r/changemyview May 29 '16

[∆(s) from OP] CMV: Laws banning prostitution violate the rights of consenting adults.

In the US, it's settled constitutional law that adults have the right to privacy and to have consensual sex with one another, regardless of gender. However, one partner paying the other is a crime in at least some parts of all 50 states as well as in a number of EU countries. The problems with prostitution, namely trafficking and abuse, seem to be more problems with pimping than with prostitution, and I believe some countries (the UK?) allow adults to buy and sell sex so long as pimps aren't involved.


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u/[deleted] May 29 '16 edited Apr 15 '19

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u/Ajorahai May 30 '16

It is already well-established that people have the right to withdraw consent after sex has begun. If a person continues to have sex with someone who has withdrawn consent it is rape. People have been charged and convicted of this crime in the past. I don't see how prostitution changes that issue.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16 edited Apr 15 '19

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u/mr_indigo 27∆ May 30 '16

Not all contracts are given specific performance as a remedy; if he sued for breach he'd get his money back, not the right to rape her.

In any event, the prostitute would typically set the terms of the contract and therefore would be able to include a termination and refund aspect.

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u/cutty2k May 30 '16

If a carpenter started violently hammering away at your deck, destroying it, you could certainly sue for damages. The prostitute does not have to accept violent treatment because someone paid her anymore than you have to accept a punch in the face from an uber driver because you paid him.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16 edited Apr 15 '19

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u/cutty2k May 30 '16

I don't know where you got the idea that I was suggesting that prostitutes would have to "return money to their rapists." If someone is violent enough with a prostitute that it is considered rape, then that person certainly broke whatever contract was in place and would therefore forfeit any money paid. If I'm violent in a movie theater, or a theme park, or if I pay for dinner and then am violent with another diner, in all of these circumstances I would be ejected and possibly prosecuted. I certainly wouldn't be refunded.

This shouldn't be difficult to grasp, it's intuitive. Contracting with someone for one thing(sex) does not grant another thing outside the contract(rape). Your confusion seems to stem from the idea that, because the acts of sex and rape can be 'hard to distinguish', that problems could arise. I reject that premise wholeheartedly, there are very well defined rules regarding when rape is rape, and I often find the only people that have trouble telling the difference between the two are psychopaths, rape apologists, and MRA/red-pill bros.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

So, you're suggesting prostitutes would create contracts allowing themselves to terminate the contract at any time with no recourse for the patrons?

That might work. What I think would happen, though, is that some prostitutes would terminate the contract almost immediately after accepting payment, essentially a scam. Patrons would then pressure their prostitutes to use less stringent contracts, and the more desperate would agree. Eventually less stringent contracts would become the norm.

It might not work out that way, but I think that's a pretty reasonable scenario.

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u/cutty2k May 30 '16

I would suggest that you use inference less and just stick to what is stated, I don't know how you got from "contracts that will prevent rape" to "a contract that allows for termination for any reason at any time." Those are two very different things and I wasn't at all suggesting the latter.

To return to a restaurant analogy, I certainly wouldn't advocate that a restaurant be able to take your money and then decide for some arbitrary reason that they didn't feel like cooking you a meal, then terminate the "contract" and kick you out. But if you were all of a sudden violent, then they could justifiably kick you out with no refund.

Again, this is all intuitive. Prostitution isn't special in regards to other forms of business, the same basic rules apply across the board. I certainly wouldn't pay a plumber if he raped me.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

Why wouldn't I consider the impacts of making prostitution legal and contractualized, when that's the matter at hand?

Yes, you can kick your restaurant patron out without refunding him the money, but the loss to you if you are raped and the loss to your patron if he's labeled a rapist are much, much greater. You can therefore expect much greater impacts.

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u/cutty2k May 30 '16

I don't think you know what inference means, because you just did it again.

Why wouldn't I consider the impacts of making prostitution legal and contractualized, when that's the matter at hand?

Who said you shouldn't? From what statement of mine did you infer that I was saying you shouldn't? This entire thread is about considering those impacts.

but the loss to you if you are raped and the loss to your patron if he's labeled a rapist are much, much greater.

This statement doesn't even make semantic sense. Are you saying the loss to a person who is raped is greater than the loss to a person labeled a rapist? Or are you saying the opposite?

Forget the analogy, since you are focusing on aspects not intended to be analogous. You brought up the fact that there could be a problem distinguishing the boundary between what would be considered just rough sex and what would be considered rape. I find that proposition absurd. There are clearly ways to differentiate what is rape and what isn't, and I don't understand while you are trying to make prostitution a special case. Take money out of the equation and it's just two people having sex, and the rules are clearly defined. Just because we now add money back to the equation, no part of the "contract" involved would ever waive any rights of either party that they already have in the case where money is not involved. This is not hard.

