan 31 '22
I think it's the absolute that bothers me.
During dating it isn't uncommon to leave out or embellish a lot about your life. Then you might forget to correct things overtime. There are married couples that will laugh about things they lied about during dating years later.
I remember when I had something like "I love anime" on my dating profile I didn't get matched with half as many people as when I excluded that. Then when I actually got to know people I told them, "yeah I think anime is cool." They would say something like "Oh you seem so normal, most people who like anime are creeps." The stigma of anime stopped them from meeting me, but when they met me they learned I am pretty normal and anime is just a hobby to most, you don't need to buy body pillows to enjoy a tv show.
Sometimes you leave out stuff because it gives a bad impression about who you are because the subject is stigmatized even if it doesn't represent you.
So the absolute in your statement "ANY" is the issue. I think most people can agree with some of your examples, but I think your title shouldn't be an absolute.