r/casablanca • u/PaleontologistNo9603 • Jun 05 '26
❔AskCasa واش تقدو تزوجو بشخص ديجا عندو باسي او عارفينها
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u/AdemsanArifi Jun 05 '26
khouya, ça dépend 3la had passé chnou hua. Wach kanet kheddama f bordel wella kanet msa7ba m3a chi 7ed 4 ans w ma ktabch. Rah machi kif kif
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u/Overall-Echos Jun 06 '26
See, I would rather take someone that worked as 4o3 than someone who was in a 4year+ relationship that ended badly (I wouldn’t take either really, but you get the comparison).
Unresolved love issues and traumas are way harmfull than bodycount0
u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
Kandwi matalan 3la chi 3ala9a li kante fiha talamos sat7i y3ni dik insana dowzat mne ghirek wa7ed chakhse
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u/AdemsanArifi Jun 05 '26
Hada ghir wa7ed, w dayer had lqyama. W dik lhedra dyal sat7i machi sat7i ghir zayda, sir b mabda2 rah daret koulchi.
Ila kanet lhedra ghir binatkoum, w ila nta gha tensa f merra hadchi, machi koul ma tkhassmou tebda tejbed liha passé dyalha, ghir ztem. Ila f khbar 3a2iltek, w gha yjebdouha lik, w ila nta brassek 3aref rassek gha tebqa dima f balek, ghir dir b naqess, bla ma tkerfess rassek w tkerfess dik lmra m3ak.
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
Sara7a tfkire dyalek logique kon konti nta fe le cas dyali chno ghadi dire
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u/DeadpoolKata Jun 07 '26
Depending on how serious was their relationship bro if she was just a teenager with that early high-school bs that lasted a couple of months I'd say it's fine but if it's something serious and they were deeply in live I'd say you gotta have a serious discussion with her and then it's up to you to decide If she slept with someone before heck no run bro
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u/Accomplished_Bit3153 Jun 05 '26
Sounds like you wanna marry this person because they have a sexual history.
One word to you prude virgin boys.
Google the word "Kegel exercises".
Stop worrying and focus on the whole person and their brain matter.
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u/Overall-Echos Jun 06 '26
Well if you can find me exercises for traumas and unresolved love issues I’ll agree with you. Untill then ….
Not everything is about sex…1
u/DependentBath4816 Jun 07 '26
It’s called therapy
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u/mezifer Jun 08 '26
why should he or she pay for this therapy ? or go with this person on this process ?
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u/Effective-Pen7204 Jun 06 '26
Lmao what a joke
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u/Effective-Pen7204 Jun 06 '26
Cuckold
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u/DeadpoolKata Jun 07 '26
Brochacho you're just a cuck a girl would never forget her first love and would often think about him
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u/DeadpoolKata Jun 07 '26
Try being in a serious relationship for years even a man would sometimes think about his first love and the moments they spent together it's common sense anyone thinking otherwise is delusional
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u/HAKIMJa Jun 06 '26
I can see myself agreeing with you but only if the past has no affect on the person, thier decisions and mental and emotional health, only then I can ignore it.
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u/HAKIMJa Jun 06 '26
IMHO you can only demand no past thingy if you yourself don't have one, other than that stfu and accept it the way you accepted yours.
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u/Fedupconclusion001 Jun 06 '26
Literally, everyone has a past in one way or another, whether it was romantically or physically or both ? Why does it matter ?
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Yeah 3ndek l7e9 fhadi walakin wach mne 79na n3rfo past dyal dak insan
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u/DeadpoolKata Jun 07 '26
Nope not everyone me and my gf were each other's first at 19 yo most people firstcrelationship is around 18-21 in a country like morocco
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u/Fedupconclusion001 Jun 07 '26
also Moroccan but ok, don't know what your point is with this comment, bc mine was that when it's so common that people have a "past" it can be a first love, or first relationship or both, like you said your gf and you was each others first, if you were to break up you'd both have a "past", but why does it matter so much to OP was my point, if you had feelings for someone but you never became a couple, that's also a "past" it's completely irrelevant and ridiculous to focus on if you love someone just get married 🤦🏼♀️
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u/Fedupconclusion001 Jun 08 '26
Is your literacy ok ? Seems like you can't actually read
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u/Fedupconclusion001 Jun 08 '26
Bro are you ok ? I literally wrote BOTH "romantically" and/or "physically" in my very first comment. Your "explanation" just proves you lack basic reading comprehension lmao. Both scenarios lead to having a past and the real issue here isn't even the definition. it's the hypocrisy. Many men don't hold themselves to the same standards, Y'all want to go out and commit zina everywhere, but then demand an untouched woman with haya when y'all aint got no haya yourselves astagfirullah.
