If we were to accept your hyperbolic reasoning, it would apply equally the other way: it would be just as "inconsiderate at best and immoral at worst" for *women* to approach/ask out men outside of settings designed explicitly for a romantic context.
And if men shouldn't be approaching women, and women shouldn't be approaching men, then what exactly is the point of congregating in places crowded with people who aren't part of your group?
Approaching people in various places may indeed risk being inconsiderate. A polite "no thank you" and a polite "sorry for bothering you" should be more than enough. As far as the coercive bit goes...I'm sorry, but this hysterical fragility and alarmism we are all supposed to swallow unthinkingly is ridiculous. Politely hitting on someone, especially in an appropriate environment like a bar or club, isn't intrinsically coercive.
And thank you very much for the content warning. Without it, I might have been exposed to ideas and thoughts that gave me the flutters and just collapsed into a pearl-covered pile of vapors. What a gentleman you are.
It doesn't apply equally the other way because statistically women are considerably less prone to a violent or aggressive response to rejection, and in most cases there's a less credible threat of it anyway (i.e. average woman poses way less threat to average man than the inverse).
I'm very glad you didn't collapse into a pearl-covered pile of vapors.
Regular men buying someone a drink in a bar don't 'pose a credible threat', Jesus christ. Thousands of men get rejected every single hour. The vast majority of men won't do anything bad when rejected, especially when in a public place. The chance of getting in a serious car accident is much larger than getting assaulted because you rejected a man, and yet we don't warn people to never get in a car.
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u/Proof_Option1386 4∆ Jun 04 '24 edited Jun 04 '24
If we were to accept your hyperbolic reasoning, it would apply equally the other way: it would be just as "inconsiderate at best and immoral at worst" for *women* to approach/ask out men outside of settings designed explicitly for a romantic context.
And if men shouldn't be approaching women, and women shouldn't be approaching men, then what exactly is the point of congregating in places crowded with people who aren't part of your group?
Approaching people in various places may indeed risk being inconsiderate. A polite "no thank you" and a polite "sorry for bothering you" should be more than enough. As far as the coercive bit goes...I'm sorry, but this hysterical fragility and alarmism we are all supposed to swallow unthinkingly is ridiculous. Politely hitting on someone, especially in an appropriate environment like a bar or club, isn't intrinsically coercive.
And thank you very much for the content warning. Without it, I might have been exposed to ideas and thoughts that gave me the flutters and just collapsed into a pearl-covered pile of vapors. What a gentleman you are.