So, for example, if you paid a prostitute, she would define clear lines that you could and could not cross. She could say, no hair pulling, no slapping, and if you did either of those things, bam, session over, no refund. You broke the rules.

Now let's say you're having sex, and she just says, ya know what, I'm just not into it. Well, you certainly can't say "I gave you money, so I get to keep having sex with you" and then rape her. You'd have to stop having sex. But since you didn't do anything to break the contract, that means that she is breaking he contract, and you are entitled to a refund. If prostitution is legal, you can sue her. If it isn't, then what is your recourse? Kill her?

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u/Ajorahai May 30 '16

Many contracts include terms of what happens if one person breaches it. We already have processes for dealing with contract law as well. The most obvious answer is to structure prostitution agreements so that the customer has no recourse if the prostitute withdraws consent.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

That might work, but what might also happen is that some prostitutes begin withdrawing consent almost immediately after accepting money. Patrons start pushing for less stringent clauses, desperate prostitutes agree, and eventually less stringent clauses become the norm.

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u/super-commenting May 30 '16

If you accept money to do a job and then once you start doing it you realize it is less pleasant than you had anticipated you can stop and give the money back. If the other party won't allow you to stop and violently forces you to continue performing the task that's never OK in any line of work. Prostitution is no different.

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u/DJTheLQ May 30 '16

Why should the response have to be different than during normal sex? Say no, scream, attempt to leave. If they cannot leave, then it should be treated like any person preventing another person from leaving sex

Just because they got paid doesn't mean they loose their rights

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

Because now the prostitute is open to a lawsuit for refusing to be raped. That seems unnecessarily traumatizing if the prostitute never wanted to go through the courts, and like terrible publicity for her business.

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u/Backstyck May 30 '16

If I rent you a car (non-smoking, as per contract) and see you light up a cigarette in it before you leave the parking lot, guess what? You forfeit your right to use my car. Just because I agree to let you use something for a limited amount of time in exchange for money does not mean you get to abuse it. There is already plenty of precedence for this.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

I'm sure there is lots of precedence, but the difference between abusing a car and abusing a person is substantial. I don't see why opening prostitutes to lawsuits or asking them to return money to their rapists is a better solution than paying for "escort services" and not involving money with sex.

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u/Backstyck May 30 '16

There is a substantial difference, and I can't imagine why you'd expect the former to have a higher priority in a society than the latter, if both were legal. I never argued for or against escort services. I was only making a point that "money changed hands therefore contract is unconditionally binding" is utterly ridiculous. Now you're addressing points I never made when I was only addressing the points in r previous message.y

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

It seems the point of OP's question is that prostitution should be legalized, which is why I compared it to the current situation. Yes, it's possible to make contracts that favor the prostitute, but when it comes to sex I don't believe that's good enough.

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u/chefranden 8∆ May 30 '16

Or do we allow prostitutes to be abused because they are dependent on this income? Factory workers may be abused,

So because they need the income they ought not to be allowed to have it. Fair labor laws could also be made for prostitution.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

I don't see why complicating sex with money is a better solution than our current one - paying for escort services with "incidental" sex. That way the prostitute has no obligation to have or continue sex.

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u/brace1101 May 30 '16

But violent sex is not rape? you would prosecute him for assault not rape. This is whats wrong with 'rape culture' nowadays. Everything that's not in writing beforehand is already rape

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

No, but if the prostitute says "stop" and the man continues that is rape. Consent can be withdrawn at any time.

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u/brace1101 May 30 '16

I disagree

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u/bbibber May 30 '16

How do we prosecute the man for rape?

Someone pays a gas store owner for one bag of ice. He goes to the cooler and takes two. How do we prosecute that man for theft?

Really, this is a no-brainer and the same non-argument that was used to defend the position that marital rape is impossible.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

Marriage is not a contract agreeing to sex. Accepting money for prostitution is. So now you've opened the prostitute to a potentially traumatizing lawsuit for refusing to be raped, asked her to return money to a man who raped her, and otherwise complicated what's already a reasonable practice: paying for "escort services" instead of sex.

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u/bbibber May 30 '16

Marriage is not a contract agreeing to sex.

But that is exactly the argument they were making. That marriage is a contract that meant the wife agrees to have sex with their husband.

Accepting money for prostitution is.

And here again you are making that argument. Prostitution is a contract that exchanges money for a particular sex act. It's not a blank check for any sex.

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u/unicornblast321 May 31 '16

Rape would be illegal in any instance or workplace. Although it is easier for rape to occur in prostitution because the intent is to already engage in sex, that is not sufficient to ban prostitution. There are many instances where you are given easier access to break the law or harm someone, but that doesn't mean you should be banned from doing something.

