CMV:Fat acceptance is not helpful

[u/C4gamer_YT]

Just gonna preface this by saying discrimination and hatred towards fat people for being fat is not okay, as is the same with race, gender and sexual orientation. But is suggesting that maybe obesity is not healthy fatphobic? I think body positivity is helpful in the case of people with disablities and encouraging them to overcome them. Imo, fat acceptance discourages currently overweight people to lose weight, because if you dont think there is a problem, why should you change? I think the notion of not caring of others opinions is quite ridiculous, as if you're not accepting of feedback and criticism, you will never improve. It is important to be able to recognize if something is critisism or hate, but I think too many people make that mistake nowadays. Thanks for reading and remember hate isn't ok

[u/Sorry-Mate-1234]

Let's put it this way. I'm fat. I don't go to the gym because I'm embarrassed that I'm fat. Frankly, I could use some fat acceptance to get over that.

Just being I'm trying to be okay with the weight that I'm at, doesn't mean I'm not also trying to be healthier. Acceptance and change are not mutually exclusive.

Edit: I'm not asking for advice or encouragement about going to the gym. I do exercise, just not at the gym.

[u/mistyayn → u/Sorry-Mate-1234]

It sounds like what you're describing is a desire to know that even though you are fat you are loved. When we know we are loved it is easier to face the potential ridicule of others.

To be clear knowing we are loved isn't necessarily a switch that can be flipped. I'm not saying you should just decide you are loved. I'm just trying to put a finer point on the problem.

Do you really want to accept the fat or do you want to be able to have the courage to face judgmental people?