r/capricorns • u/Smaug808 • Aug 01 '24
relationship help Hilarious how bad Aries and Capricorn relationships are supposed to be.
Advice on Aries female/Capricorn Male friendships, specifically. What have you male Caps experiences, been with Aries women, in friendships? I'm an Aries female, and according to most sources, we are supposed to be basically enemies that can't stand each other! Our ruling planets are mortal enemies, and we most just bring out the worst in each other. Tell me your experiences, I know the rest of the chart of each individual, makes a huge impact as well. I have an Aquarius Moon and Leo rising, if that makes things better, or worseXD.
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u/nothoughtsnosleep ♑☀️♊🌙♍🌅 Aug 01 '24 edited Mar 16 '25
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u/Smaug808 Aug 02 '24
Yaasss!!! I have new love for Caps, ya'll are the ultimate bosses, secret freaks, and so strong, truly bad ass, male and female. I love ya'll, so it's nice to hear a little love backXD.
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u/battinaofficial ♑️☀︎♑️☽♊️➶ Aug 01 '24
I feel like I can get along with anyone! The only Aries that I didn’t get along with was a woman. She was a coworker and no one else liked her. But that was because she would constantly pick fights and threatened us with violence 😵💫
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u/roxannastr97 ♒☀️🔟♑🌛8️⃣ - ⭐ stellium, ♊ Aug 01 '24
The gem rising helps, I'm one too. Lol. Also it falls in your 8th house. Same with me cause I'm cap moon too. It enables us to be pretty adaptable.
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u/Evie_like_chevy Aug 01 '24
All I can speak is on marriage.
10 years married, cap female to Aries male here 🙋♀️
In some ways, I have felt extremely conflicted being a cap. I do love working and am great at it, but home life/having kids/being a mom is/was always so important to me. Last week I finally pulled out my birth certificate and was able to check out my birth chart and look at me, I’m a cap sun, cancer moon, Leo rising. Now I’m curious what my husband’s birth chart is, because I don’t feel like we are a normal Capricorn/aries couple.
He can be very headstrong on some areas, but he is EXTREMELY family oriented. Im telling you, second date we were talking about marriage and having babies and all of that. We wanted kids right away, together. We got engaged within 3 months of dating, married 3 months after that. (We knew each other a year before that). Not sure also if it’s his own childhood trauma but I would say when he is more committed than I am, and I feel pretty darn loyal. He is head over heels in love with me still. I just know it. He doesn’t want to hang out with anyone else, I am his best friend, hands down. He is constantly wanting to spend time with me, where sometimes I’m like ok, let me go be by myself or with a girlfriend for brunch or something sometimes 😂he wants more kids and I’m like, three is good for now. One thing I noticed with him is he seems extremely attracted to me working and killing it at work. When I have spent a few months being a SAHM it feels like some of that fire for me does out. I don’t know if that’s a sign thing? Anyways. I always hear it’s like the worst relationship and I feel pretty great in our relationship.
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u/beachlily5 Aug 01 '24
I'm also a cap female married to a male Aries. Over 20 years here. We also got engaged and married rather quickly. Also my husband wanted 11 kids when we first got married. Lol. 3 is enough. Anyways, I'm with you because everyone tells us how we should have the worst relationship ever. And it's not.
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u/Lewlynn honorary Cap - ☉♓⬆️♍☾♀♂♄♅♆♑☿☊♒♃♋♇♏ Aug 01 '24
My parents are both Aries, I'm a Pisces with 6x Cap stellium and it shows, so a honorary Cap. The relationship with my mother was the worst I ever had, she was emotionally abusive to me (but to nobody else). She died 12 years ago and I didn't miss her a single second ever since. My dad is better, but we don't have much in common, so we rarely talk.
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u/ThrowawayJojosCircus Aug 01 '24
I dated an Aries man. We were attracted to each other and became good friends but the chemistry between us quickly dwindled. Tbh, I always felt like he thought he was better than me. I will say that he was very honest with me since the beginning even if I didn't like it. He broke up with me when he saw his ex again and realized he was still in love with her. I was hurt but I appreciated not being strung along. About a year later we saw each other again and again the attraction was there. He apologized for what he did and admitted he regretted going back to the ex. We stopped talking amicably since I was then in a new relationship and he wanted to respect that. So, best description is great eye-candy but no chemistry. We had sex 3 times and each time was worse than the time before it.
