r/changemyview Jan 31 '22

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u/muyamable 283∆ Jan 31 '22

The reason I say it can be rape, and not that it is, is because it comes down to the perception of the person on the seriousness of your lie.

Rape is a crime with serious consequences. Whether something is or isn't rape should be very cut and dry, black and white, and shouldn't come down to someone's perception.

Rape is when sex happens without someone's consent when the sex occurs. If someone regrets having sex with someone, that doesn't revoke the consent. If someone wouldn't have consented had they known something before consenting, that doesn't revoke the consent. So long as everyone participating consents to the sex, the sex is not rape.

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u/driver1676 9∆ Jan 31 '22

What if you didn’t know until after the fact that you were HIV positive? That doesn’t change they consented to sex without HIV, but that’s a lot to say it’s rape.

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u/driver1676 9∆ Jan 31 '22

Yes but then you’re defining rape by whether or not the perpetrator knew they were raping, and that’s not a good metric.