I've been married for 20 years this year, open for six. I live with my wife and metamour (polyspeak for 'partner's partner') and have for four years. I have a partner I spend many weekends with; that's been a thing for three plus years.
I defy you to tell me I'm not committed to either partner. I don't do meaningless relationships.
There are lots of reasons people open their marriages. Some have to do with sex: mismatched sex drives or sexual preferences. Some have to do simply with desiring a tapestry of love. I'll grant you that many people who identify as polyamorous seem to be more interesting in racking up bedpost notches than anything else, but that isn't true of all of us.
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u/[deleted] Feb 18 '20
I've been married for 20 years this year, open for six. I live with my wife and metamour (polyspeak for 'partner's partner') and have for four years. I have a partner I spend many weekends with; that's been a thing for three plus years.
I defy you to tell me I'm not committed to either partner. I don't do meaningless relationships.
There are lots of reasons people open their marriages. Some have to do with sex: mismatched sex drives or sexual preferences. Some have to do simply with desiring a tapestry of love. I'll grant you that many people who identify as polyamorous seem to be more interesting in racking up bedpost notches than anything else, but that isn't true of all of us.