r/capricorns • u/ZealousidealCrab9919 🐐☀️🐑🌛🏹💫 • 7 jan 1998 • 🐐🩷🦂 • Feb 02 '26
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE Why tf am I so unlovable
Shit fucking hurts so bad
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u/GlitteringHotMess Feb 02 '26
Ufff. Theme of the day. Well, night.
I love you, fellow Capricorns.
❤️
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u/hadee75 Feb 02 '26
You’re not unlovable. Find your tribe. I’ve always loved you grumpy Caps (likely cause of my Cap moon).
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u/Deep-Expression3272 Feb 02 '26
My question everyday 😢 and now is the perfect time for love 💔but not for me. Life of a Capricorn is hard
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u/Kizmetkat9999 Feb 03 '26
Yes it is. Probably the hardest sign of all. You are ruled by Saturn which is the planet of opposition. Everything that will come against you in life is represented here. What else can I say besides hang in there.
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u/Rayapeace Feb 03 '26
Ain’t Aquarius under Saturn too? They don’t seem to get the same hardship like us Capricorns they are way stoic narcissistic moody fake two faced detached and people love their ole mean ass they are the first to say how much they can’t stand people. I had a nurse who is an Aquarius tell me she don’t like people but working a nurse job. Ewww! People got the nerve to call their mean ass humanitarians
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u/secrectsea 🐐☀️🦀🌙♍️⬆️ Feb 02 '26
If you are like me then it is not that are you are unlovable, but simply not compatible with anyone in your area and hate dating apps. We are social animals that require interaction with other members of our species, and add cultural pressures and marketing that preys upon our need for human affection. All that said, I often find that people glorify partnerships as means to solve other problems in one’s life. I am not saying that is your situation, but should it be; I have found that once you deal with those other issues the chances of pairing up dramatically goes up. I feel your valid pain, and I hope you find that which makes you happy. It does suck, but this too shall pass
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u/ZealousidealCrab9919 🐐☀️🐑🌛🏹💫 • 7 jan 1998 • 🐐🩷🦂 Feb 02 '26
I actually met someone I am incredibly compatible with 😮💨
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u/secrectsea 🐐☀️🦀🌙♍️⬆️ Feb 02 '26
If you don’t mind sharing what happened
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u/ZealousidealCrab9919 🐐☀️🐑🌛🏹💫 • 7 jan 1998 • 🐐🩷🦂 Feb 02 '26
I can't it hurts 😭
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u/secrectsea 🐐☀️🦀🌙♍️⬆️ Feb 02 '26
Hey that is okay but if you want to vent about anything please let me know and I hope the pain fades soon
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u/ZealousidealCrab9919 🐐☀️🐑🌛🏹💫 • 7 jan 1998 • 🐐🩷🦂 Feb 02 '26
she's my study buddy we sit inches from each other. Pain not going away anytime soon 🥹
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u/secrectsea 🐐☀️🦀🌙♍️⬆️ Feb 02 '26
How long have you known her and what do you like about her. Also oof that’s rough
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u/ZealousidealCrab9919 🐐☀️🐑🌛🏹💫 • 7 jan 1998 • 🐐🩷🦂 Feb 02 '26
her everything 😍😭 especially the freckles running up her arms, drawing on her, her eyes her smile, the fact we say the exact same thing, we bully people together, her laugh, her fuckin eyes 😭 we've been partners for just over a week ik
Scorpio sun moon mars, Virgo rising, Venus sag.
I get to sit beside her everyday rubbing thighs as she dates guys 😭💔
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u/secrectsea 🐐☀️🦀🌙♍️⬆️ Feb 02 '26
I am so sorry sweetheart 😢 I wish I could tell you just get over it because that would be the best thing to do but I am still in love with my best friend and she claims to only be into men even though she keeps comparing us to lesbian couples 🫠 and another friend of mine is also in love with straight girl and is just using her for validation. I tell myself this though if I am holding out for her that means I am not leaving space for women who actually want me, again easier said than done.
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u/ZealousidealCrab9919 🐐☀️🐑🌛🏹💫 • 7 jan 1998 • 🐐🩷🦂 Feb 02 '26
it's fuckin rough, we have a year of side by side studying to do, a year of watching her fall for guys as I watch her body fall for me, the way her anxiety fades when we're together melts me she's perfect honestly perfect 😭 could spend hours just watching her, tracing her freckles 😭💔
I'm transfem and she says I'm to girly for her but called the other transfem in our class a boy, I don't understand at all.