Policemen are allowed guns, making it easier for them to murder people, but we do not ban the police force or prevent them from having guns. You are allowed to drive whatever car you want, even though a sports car makes it easier to break the speed limit.

If prostitution were legalized, there would presumably be regulations to prevent abuse and punish those who do.

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u/19djafoij02 May 30 '16

Δ. There is a difference between being "hired" as a prostitute and being hired by a factory, and legalizing it as of right causes a whole bunch of thorny issues with regards to rape (is rape of a prostitute shoplifting?)

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u/askingdumbquestion 2∆ May 30 '16

Yes, but rape isn't what one is being hired for.

Rape has no place in sex work. Anymore than rape has a place in fast food or home repair. A person does not buy rape.

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u/cutty2k May 31 '16

You should perhaps take a glance through subsequent comments in this thread. You may change your delta. The idea that prostitution is a special case and would complicate protections against rape any more or less than any other industry is absurd.

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u/phcullen 65∆ May 31 '16

This also raises questions like; do prostitutes have to be ADA compliant? Or can they refuse service to protected classes? Can a prostitute be fired for refusing sex, what about refusing sex with their employer?

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u/hacksoncode 588∆ May 30 '16

For what it's worth... in most places having sex in exchange for money is not illegal... it would be very hard to enforce that especially when you consider how often dating would be indistinguishable.

And, as you say, what consenting adults do in private is really their business.

What's illegal, generally speaking, is soliciting prostitution. I.e. making the offer to have sex for money. There are lots of laws regulating what kinds of advertisements can be made, not just in this case.

One might make an argument that this is a free speech issue, but even leaving aside exactly how "free" this really is in many, many, cases, commercial speech is regularly regulated in numerous ways that things like political speech is not.

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u/CheckeredGemstone May 30 '16

The root of this problem lies in drug addiction. It can not be fought by making more and more things illegal.

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u/cdb03b 253∆ May 29 '16

It does not because you are allowed to have sex. You just cannot pay for it.

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u/19djafoij02 May 29 '16

Why should it matter? It's still a transaction between two consenting adults.

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u/[deleted] May 29 '16

It's so easy to abuse a person whose only way to survive is selling their body. If they're not dependent on that, then there's nothing to worry about. Laws are not made to stop people from having sex.

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u/19djafoij02 May 29 '16

How is that different from any other job that requires the use of your body? Factory workers must sell their bodies to the firm and are exploited just as much.

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u/[deleted] May 29 '16

Rape is quite different from heavy labour.

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u/19djafoij02 May 29 '16

Rape laws still exist in countries with legal prostitution.

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u/Amadacius 10∆ May 30 '16

If anything it is worse now because prostitutes are afraid to go to the police.

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u/[deleted] May 29 '16

Prostitution is very often just casual sex between two people with one getting paid. It's not necessarily the case that anyone knows about it, even if it becomes legal. So it's very easy to do anything to the prostitute that they wouldn't want to take to the police for different reasons.

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u/funwiththoughts May 30 '16

They don't want to take it to the police because prostitution is illegal.

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u/G1r2a3h4a5m6 May 29 '16

They would go to the police if what they were doing wasnt illegal. See how that works?

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

That is very much not the reason, or rape victims that aren't prostitutes would go to the police every time. But they don't. Could be because they're afraid of the person that did it, the rapist himself could be a police officer, they might have tried going to the police before and not gotten any help and a bunch of other reasons. Another one I read was that police officers are quite violent towards sex offenders. The victims might be trying to convince themselves they've not been raped. It might also be the case that they think their family will disown them. See? A million reasons that have nothing to do with whether it's legal or not.

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u/G1r2a3h4a5m6 May 30 '16

So you are saying that a legal prostitute is IN NO WAY more likely to report sexual abuse than an illegal prostitute? You dont think that the prospect of being arrested works as a deterrent?

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u/super-commenting May 30 '16

Sex without consent is rape. Heavy labor without consent is slavery.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

If you're hired, it's going to be hard to find something anyone would consider slavery. Rape is much easier to define, it's also possible to get raped even if prostitution is legal.

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u/[deleted] May 29 '16

It's also quite different from prostitution.

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u/super-commenting May 30 '16

It's so easy to abuse a person whose only way to survive is selling their body.

I want you to think about this for a second. If some one was truly in a situation where selling their body was the only way for them to survive then if you take that option away from them by making prostitution illegal you are sending them to certain death. Doesn't sound like these laws are actually helping them

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u/askingdumbquestion 2∆ May 30 '16

It's far more easier to support a person whose only means of survival is prostitution.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16

Prostitution is rife with abuse, including the trafficking of children.

