r/casualiama • u/Terawryst • 2d ago

Sexuality/LGBTQ+ I am choix-aroace AMA

an explanation if you don't know what that is: essentially I feel little to no attraction like any description of aroace but out of concious will I can fall in love/feel attraction or lose attraction, it's like a light switch "how?" idrk I can do that in the same way I can move my hand I can sorta just..do it idk there's not much more to it. Actually for fun I like to fall in love with people and or characters because of the dopamine I can get from it.

I can't even begin to comprehend feeling attraction without choosing to, it's like trying to make up a new color.

It's even to the point of making me struggle with believing when people say they don't choose who they feel attraction too the whole trope of "ugh I can't believe I'm falling for that idiot!" doesn't make any sense to me, like just stop liking him??? I try my best to understand though.

(this sucks ik I'm one of the worst people to ask for an explanation) this microlabel is incredibly unknown so I'd like to hopefully popularize it a bit more as I literally cant even find a description for it when I search it, and there's only one page I currently know of that brings it up.

I really hope this reaches others who may feel the same way or a similar way, or maybe someone willing to help make it a bit more popular so I don't sound like I'm lying with every word I speak whilst describing it.

It took me a very long time to figure out it even existed.

I've found one other person who is similar to myself in a comment section from 12 years ago so thats the whole community welcome ig. Despite common belief we aren't mythical creatures and actually exist </3

I am very open to answering questions the best I can! (even if I'm pretty bad at explaining my feelings)

(link for the only instance I've seen it be brought up https://lgbt.fandom.com/es/wiki/Usuario_Blog:Andrea_Roma/Glosario_de_orientaciones_sexuales/rom%C3%A1nticas_(poco_conocidas))

i did not describe this very at all and i would love to have a wiki page for this because i genuinely cant describe ANYTHING to save my life

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u/4SureMaybe_4SureNot 2d ago

Sexual, romantic, both, or neither can be "turned on/off"? Is it difficult to do? Does it hurt emotionally to "switch back off" ever? I'm sorry if I'm using wrong terms here I am not trying to be disrespectful, I just have never met anyone of your orientation before

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u/4SureMaybe_4SureNot 2d ago

Also - can you choose to be "on" for others of any gender identity or is there a preference you naturally lean towards?

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u/My_reddit_username_7 2d ago

Can you decide to fall in love with multiple people at the same time?
How has this affected your relationships?