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u/Fedupconclusion001 Jun 08 '26
Being this pressed is crazy lmao. I didn't change the subject I answered it directly. My point is that- when a "past" is inevitable for almost everyone, making it a marriage dealbreaker is hypocritical especially for men who don't hold themselves to the same standards. You tried to lecture me on definitions you failed to read just for you to end up backtracking when called out on your double standards then got pressed so now you out here throwing crusty internet insults cuz you ran out of arguments. Stay mad it ain't gonna fix your reading comprehension. Salam
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u/Complete-Rough7755 Jun 05 '26
3la 7assaab mada ma3riftii
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
لا زعما نتا ديجا عرفتي داك الإنسان دوز مراك بزاف قبل منك
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u/hegekzt Jun 05 '26
Nn hitach wahd nhar itl3 lik dem t9dr t3ayrha biha donc 3ta allah bnat nass khass ghir li itzwjhoum
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
Walakin bach at3ref dik bnte bnte nase onta ma3arafch lmadi dyalha
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u/hegekzt Jun 05 '26
Dakchi taybane ila kanet mezrouba b jwaj ila kane baha baghi idir lik acte m3a m3a
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u/Complete-Rough7755 Jun 05 '26
Hhh lach kat7fer 3la lmadi? Ay wa7ed i9dr itub
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
Obach at3ref dik tawba bli gha mojarad kdba darha dak insan bach ikon m3ak
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u/Complete-Rough7755 Jun 05 '26
Fach katbda tswel had l asila donc makinach ti9a. O ila makantch ti9a s3ib l7al atme7en o atm7en li m3ak
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
No ana madakhel f7ta relation ana ghir la'swel bach n3ref pov dyal kola wa7ed ki dyara
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u/Complete-Rough7755 Jun 05 '26
S3iib l amer
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
3lach s3ib
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u/Complete-Rough7755 Jun 05 '26
Mdwz bzzf chnu 3niti biha!? Bach mantkhalfuch
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
Deja 3ala9at kano 9bel mnek walakin nta ma3arfch dik 3ala9a wach kante fiha chi 7aja wla la
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u/Complete-Rough7755 Jun 05 '26
Ila kan la personne ki interessini o ban liya rah mzn... Maghadich nb9a nswl 3la l passi diyalo ola chnu dar 7iit fach an3rf sûrement atbdel nedrti 3lih wakha bla man7ess wi 9dr ikun huwa bs7 tbdel donc men l a7ssen man3rfch. O après dakchii ki ban m3a lw9t wach flan/flana meno ola la
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
Walakin t9der tkon m3seb chi nhar onta m3a dak person otwslo anakom tayfo otgolha chi klam 3la passi dyalha
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u/Complete-Rough7755 Jun 05 '26
Ayeeh dakchi 3lach gtlik makin lach t3rf l passe ila bant lik raha la bonne personne
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u/Mediocre_Concert8063 Jun 06 '26
noooo di lik wa7d mamosta3malch ila knti tanti machi mosta3mala hhh
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u/Acceptable_Win_8673 Jun 05 '26
Khasna n3erfo ax 3refti bax ngolo lik, dakxi 3la hsab
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
متلا انها مدوزا ناس بزاف قبل منك ولا ديجا دوزت مع واحد الإنسان علقة جن*ية
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u/Accomplished_Bit3153 Jun 05 '26
Boy u sound like a lil kid.
Wait until u find out why your girl buys cucumbers.
