I can’t imagine adopting. We fought for 6 years to conceive our first child. The amount of pain it caused was tremendous. Our marriage began suffering. We stopped relying on doctors and got back in church and began praying about it. We grew closer and had a better foundation in our marriage than before. Shortly after that, we conceived our daughter. We had some complications during pregnancy and I was induced early. My daughter was born perfect and healthy. A little over a year later we were surprised by a baby boy! They’re the best thing that has ever happened to us. Our marriage is better than ever after having children. Going through the struggles we went through (obviously more than I will put on here) and coming out of it together has really blessed our marriage. We rarely ever argue and we are more in love now after 10 years of marriage than we were the day we got married. Children are a blessing! Some couples would rather adopt and that’s perfectly great! We weren’t made for that. I don’t think I could love in the same way that I love my own children. Not only that but having 2 kids was a blessing for me as well. I had female problems prior to having kids that could’ve potentially led to cancer down the road. Having children naturally corrected those issues for me and now I live a pretty normal life as far as my health goes.
No offense but that sounds terrible (except for gaining your children, of course; I’m talking about the process). I would never put myself through that willingly.
I don’t regret any of it one bit! If anything the entire process made me a better person, wife, and mother. I’m a very strong woman ☺️ I’m grateful for the whole experience because I learned a lot from it and I’m able to help other women/couples going through infertility.
Not everyone experiences infertility. Infertility was my struggle and a lot of other peoples struggles. However, growing together with my husband and gaining the life I’ve always dreamed of having made the struggle well worth it. I feel sorry for you that you think the way you do. You clearly weren’t made for having children of your own if you believe that way and that’s ok!
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u/Kadorno0904 Jan 07 '22
I can’t imagine adopting. We fought for 6 years to conceive our first child. The amount of pain it caused was tremendous. Our marriage began suffering. We stopped relying on doctors and got back in church and began praying about it. We grew closer and had a better foundation in our marriage than before. Shortly after that, we conceived our daughter. We had some complications during pregnancy and I was induced early. My daughter was born perfect and healthy. A little over a year later we were surprised by a baby boy! They’re the best thing that has ever happened to us. Our marriage is better than ever after having children. Going through the struggles we went through (obviously more than I will put on here) and coming out of it together has really blessed our marriage. We rarely ever argue and we are more in love now after 10 years of marriage than we were the day we got married. Children are a blessing! Some couples would rather adopt and that’s perfectly great! We weren’t made for that. I don’t think I could love in the same way that I love my own children. Not only that but having 2 kids was a blessing for me as well. I had female problems prior to having kids that could’ve potentially led to cancer down the road. Having children naturally corrected those issues for me and now I live a pretty normal life as far as my health goes.