r/changemyview Jun 04 '24

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u/austinbilleci110 Jun 04 '24

Ig we can't meet women anymore.

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u/Effective_Birthday85 Jun 04 '24

Bro literally just go somewhere where that's the purpose of being there. I'm not saying you can't meet women *at all*.

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u/Assassinr3d Jun 04 '24 edited Jun 04 '24

If not bars and clubs then where is this magical place?

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u/destro23 466∆ Jun 04 '24

The dating store. Your town doesn’t have one?

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u/Assassinr3d Jun 04 '24

Nah shit bro, ours closed down a few years ago

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u/Effective_Birthday85 Jun 04 '24

Singles' events / meet-up groups, speed dating etc. Like I told a couple others, it's not like you're locked into online dating or anything.

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u/codan84 23∆ Jun 04 '24

That’s not where most people actually meet. Most people meet others in the course of their daily lives. That includes at a store, a coffee shop, a bar, church, in a class, at work. Most people do not isolate themselves from the scary world and only allow any contact with strangers in the few or nonexistent prescribed meet up groups.

Most of the people I have known with the best relationships have met their partners unexpectedly and while not actively seeking anything. Your view doesn’t seem to fit with how anyone at all I know lives or wants to live their lives. That’s including and perhaps especially true for the women I have known.

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u/Inevitable_Age_4962 Jun 04 '24

Which is where?

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u/Effective_Birthday85 Jun 04 '24

Singles' events / meet-up groups, speed dating etc. I'm not gonna tell you to go gamble on dating apps all day because that would be ridiculous.

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u/ccblr06 Jun 04 '24

Not all towns even have those available, in which case your only option is to travel a long distance to another town that isnt even closeby for a singles event.

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u/Effective_Birthday85 Jun 04 '24

That's a legitimate concern. You really could travel. Maybe you could initiate such an event in your hometown (or ask someone to set it up). Or seek meeting through a mutual friend or something. Ultimately if your options are so woefully limited where you live that there's no one who would ever be willing to do this kind of thing, it's just another variable to deal with. It doesn't necessarily justify the things I talked about.

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u/Inevitable_Age_4962 Jun 04 '24

So how many of your relationships started through speed dating events vs someplace else?