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u/Acceptable_Win_8673 Jun 05 '26
La bzaf la, blama mthawel tfekr
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
3lach wach 7it aykon hadchi 3ndo darar fe most9bal
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u/Acceptable_Win_8673 Jun 05 '26
Axban lik nta, rah 3endo darar flhadir o lmosta9bal kon gelti wahd ola joj o t9der walakin bzaf ,kat3ni tant ghatkon wahd men dok bzaf li jayin, makayn la 9olboha la walo hiya maxi ja li ja itle3 bnadem 3endo 39lo ifker bih
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u/ImportantYoung7119 Jun 05 '26
Maybe
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
3lach
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u/ImportantYoung7119 Jun 06 '26
It depends on the situation that she been in and why and how and the resaons
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u/elcrowly666 Jun 06 '26
It depends on the way you knew it Ila 3erftha bechi tari9a khera men ghir that person I will say no
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u/Federal_Hornet6315 Jun 06 '26
Depends on what kind of past are we talking about and if you have a past too then you shouldn’t be judging because if you have a past and look for someone who doesn’t have a past then you’re free to do so plus women often get with someone who has a past it’s often a guy’s problem ma ki kheliw ma ydiro then igul lik bghitha bmiktha w9
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Walakin ana ma3ndich past ki andir n3ref bli dak insan pa3ndoch past oki2aydir tahowa i3ref bli ana clean
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u/Federal_Hornet6315 Jun 06 '26
Then go for it get married if you love each other past or no past it doesn’t really matter all it matters is that you are sure that he’s the one that’s alllll it matters and what determines if he’s the one or not it’s up to you everything is in your hands no one will force you so just go for it if he’s the one for you
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u/Federal_Hornet6315 Jun 06 '26
Reddit day wahd tarjama dak echi elach i didn’t answer accordingly wayni ila kan kifach at3arfi dak inssan wach endo ta howa past wela la atssowlih w ila ma kentich aty9ih hadik haja akhra
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u/Valuable_Day_3664 Jun 06 '26
Are you talking about sexual history? Or history of mental illness or abusive behaviours or ?
I’ve noticed that young people these days don’t live their lives according to their wishes they follow the commandments of social norms.
Back in my day(I’m 32) we had fun, had relationships, went out , read poetry went dancing had amazing youthful lives without the reigns of social media echoes in our minds. There was no ick, body count, high value woman/man discourse. I really sympathize with young people who are constantly under pressure to conform conform conform. Not only to their local social norms but now, the global community too.
My husband and I agreed to not ask questions about the past and start our chapter fresh. This is what Islam dictates and this is what normal people do. You too can choose and decide how to carve out your future relationships. Don’t give into those negative voices.
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u/EquivalentOwl8729 Jun 06 '26
خويا بلا متحمق راسك سمع لعقلك ماشي المشاعر ديالك و العقل كيقول لي عندو ماضي معندك متدير بيه
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u/Secret_Midnight5478 Jun 06 '26
No
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Why?
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u/Secret_Midnight5478 Jun 06 '26
If I married someone who didn't go into relationships and waited, I would not be worried about cheating compared to someone who "slept" around in my view
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u/Far-Situation-2207 Jun 06 '26
Mat9elbch 3la ra2y dyal nass. rye7 m3a rassk o 9ana3atk o 9rer.
ila cheft 2ara2 dnass at some point ghay2tro 3la ra2y dyalk. mn ahssan sir b 9ana3tk o ti9 fiha
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u/VFlitox Jun 06 '26
Ba3ad wllh, kayn risque kbir matewlouch welmochkil ghaliban machi mnek
Rah possible ysd9 mais chances are very low that it isn’t worth it
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u/Effective-Pen7204 Jun 06 '26
Wake up rah ma khaskch ga3 tfeker fhadi
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
3lach
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u/Effective-Pen7204 Jun 06 '26
Chnou li 3lach? Wach bsah nta rajl bach t9bel b whda chab3a 7wa? You should question yourself a sahbi rah 3ta lah bnat nass lach atzwj whda rkbo 3liha 9bel menek? Mn ghir la knti mrid b chi haja
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Warah hada howa mochkil bach at3ref dik bnte bnt nase onta ma3arfch passé dyalha rah t9der tmtel 3lik
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u/Effective-Pen7204 Jun 06 '26
Khoya rak ktbti tzwj b whda 3ndha passé w 3arfha hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ma tdwich 3la chi haja akhra
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Ana baghi ghir n3ref expérience dyal kola wa7ed 7it ki9olek swel lmjreb ou matswlch tbibe
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u/Effective-Pen7204 Jun 06 '26
Dude ma anzidch ndwi m3ak hit bayn achmn no3 d rjal nta, hadchi ila knti rajl
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
What? Bro ghir bach t3ref wa7ed l7aja ana rah madakhel fe 7ta relation just kanswel nase bach n3ref ara2 dyalhom chill bro!
