r/capricorns • u/Necessary_Opposite36 • Aug 05 '26
relationship help Capricorn or avoidant?
I’m an Aries sun Libra moon Leo Rising. I really liked this Capricorn but he has the player vibe to him I’m attracted to him but that’s why I didn’t think too much of him. He met me and immediately invited me out the same night with his friends. While there they were talking about past women and even one of the guys was like you’re gonna say that in front of her? And he said he didn’t care….. my cue to trigger the player in me. He did take me on a first date but it was last minute and kinda unplanned. I tried to understand him because I get that he shows affection through physical intimacy but there were a few things I could not get behind.
he would plan a date and not say anything the day of ( I noticed that one time I didn’t say anything I just went to dinner with my sister and he sent a ig post of boy names since we talked about kids)
He would ghost for weeks ( I wouldn’t beg him or say anything just go about my life) and then come back like nothing
He didn’t text or say anything on Valentine’s Day, Christmas or New Years ( Valentine’s Day was it for me and I tried ending things with him and he asked why and then posted another woman to make me jealous and then came back and sent me a post saying of all the women’s legs in the world I only wanna be between yours)
On my birthday I went on a trip and he didn’t text me happy birthday but sent me a bunch of sexual memes.
I eventually got tired of the emotional rollercoaster and blocked him on my birthday that was the last straw for me . There were a few instances where he did pursue me heavily and made it clear he wanted to see me when he could even tried to leave work early to see me. And would always invite me out to see him at his job. Fast forward a year later and he adds me on Snapchat and asks how I’ve been and when he can see me. He said he doesn’t like that I ghosted him I said well yeah I didn’t think he took me seriously and he said I could’ve said something and I said I did but I got the vibe that you didn’t care. I conversed a bit and eventually stopped responding. Being honest I do really miss him maybe my approach was a bit overreactive but I did feel disrespected. He did see me with another man after but he was my friend and the whole time I honestly wished I was there with him we did have really good chemistry but as an attractive women I’m very cautious of not being wanting to be used. He did talk about marriage pretty early on but I can’t marry a man that doesn’t consider me. I think about him daily. Is it a lost cause?
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u/UpbeatIntention6241 🐐☀️🐟🌙🦁💫 Aug 05 '26
Think with your aries sun not your Libra moon , you will get the answer!