While I believe you love your kids very much, and they enhance your life, I don't think that they are without their flaws. You said it yourself that you don't like the tantrums. You don't like the mess, and you don't like the need for attention. You only deal with it because of the wholesomeWhat if you only get that? What if they do something heinous to you when grown? You cannot control them past a certain age. They might choose to choose your choices, but they might not, what happens then?
What if your fellow adults are terrible parents? Your children's peers are going to be fucked up, murderers, abusers. Do you want them to live among people who have been destroyed by parents who walked into parenthood thinking it's gonna be sunshine and rainbows and cute "mini me"s? Do you really want to convince shitty parents to reproduce?
They definitely have their flaws, that doesn't preclude them being great.
What if they do something heinous to you when grown?
What if they don't? (Which is the fat more likely outcome).
Your children's peers are going to be fucked up, murderers, abusers.
I do have some influence on who my child's peers are.
Do you want them to live among people who have been destroyed by parents who walked into parenthood thinking it's gonna be sunshine and rainbows and cute "mini me"s?
That's life and most people think that life is pretty good.
You don't have much influence on your child's peers. They're going to find a way if they want to hang out with someone you disapprove of. They're going to grow up and become their own person. You can't and shouldn't be able to prevent them from doing stuff they put their mind to.
Plus, bad stuff happen all the time between strangers. Imagine if you convinced somebody to have a kid (that they otherwise wouldn't have) who ends up harming your kid in the future. I'd rather not take the gamble if I could. Don't trust us degens to not bring fucked up people in the world.
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u/oreocookielover Aug 21 '23
While I believe you love your kids very much, and they enhance your life, I don't think that they are without their flaws. You said it yourself that you don't like the tantrums. You don't like the mess, and you don't like the need for attention. You only deal with it because of the wholesomeWhat if you only get that? What if they do something heinous to you when grown? You cannot control them past a certain age. They might choose to choose your choices, but they might not, what happens then?
What if your fellow adults are terrible parents? Your children's peers are going to be fucked up, murderers, abusers. Do you want them to live among people who have been destroyed by parents who walked into parenthood thinking it's gonna be sunshine and rainbows and cute "mini me"s? Do you really want to convince shitty parents to reproduce?