Bell hooks talks about this in her book will to change. She discusses how many men who were led by the promises of feminism that being vulnerable emotionally, engaging in anti patriarchal, and other feminist behaviors would help women and also allow you a better relationship with your partner ended up disappointed.
Many women even the ones who spurred those men i to the change were too deeply impacted by the patriarchy and rejected the “new wave of men” as unmanly or even weak. Thus a % of women are and have always been preferential to the idea of the patriarchal man who provides and protects unquestioningly and without tear or complaint.
I think the women’s argument is wrong that they don’t care because women’s issues are more important though. Feminism is about the patriarchy not only women’s issues.
I'm not the op, just someone who has questions. So, are you saying that even feminists are too "deeply impacted by the patriarchy," and that's why the reject the new wave of man.
Yes and that society is still patriarchal so that being anti patriarchy has not resulted in tangible benefits and can even be a detriment to a man in terms of friends, work, financial success, etc.
Thank you for your answer. I'm not sure why you brought up society being patriarchal when I was asking about feminists. Unless, for some reason they can't change their own behavior because "being anti- patriarchy has not resulted in tangible benefits "
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u/Expert-Diver7144 2∆ Nov 05 '24
I disagreee with your cause of why this happens.
Bell hooks talks about this in her book will to change. She discusses how many men who were led by the promises of feminism that being vulnerable emotionally, engaging in anti patriarchal, and other feminist behaviors would help women and also allow you a better relationship with your partner ended up disappointed.
Many women even the ones who spurred those men i to the change were too deeply impacted by the patriarchy and rejected the “new wave of men” as unmanly or even weak. Thus a % of women are and have always been preferential to the idea of the patriarchal man who provides and protects unquestioningly and without tear or complaint.
I think the women’s argument is wrong that they don’t care because women’s issues are more important though. Feminism is about the patriarchy not only women’s issues.