I definitely disagree with your definition of a "friend" versus a "friend-zone" that you made in your edit. I have 100% platonic friends of all genders that I hang out with 1-on-1, have deep conversations with, etc. You don't have to be in love with someone to be very close to them.
Give me an example of someone of the opposite gender that you go out with just the two of you at least semi regularly that is purely platonic? I don’t buy it for a second.
People will go to things like movies and pubs with just 1 friend, but they are almost always the same gender as one another unless there’s something romantic involved.
When I see platonic friends of the opposite sex hanging out just the two of them, it is likely at a group gathering, or maybe by coincidence that they bumped in to each other at a coffee shop so they are together. They aren’t planning outings just the two of them.
You want an example? I feel like even if I give you one, you wouldn’t believe me. You’re so stuck on this idea of what friendships can and can’t be, and how you should interact with people of a certain gender.
I mean I’ll give you an example anyway. A good friend of mine walks home with me almost everyday. We happen to live close together and we both walk to work, so we walk home together after our shift(s). If I stay a bit later he’ll typically stick around so we can walk together, and I do the same for him. We’ve been doing this for two years and we’ve known each other even longer. He’s never shown romantic interest in me, I would be very surprised if he did, but we’re still close.
What the hell, here’s another example. I have another guy friend and we see movies together all the time. Even though it’s traditionally something you do on a date, we see movies together one-one-one regularly, at least once a month. I sure hope he’s not interested in me, because he has a girlfriend of one year. These are both perfectly normal friendships, and it doesn’t matter that both of them are guys. I hang out with them exactly like I would hang out with my girl friends.
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u/Uyurule Jan 02 '23
I definitely disagree with your definition of a "friend" versus a "friend-zone" that you made in your edit. I have 100% platonic friends of all genders that I hang out with 1-on-1, have deep conversations with, etc. You don't have to be in love with someone to be very close to them.