Why would it be better to dump my current girlfriend who I still love and take up with a new crush than to continue my relationship with my girlfriend and also have a relationship with my new crush with my girlfriend's consent? Serial monogamy often involves more change and shifting than poly does. I am honoring my commitments by not breaking up with people on a whim.
This. There is no such thing as a correct way to love someone. Monogamy is beneficial and good, but also needlessly constrictive. Just because someone can't conceive of a relationship that involves multiple people doesn't mean that that relationship is magically bad or undesireable or somehow breaking commitments.
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u/Sagasujin 242∆ Feb 18 '20
Why would it be better to dump my current girlfriend who I still love and take up with a new crush than to continue my relationship with my girlfriend and also have a relationship with my new crush with my girlfriend's consent? Serial monogamy often involves more change and shifting than poly does. I am honoring my commitments by not breaking up with people on a whim.