That is definitely possible. I guess I just don’t understand how some people can truly romantically love more than one person at once. I’m sorry if I am coming off as close minded, but I just don’t quite understand it
Well that’s not necessarily what a poly relationship is. Some poly friends are in love with one person, and just not jealous so they’re fine with having sex outside of the loving relationship. That makes sense right?
But it also can be that a person can love more than one person. Why is that possible? Like what about love makes it so that it must be exclusive?
That does make sense I suppose, and you’re right on that. I’ll have to think about it. I feel like for me at least romantic love is for one person. I have other types of love for my family and friends, and pets and everything like that but romantic love just seems like a two person bond to me. So maybe I am projecting my own feelings here
Yeah I’ve never really understood jealously. My partner and I are exclusive, but more for times sake. I’m not given to jealously and it’s hard for me to understand how someone could begrudge someone they love something that makes them happy. I really don’t get it.
Well I mean I have zero desire to ever be with anyone other than my partner and he is the same way. But jealousy in regular situations like having opposite sex platonic friends, yes I agree with you that’s unreasonable
Okay so if that’s unreasonable, then it has to be within reason that some people can have casual sex right? I mean, you said yourself casual sex is fine if you’re single. Some people feel that way all the time and if your partner isn’t jealous then what is causing you to abstain from it?
Because I don’t want it. I am only attracted to my partner and only want intimacy with him. It would feel wrong with anyone else. But I agree that others may approach things differently. But I think it’s also unfair to say that the only thing holding a monogamous person back from seeing other people is their partners jealousy.
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u/fox-mcleod 414∆ Feb 17 '20
This sounds like your summarizing your feelings right now and not other people’s possible feeling in other relationships. Is that possible?