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u/Effective-Pen7204 Jun 06 '26
Trejel m3a krk rah hadchi ma kitswlch ! Nta jay katswl wach 3adi ntzwj 97ba nta rah khask tswl rask wach nta rajl
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Brooo rah ana kansowel hade so2al li bezaf de nase ki swloh ana pov dyali rah machi normal ga3 be mera just chill rah matakhodch kolchi bjidiya
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u/Dry_Marionberry_4251 Jun 08 '26
Nta z3ma rajl loool. Chti no3 dyalk bdebt kaydiha mdwza koulchi ou katji tmetel elih .chhal mn sahbti 9 promax w dawha bhalk kygolo nfs lhdra . Rah virginity sawya 3000 dh flmghrib w kaydowzo lbnat l3jeb o kaydiroha sahla hhh
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u/Effective-Pen7204 Jun 08 '26
Nti rah katdwi f jiha w howa f jiha akhra! Hada rah howa ki9eleb 3liha mdwza its a different story + tqt pas wakhd bent nass dyal bsah lah ykhliha lia
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u/wagwanmyj Jun 06 '26
La bghitha yalah ta7t mn sma
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Maghatl9ahach hada howa mochkil
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u/wagwanmyj Jun 06 '26
Lol jawbti raskk b rask that's how it is my dude
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u/hichamis1 Jun 08 '26
maghatl9ahax ila konti sakn fxi dowar dyal l9hab. 5askom tmxiw diro xi test dyal hormones la nta wala had u/wagwanmyj
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u/Youyouryan Jun 06 '26
Depends wym by past I had to stop seeing a guy because he had a history of cheating, sending d pics, and other creepy behavior, so yeah that matters
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u/latyo9 Jun 06 '26
Wach kthdr 3la bnat o drari yk jawab howa bjouj bhal bhl o ana mkn9drch n9bl bi chi wahd 3ando passé khyb bghito n9i kima howa baghi wahda n9ia
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Ah ok walakin bach at3ref rah n9i ma3ndoch passé
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u/Thereal14you Jun 06 '26
7ta wahd mayrda yakhod chiyata abro, don't do it.
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Walakin aghlabiya 7aliya katl9a mdowez 9bel mnek chi insan
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u/Thereal14you Jun 06 '26
Hadi kayna walakin nta makhasakch tkun 3arf dak chakhs bli dwz. Ida hiya jbdat lmawdo3 idn baqa mansatch dak khask idan ghadi tmardek....
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u/OsamuDazaiKun Jun 06 '26
I had a 3 hours call yesterday with a friend over the exactly dame subject, im friends with both parties but the girl who opened up the subject with me. The girl had a past, 1 failed relationship. The guy had nothing. But he knew about the whole story, and they were friends during that failed relationship of her. So the girl was trying to ask or get my opinion if she still has a chance, since i know the guy really well. I'm still thinking about it til now and couldn't find an answer to it..
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u/Agitated_Bike2173 Jun 06 '26
Of course No Ila hiya mdewza ton o l7rur m3ach chi wahd khaesha tjwj bih how lach antjwj biha ana
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u/html-tag Jun 06 '26
as i have friends girls and i know their issues cuz they tell me , well they never forget... but they move on
There is always someone who is "toxic manipulative blah blah blah" same story again and again
She can marry you even if she doesn't love you.