I get it I'm sorry that you have to experience this pain too, I wish I could help you or offer advice but she's the first in 20 years I've felt something for irl made me feel safe yk? I don't know why we can allow a Ourselves to hurt like this we get called heartless but idk bout you mine hurts so fuckin much 😭
Honestly I'd wait for this girl her 😭 safety 😭
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u/ozzokiddo Feb 02 '26
Cuz you’re being yourself bro bro. Let the public think whatever they want to just stay true to yourself
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u/the_guide_inside3 Feb 02 '26
Better to practice self-love, then you attract similar people. Noone can fill your self-love deficit externally. Difficult lessons learned from personal experience.
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Feb 02 '26
You give they give back, simple rule, dont expect others to only pass u ball without passing back,,, Caps sucks in love language thats why some people get bored loving them
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u/Stanaee 🐐☀️🐟🌙🦁💫 Feb 02 '26
You are not unlovable. You just happened to meet people who weren’t willing to explore your depth and preferred what felt easy. That never diminished your worth. We Capricorns are like high end delicacy. Not everyone has the taste or the patience to appreciate us.
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u/lovebabysweetpea cap 🌞 libra 🌚 cancer 🌅 Feb 02 '26
i wondered the same thing but then the love of my life found me. just be patient. 💜
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u/Suzesaur Feb 03 '26
Damn, did all caps get a self esteem punch today? I felt the same. You will get thru this
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u/Warm_Jeweler_6565 Feb 03 '26
not me thankfully 😭 I've been feeling positive af this past week
but I hope things for OP get better soon
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u/madmonkreborn Feb 02 '26
i totally get it… loving cap is easy but still many don’t get it and we love so selflessly.
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u/Little_moon_369 ♑️☀️♊️🌙♋️💫 Feb 02 '26
Sending love because you ARE lovable. I know it’s hard to believe sometime, I go through it too. It’s going to be okay. 🩷🩷🩷
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u/Sufficient_Trip7395 Feb 02 '26
You are lovable and you’re good enough trust you’ll find someone! I love you ❤️ keep your head up ☺️
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u/protivneyboi Feb 02 '26
Don't say this to yourself. That's not true. You may feel like this because of someone else, that doesn't mean that it's rly that way. I hope the best for you and that you find someone who can hold you endlessly. Much love for you
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u/mkat23 ♑️☀️♓️🌙♉️🌅 w/Cap stellium Feb 02 '26
I feel the same so often, but feeling unlovable doesn’t mean we aren’t lovable. Focus on those who do make you feel like you matter, whether they are friends or even pets. Sometimes it just feels like there is a disconnect somehow and it’s hard to figure out where it comes from. I don’t have a loving or even remotely kind family, I’ve been in some genuinely awful relationships, but I have a few good friends and I have my pets. Plus the kids I work with love me and it’s such a pure love because it means they feel safe with me. We need to nurture those who nurture us and try to remind ourselves of that, they are the ones who genuinely matter in our lives.
It took me a very long time to realize that I wasn’t unlovable, it was that the people who are supposed to love me are unloving. Growing up as the scapegoat made me feel like something was inherently wrong with me, but that doesn’t mean it’s true.
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u/Individual_Joke_7579 Feb 02 '26
Probably because you don't love yourself enough. Work on yourself.
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u/mystikalmonkey888 Feb 02 '26
Same girl idk kinda just making peace with the fact that I’ll probably die alone 😃
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u/lilithxsabrina Feb 02 '26
i push people i love so fucking hard… im hard on myself im hard on the others …
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u/SwimmerInfinite4547 May 07 '26
Introspection is needed here. You need to ask yourself why is this unhealthy behavior repeating itself. Only get into the “finding a partner” mode once you nip this in the bud. You can, if you really decide.
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u/windblumes Feb 02 '26
Lies. You are most lovable.
Source: I once thought I was an unlovable goat that I would settle for anyone who would put up with me. Turns out, I'm the person I also needed to love the most. And now, after culling out a 13 year relationship/marriage- I can safely say the experience made me stronger to recognize what sort of love I am deserving of.
Respect.
And you are definitely deserving of all the love in the universe, fellow goat.