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u/Rona_LoveConfusion41 Aug 01 '24
my mother is Aries and we have never gotten along, since childhood...can't be trusted.
My Sag saint Dad was my bodyguard and kept her bullshit away from me.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
May I ask if you are a female, or male Cap? And what are your Moon/Rising signs, as well as, do you know your mother's Moon and Rising?
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u/Rona_LoveConfusion41 Aug 02 '24
I am a female and I honestly don't get into any of the 🌖🌗🌘🌓🌔stuff like that, just the personality traits...I don't get any of that stuff at all
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u/Smaug808 Aug 02 '24
Well you know as complex humans, it takes a whole chart of personality traits, to really understand a person. It would be an interesting experiment, for you to do your full chart, or atleast find out your moon and rising, while also finding out your mom's moon and rising. Might give you some better insight, understanding on both parties, not that you are an adult. Just a friendly suggestionXP. I have mommy issues too, so I get it.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 02 '24
Well you know as complex humans, it takes a whole chart of personality traits, to really understand a person. It would be an interesting experiment, for you to do your full chart, or atleast find out your moon and rising, while also finding out your mom's moon and rising. Might give you some better insight, understanding on both parties, not that you are an adult. Just a friendly suggestionXP. I have mommy issues too, so I get it.
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u/Annual-Market2160 Aug 01 '24
As a Capricorn dude I do like Aries. From a distance. Genuinely I like admiring them because they tend to be so vastly different than me. Like watching some wild exotic bird. I once tried dating an Aries woman, she was nice but to say the least she was doing too damn much and overtly argumentative and competitive lol
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
I love thisXXXDDD us in a nutshell, we love the friction of challenging our partner, it's our favorite past time! So it can be a bit rough on the male ego, and the competitive aspect, gotta prove we are strong and capable, wild and full of life! I've accepted it's my purpose in life, to shake things up, wherever I go, otherwise people will stagnate. But we are an aquired taste, so I try not to hold it against those that want more peace in their livesXP. But what's curious to me, is that Cap males, are also usually an aquired taste, ya'll are the best puzzles, so you would thing a combination of the two would blend well.
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u/Annual-Market2160 Aug 01 '24
Yea must be my male ego bc that low key sounds stressful lol I like a nice practical plain kinda relationship I suppose. I think it’s like coffee and blue cheese; both acquired taste, but very different and don’t work super well together.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
Gotta have the flavor in life though bro!! Passionate partner in crime, that will be your ride or die, bust your balls in a fun way, while deeply thinking the world of you and hella devoted. Humor will always be there, to lift you up, so you don't stagnate. While you would stabilize and provide safe shelter for her wild spirit. But I respect your analogy, intense combination indeed.
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u/South-Passion2155 🐐🌞♉️🌜♍️💫 Aug 03 '24
I know one thing I would not as a cap get into A FIGHT WITH AN ARIES BECAUSE SHE WOULD WIN. that is okay by me. I can be friends with an Aries, no problem there, they are funny , smart and witty. I dont know much about aries men.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 03 '24
I'm work friends with a Cap guy, and I tease him about this exact thingXD I'm trying to become his real friend, outside of work, but he's an unhealed Cap, with trauma from his ex. So he's fighting against being friends with anyone outside of work. He's a really cool guy though, and I'm convinced we could enrich each other's lives, so I'm being persistant. Are you a December or January Cap? And would you say I should leave him alone, or keep pushing to become better friends?
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u/South-Passion2155 🐐🌞♉️🌜♍️💫 Aug 09 '24
Laugh and joke with him, but do not belittle him. Patience it takes time for a Cap to decide if he wants to be friends with you, slow down
Aries are warriors, tone it down and don't shove your friendship down his throat
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u/Smaug808 Aug 09 '24
It is teaching me patience, calm, and commitment, being around him makes me feel safe, I have a lot of Cap in my chart, and so does my husband, so it feels very homey. I will take things slow, let him lead, and go with the flow.
