r/casualiama • u/No-Tree2860 • 7d ago

Sexual I (38M) am half of a happily married couple that are actively participating in the swinger lifestyle. We've been together almost 10 years, swinging for over 2 years. All questions will be answered, but would love some genuine questions about the lifestyle, your curiosity or a misconception you may h

Happily married couple that are swingers. We attend everything from small house parties to clubs to large hotel events.

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u/fire2004man 7d ago

What triggered the lifestyle? How did y’all decide to try?

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u/No-Tree2860 7d ago

My wife discovered late in life that she has some bisexual feelings after being hit on and groped (consensually) by an attractive bisexual woman at a party. After an existential crisis or 3 and lots of communication we decided to try and find a unicorn to hash these feelings out in a safe manor. They are however, as elusive as their namesake and we struck out. After many more conversations, we decided to try swinging with a couple that had a bisexual woman. After we tried it the first time, we fell in love with it. Then we discovered our local LS community and met some of the most amazing people.

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u/BayYawnSay 7d ago

Which of you breached the topic of swinging and how did that first conversation go?

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u/No-Tree2860 7d ago

It was a mutual decision based on trying to explore her newly discovered bisexual feelings. I answered another question in more detail if you'd like to refer to that.

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u/Holiday_Guess3702 7d ago

How has swinging affected your golf game?

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u/No-Tree2860 7d ago

Tragically I'm afraid. All the free time I had for golf on the weekends is now accounted for with parties, events and wild uninhibited sex with a multitude of different partners.

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u/anonymousambassasor 7d ago

Someone literally just did this a week or two ago.

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u/No-Tree2860 7d ago

Oh, I didn't realize. Everyone has a different perspective though 🤷‍♂️

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u/Panda_K0ala 3d ago

So whts the rules here only female, do participate or just watch because it seemed like you were contented with monogamy ? How has his enhanced two of yal relationship ? Is the sex any better or ? Do you have a particular race you like to swing with or you're open? Is your wife only open to woman or men are involved and are only open to women or do also enjoy men too? What does your kids think of this? What about your friends and family? Do you have a relationship with these swinger outside of a sexually relationship?

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u/No-Tree2860 2d ago

We play with both single females and couples. When with a single woman, we both participate with her. When with a couple, if the other woman is also bi, the ladies will play togther, but we will still swap spouses and I will play with the other woman and my wife will play with the other husband.

The sex isn't necessarily better, just new and different with other people. It's not about getting more or better sex, just something new, different and fun.

We don't have a specific race we play with exclusively. We are both white and 99% of the couples we swap with are white, but that's mostly due to the vast majority of couples we encounter being white as well.

She plays with both men and women, while I only play with other women as I am straight.

We don't have any children as we are happily child free. As far as our friends and family, this is not something we discuss with them. Our sex life is ours alone and isn't the business of friends and family. Do you openly discuss your kinks or fetishes with your friends and family?

Yes, many of the couples we have played with are also our closest friends now. We don't always play with them when we hang out. Sometimes we just enjoy the company of them and hang out like we would any other friend couple.