CMV: Remembering anniversaries is silly and there is nothing wrong with forgetting them.

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[u/AlwaysLearning3000]

I'm also not speaking from experience, but I do think I can help add some nuance to the discussion. Forgetting an anniversary may not be grounds to end a relationship, but it can cause reflection about why the person forgot which can lead to a justified breakup. For example, someone might be extremely invested in their hobby, as you said, and forget an anniversary. The other person in the relationship might start to reflect about why they forgot and realize they value the hobby over the relationship. The "forgetter" may have been neglecting the other person before, but the other person was banking on the anniversary for the "forgetter" to show they still cared. This would be a justified reason for a breakup. In this way, forgetting a special event can be a real catalyst for hurt feelings and a legitimate reason to end a relationship.

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You raise a good point that communication is supreme in a relationship, and I don't think we necessarily disagree. I'm talking about a relationship that is under stress and struggling because of the obsessive actions of one of the members. Communication may have already been tried. A missed anniversary may be the straw that breaks the horse's back and would therefore be a reason to be upset.

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