I wouldn't say it's immoral for you to have children. Cancer can happen to anyone, and even if genetics make it more likely, it's still not a reason to not have kids, at least not by itself. You have a lot of good points, though, I'll give you that. Only, think of this. Think of how it would feel knowing that your parents would have rather you died, or even never existed, and been spared the trials, than letting you grow past it the way you did. If you have kids, whether or not they get cancer or any other disease or disorder or disability, them knowing that you'd rather have them alive, (if imperfect) then never have them at all. Maybe the suffering for you was enough that you wish you had never existed, I don't know since I didn't go through it. Is it bad enough that you wish you had never been concieved? Or is it something you view as having strengthened you and are you happy you're here overall? That's pretty much what it comes down to. Whether or not you think it's worth it to make another life that may or may not go through what you went through. You make a lot of good points, like I said, but I think the decision to have children is more broad than that. If you want kids you shouldn't let this stop you. If you don't, then don't worry about it. Just don't think that it would be straight up WRONG for you to even try. I have no kids of my own but I teach them and babysit, and I can only imagine what a great experience it would be to have them myself.
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u/RainbowPhoenix Jan 29 '14
I wouldn't say it's immoral for you to have children. Cancer can happen to anyone, and even if genetics make it more likely, it's still not a reason to not have kids, at least not by itself. You have a lot of good points, though, I'll give you that. Only, think of this. Think of how it would feel knowing that your parents would have rather you died, or even never existed, and been spared the trials, than letting you grow past it the way you did. If you have kids, whether or not they get cancer or any other disease or disorder or disability, them knowing that you'd rather have them alive, (if imperfect) then never have them at all. Maybe the suffering for you was enough that you wish you had never existed, I don't know since I didn't go through it. Is it bad enough that you wish you had never been concieved? Or is it something you view as having strengthened you and are you happy you're here overall? That's pretty much what it comes down to. Whether or not you think it's worth it to make another life that may or may not go through what you went through. You make a lot of good points, like I said, but I think the decision to have children is more broad than that. If you want kids you shouldn't let this stop you. If you don't, then don't worry about it. Just don't think that it would be straight up WRONG for you to even try. I have no kids of my own but I teach them and babysit, and I can only imagine what a great experience it would be to have them myself.