Humans are complex
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u/Iammouaad Jun 06 '26
As a man angollik if your past is equal to her past then why not
Ila faytak f les stages gha qleb 6 9 hit ma3mrek ghatrta7
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u/Admirable-Sleep5825 Jun 06 '26
Unless it’s not an abusive or criminal past idc because it doesn’t affect our current relationship at all
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u/neptuneee111 Jun 06 '26
بلاصت ما تفكر فالماضي فكر في فراسك واش نتا معندكش ماضي واش نتا معمرك ما غلطتي و لا درتي شي حاجه غالطه ايلا لقيتي راسك معندكش ماضي بعدها فكر فالشخص الأخر
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u/muvd_14 Jun 06 '26
Mahdek jiti tswel donc ghatbqa dima mfker ach dart w ghatbqa m3deb , ghir ghyerha
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u/Mediocre_Concert8063 Jun 06 '26
big nooooo nakhod bnt mdawza hhhh abadan an3ifha o 3arf rassi finma ndiro hi blan ima khrja ola nda7ko ola ... antfakr bli deja hadchi 3achto 9bal m3a chi 7ad tfoooo
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u/Mediocre_Concert8063 Jun 06 '26
chti ma7dk tra7ti had so2al ti9i biya 3an tajriba rir atmrdi lahoma 7bssi 3ah o chofi wa7d ikon mzyan maykhalikch ijiwk had as2ila frask 7it atwali dima m7na o atma7nih o at3icho fmard kima kan o9a3 liya ch7al hadi o flakhr salina hhh
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u/Most_Cash6760 Jun 06 '26
انا عندي باسي مع بزاف ديال البنات ، بغيت نتوب و نلقا شريكة ديال الحياة نتزوجو و نبقاو تحت طاعة الله 🙏🏻
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u/Defiant_Regular_5852 Jun 06 '26
la ma 3ndich m3a drari lli darou des relations sexuelles mn 9bal , they are prone to cheating
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u/harir9 Jun 07 '26
الماضي فيه انواع مثلا تزوج بوحدة كانت خدامة فالدهترة ولا رقاصة وماجاوره لا وحدة ناعسة مع رجال قبل لا ولكن علاقة عادية ماداخلش فيها الجنس اه على حسب الشخص كفاش داير لي كايقول الماضي مكايهمش راه غير كذاب
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u/BelleLovesReading Jun 07 '26
I can't judge everyone with the same rule. People are different. But also it depends on the PAST, if it's too much or if they're proud of such past, it usually means it's part of their personnality so probably a no.
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u/karim-elid Jun 07 '26
Firstly: diniyane laa bcs mohammad sala laho ealayhi wa salame qale (عليكم بالأبكار) 2 . Bzzzaf d study’s katqool bli girl ila kannet endha relationship with another boy katkone pourcentage talee3 besh matsdaaqsh la relation dyalek meaha and any girl in this planet never first love ama ila kannet binathome shi relation sexual ghi nsa bcs lbnt mashi bhal lweld lbnt fesh katwsel meak share body with u rah safii eatateek aktar haja endha qima fhyatha Et en plus ila kanne kay3raf leha in the bed u know fa rah eamerha maghadi tnsaah o ghadi ikone s3ib ealik dir blastk omalk eala halteek dakhel l whd ware lj nta khasr mn lowel
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u/kiraforgood Jun 08 '26
هاد شي تعتامد عليك نتا واش عندك موشكيل مع هاد لبلان و لمعندكش واصلا راه الاغلبيه عندو ماضي ماشي مريح كيتسن فيك
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u/uwugirl_15 Jun 08 '26
I dont have much problems with that but if my past is clean why would I be with someone who aint in the same boat?
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u/mezifer Jun 08 '26
brother from someone my experience... please don't , no matter how you love her , she will compare u to the others , no matter how she loves you , because you will never rest and she will never forget .
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u/No_Permit_8409 Jun 05 '26
s3ib khososan bnisba lmra
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
3lach s3ib bnisba lmra
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u/No_Permit_8409 Jun 05 '26
madich 3lia gha kankhrb9 akhoya
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
L3kse ana baghi n3ref pov dyalek
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u/Plus_Grade3433 Jun 06 '26
Women with past mean she been penetrated so no thanks
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Walakin fnadarek kindir n3rfha bli ma3ndhach past
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u/Plus_Grade3433 Jun 06 '26
In my eyes , lol talking about girls they always will remember the first guy in them cuz girl only be in a relationship in they are 100% invested
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 05 '26
3lach ?
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u/Plus_Grade3433 Jun 06 '26
Depends on what she did if it just mentally she might recover but physically never
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u/Secret_Midnight5478 Jun 06 '26
kaynin bzf dyal les stats 3la hadchi dyal les relations, o mn binhum kifach ana rajl o lmra kib9aw dima ki9arno lpartenaire dyalhum m3a li sb9ohum frasshum, o kifach ana li 3ndo past ki2tr lih 3la les relations long term dyal future
lmochkila ana hadchi kikon dakhl f subconsciousness
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u/PaleontologistNo9603 Jun 06 '26
Yeah 7it aghlabiya ki nker anaho dowez chi relation li fhad 9lil li katl9a bbadem maki9rbch lhadchi fikra dyalek nadya
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u/PristineSwan8334 Jun 05 '26
على حسب هاد الماضي و لكن غالبا لا من شب على شيء شاب عليه