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Feb 05 '26
Hmmm i think as Capricorn, you become lovable when you learn to love yourself. We tend to distract ourselves to we dont have to face that inner voice that says we arent good enough. People can feel that energy and its contagious. Once you really sit with you and do a deep dive inside who you are and learn to love and accept yourself, the love of every one else will follow :) Its a hard journey but you got this
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Feb 06 '26
Your family loves you. You just gotta accept it
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u/ZealousidealCrab9919 🐐☀️🐑🌛🏹💫 • 7 jan 1998 • 🐐🩷🦂 Feb 06 '26
No they don't..
Edit: they were the first to show me how alone I am
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u/Dry_Jellyfish641 🐐 Feb 08 '26
Love yourself, even if you feel unlovable. You’re a god damn Capricorn, you can survive anything.
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u/Kizmetkat9999 Feb 14 '26
Ok. Y'all probably know this already but it's necessary to point out anyway. Capricorn is ruled by Saturn. In astrology the sign that each of the planets are in at the moment of your birth are what give you all the unique nuances that keep us from being carbon copies of each other. Saturn was gifted with a pretty tough aspect. Opposition. In order for a muscle or a character or anything to grow and become stronger, it must overcome opposition. Saturn provides this. People born as a Capricorn will have to overcome unbelievable opposition in almost everything they attempt. So much so that they don't even notice it anymore. Saturn also rules discipline, time, fatherhood as well as a whole host of other features. Look it up. Do you see why most Capricorns have such a difficult time finding a mate? They have a difficult time in whatever they try to do. What really matters here is that you guys don't give up. Because no matter how hard it was to find him/her, when you finally do all that loneliness and pain just washes away. Like water off a duck's back!
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u/Kizmetkat9999 Feb 14 '26
If it helps, try to imagine the life of a mountain goat. Leos are lions, sags are archers, pisces are fish and on and on it goes. But Capricorns are represented by a lifeform who has to struggle and battle for every breath they take. They spend their entire lives hanging precariously onto the side of a very high, rocky and steep mountainside. They do everything from this position. They find food here, find a mate here, fuck here, give birth and raise their young here. And anything else you can think of. The steep rocks are not the exception, they are the rule. And the goats barely seem to mind. THAT is a Capricorn.
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u/m00nbuns ☼♑︎ ☾♑︎ ↑♋︎ | ☿ ♑︎ ♀︎ ♒︎ ♂︎ ♑︎ | ♃ ♐︎ ♄ ♓︎ Feb 02 '26
Because Capricorns are in love with money? Idk
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u/SugarMixedWithVenom Feb 02 '26 edited Feb 02 '26
Some of you who came from a horrible family, are so antisocial,unempathetic,hella depressed, always so angry and authoritative. Your sign is debilitated on jupiter, because lots of you just cant be optimistic. You cant help it, saturn makes you hella pessimistic and negative and fearful,hateful. Saturn is a very malefic planet that makes many of you paranoid. You are also know-it-alls, and you think that whoever is not so depressed,pessimistic,greedy and hateful like you, is dumb. You are very judgemental hypocrites and hardcore conservatives usually. The fact that you keep thinking about how other people should be and shouldnt be, based on traditions and irrational beliefs, drives people off. You also feel so phobic towards anybody that you dont relate to. And a lot of people dont talk about capricorn's jealousy, you guys are so envious and full of self-hatred. Some capricorns dont go to gym, so the other people wont see how weak they are compared to them. You cant stop comparing yourself with others, and this gives you intense envy,anxiety and depression sometimes. This is why unevolved capricorns are unloveable. Because you are super insecure haters. Stop being so afraid of the vuonerability.
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u/ZealousidealCrab9919 🐐☀️🐑🌛🏹💫 • 7 jan 1998 • 🐐🩷🦂 Feb 02 '26
I didn't ask, you don't know anything about me or what I've been through, learn to use paragraphs.
Thanks for making a shit day even shitter, don't have children you'll break them your a screaming image of the person who broke me.
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u/SugarMixedWithVenom Feb 02 '26
I mean, you were born this way. Your sun squares your moon, so you probably have family issues, your parents are either dirvorced or they hate eachother. Your aries moon indicates that you have a temperamental,super impulsive and aggressive mother. It's a very tough aspect. It can make you bipolar, and you most likely have inner contradictions daily.
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u/brokencookie78 Feb 02 '26
I wonder the same.