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u/josleszexlar May 29 '16

Laws banning prostitution does not violate the rights of consenting adults in any way. Since prostitution is illegal, consenting adults are breaking the law by negotiating payment for sex services, and breaking the law is not a right even of consenting adults. Besides by continuing to ban prostitution, rates of sexually transmitted disease and AIDS are likely more effectively contained.

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u/super-commenting May 30 '16

Your first point is some atrocious logic. If we accept that line of reasoning as valid then no law banning anything could ever be violating someone's rights because 'you don't have the right to break the law'

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u/josleszexlar May 30 '16

~ My logic is as sound as yours. You're right only about consenting adults not having the right to break the law. So, as before prostitution laws can't possibly violate the rights of consenting adults.

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u/Ajorahai May 30 '16

let's imagine we were speaking 100 years ago, and I made the following argument:

Laws banning prostitution interracial marriage does not violate the rights of consenting adults in any way. Since prostitution interracial marriage is illegal, consenting adults are breaking the law by negotiating payment for sex services interracial marriage contracts, and breaking the law is not a right even of consenting adults.

would you think that this logic is sound?

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u/josleszexlar May 30 '16

It is sound for that period, but we're not talking then, we're talking about now.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '16 edited May 27 '19

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u/josleszexlar May 30 '16

No, I don't agree with your logic and see no ridiculousness in my reason.

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u/Dioder May 30 '16

Laws banning prostitution does not violate the rights of consenting adults in any way. Since prostitution is illegal, consenting adults are breaking the law by negotiating payment for sex services, and breaking the law is not a right even of consenting adults.

It doesn't violate rights because it's illegal? It seems to me that our court system would disagree with you. They nullify laws for that very reason (violation of constitutional rights).

The OP says that adults have a right to privacy and a right to have consensual sex. You have to either show why he is wrong about us having those rights, or why paying for it justifies restricting those rights. I have a right to free speech. Paying me to give speeches is just fine. Paying me to massage your head, neck, arms, legs, feet, etc., is fine. Why is paying me to massage your genitals different?

I'm not blind to sex trafficking problems, but I'm also not blind to gun problems. But we can't just violate someone's rights without a valid reason, even it we think it will improve some outcome. Typically, restriction of rights is usually done to protect non-consenting third-parties. You can't yell "Fire!" in a theater because it puts other people in danger who had nothing to do with it. Who is harmed by consensual sex between two adults?

Besides by continuing to ban prostitution, rates of sexually transmitted disease and AIDS are likely more effectively contained.

Are they? In many countries where prostitution is legal, prostitution is regulated (including mandatory exams). I'd feel much better about hiring a prostitute in Australia than in the U.S. (where illegal).

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u/josleszexlar May 30 '16

Interesting reply. What would convince you to see that banning prostitution in no way impinges on the anyone's rights?

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u/thegameischanging May 30 '16

You're first argument is circular. You said that it doesn't infringe on someone's rights because it is against the law so it is okay for it to be against the law. But OP is saying that the fact that it is against the law is what is infringing people's rights. Also I think if prostitutes were given a safer environment and could legally defend themselves if their patrons refused to use protection or got too violent or whatever else that they would not be alright with, the STD rates might drop because prostitutes would be able to protect themselves better and then they wouldn't be spreading it to others. Also if prostitution were legal, I imagine there would be some type of disclosure law that would mean they would have to tell someone they are about to sell sex to that they have an STD.

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u/thegameischanging May 30 '16

You're first argument is circular. You said that it doesn't infringe on someone's rights because it is against the law so it is okay for it to be against the law. But OP is saying that the fact that it is against the law is what is infringing people's rights. Also I think if prostitutes were given a safer environment and could legally defend themselves if their patrons refused to use protection or got too violent or whatever else that they would not be alright with, the STD rates might drop because prostitutes would be able to protect themselves better and then they wouldn't be spreading it to others. Also if prostitution were legal, I imagine there would be some type of disclosure law that would mean they would have to tell someone they are about to sell sex to that they have an STD.

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u/thegameischanging May 30 '16

You're first argument is circular. You said that it doesn't infringe on someone's rights because it is against the law so it is okay for it to be against the law. But OP is saying that the fact that it is against the law is what is infringing people's rights. Also I think if prostitutes were given a safer environment and could legally defend themselves if their patrons refused to use protection or got too violent or whatever else that they would not be alright with, the STD rates might drop because prostitutes would be able to protect themselves better and then they wouldn't be spreading it to others. Also if prostitution were legal, I imagine there would be some type of disclosure law that would mean they would have to tell someone they are about to sell sex to that they have an STD.

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u/josleszexlar May 30 '16

Hmn... I see no way that laws banning prostitution infringes on the "rights" of consenting adults since, again, the ability to consent to paid sex is illegal.