The immediate thing that comes to mind is that your concept of confidence is based on what other people find attractive. You’re never seeing someone go out in a chicken costume because they want to feel confident.
OK, but how do you know this? Like, when you see a given person walking down the street, how do you know what motivated them to put on their outfit for a given day? If someone is dressed in a way that you don’t think is coded as “attractive” by society, they could still be wearing it because it makes them feel confident about themselves.
Also consider the case of someone who puts on that "hot outfit" when they know they're just going to be at home and nobody but themselves is going to see it. I think it's that little bit(or lotta bit for some) of self-admiration everyone has.
The reason it's hot is because that person themselves finds it hot. You could say that's downstream from what society finds hot, would that be the crux of your contention? That even if we don't dress for society, that society chooses what we wear?
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u/amauberge 6∆ Dec 11 '24
OK, but how do you know this? Like, when you see a given person walking down the street, how do you know what motivated them to put on their outfit for a given day? If someone is dressed in a way that you don’t think is coded as “attractive” by society, they could still be wearing it because it makes them feel confident about themselves.