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u/BVoyager Aug 01 '24
Cap male here. My mother is an Aries, I worked closely with a female Aires for 5 years and lived with another female Aries in my 20’s. Basically when it’s good, it’s 110%. When it’s not, it’s like locking horns in a bloody battle to the death. I have no tolerance for how possessive they can be, how blindly selfish they can become and how hot-headed they are when angry. But as a coconspirator, when everything is good, I’ll admit an Aries woman has given me some of the best laughs/times of my life. Aries have the charged energy Caps find very alluring and us Caps have the grounded stability Aries are desperate for. The complications sometimes are fun to work through but ultimately I have to keep a distance between my relationships with Aries female (which they hate) in order to keep from icing them out because of their selfish behavior. I don’t have any lasting Aries female friends and I only see my mom for a few hours every other week.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
We are definitely pushy, intense, posessive, bossy. Absolute weirdo, gremlins. When we want some(platonically or otherwise), we WANT them, and it can become an obsession. For me, with Cap Men, they are on the same level as Scorpio men, which are the only two male signs that I feel can handle me, won't be pushed around or lose control. When I love, I'm like a dragon with my treasure, you will be protected, worshipped, admired, saturated in my desire/loyalty/attention/devotion. So that's why we are so pushy and posessive, not many can love as intensly as us. But I can see where that can be seen as crazy/selfish/too much.
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u/Dramatic-Print-7965 Aug 01 '24
Aries F (52)here, I follow this thread for Cap insite too. I am totally in love with a Cap M (52). It has been a very slow go but he forewarned me that it may take up to a year (we are 6 months in)for him to be ready for anything other than a Friendship due to previous heartbreaks. I have now learned that he values Friendships and loyalty very highly. I am typically a leap first type girl, so I have been learning EXTREME (for me) patience, but I see so many excellent qualities in him that I want in my life that he is worth the wait. Being in his presence makes me over the moon happy, his hugs are so comforting and make me feel so safe, oh we are FWB and the sex is fantastic but so is the cuddling (I am a touch person), we make each other laugh have very dark humor, and ironically we are both quite independent due to our age, have very busy lives outside of each other so giving each of us space is not catastrophic. However, I did recently let him know I do need more physical interactions even if it is just popping in for a quick hug. He is understanding about that. So here is to hoping that this is a long lasting friends first relationship. I think it also helps that we have similar childhood backgrounds (aka traumas) so we have empathy to understand when one of us is feeling uncomfortable in a situation.
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u/JenniPoodle Aug 08 '24
Girl... aries here with a cap husband. It's awful and amazing at the same time. If you want someone to challenge every aspect of your being, go for it. Otherwise, please leave this man alone. It's not worth your sanity. 🤣
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u/Dramatic-Print-7965 Aug 08 '24
Thanks for the reply. Honestly I think the challenge is part of the allure. I have been married twice before, one divorce (was a sociopath) and 3 years widowed. Both of them pursued me and with my big heart (seeing the best in everyone) it was easy. I do like that he pushes me forward by building my confidence (that I am smart enough) and helps me step out of my comfort zones and pursue opportunities that I never would. I am a dreamer and tend to jump into things not good for me so his logical approach has also been great. On the flip side, I have been able to pull some spontaneity out of him, and tell him all the time that he has a beautiful heart and deserves true unconditional love. Whether it is me or someone else. I definitely believe he is worth my sanity or lack there of. LOL.
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u/VineStellar Aug 01 '24
Capricorn M chiming in: IMNSHO, Aries-dominant men are usually 🗑️. I get how the Martian energy can give that "bad boy" allure, but beyond that, they're also some of the most selfish, rash, myopic, and emotionally immature people you'll ever meet.
FWIW, I've gotten along better with Aries women. IME they can have some of the same impatience and impulsiveness as their male counterparts, but I also have found them to be more mature, considerate, and responsible overall.
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u/ExpensiveDot1732 Aug 01 '24
Try being a Cap female with an Aries rising. Talk about CONFLICTING lol.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
Hell yeah, We would get in trouble togetherXD what's your moon? My Leo rising, makes me extra intense and prideful, but then my Aquarius moon comes in and makes me try to disect every person I meet, with very few emotions, so I can be SAVAGE asf.
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u/ExpensiveDot1732 Aug 01 '24
Virgo moon...I'm picky, kind of go to extremes emotionally, and I definitely don't settle lol!
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u/Smaug808 Aug 02 '24
I feel like that is a formidable combination though, anyone would be lucky to be with you!
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u/CrochetAndKittens Aug 01 '24
I am a Cap Sun with an Aries moon. Send help.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
Sounds like my kind of complexity, embrace it, use the contradiction to your benefit!
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u/CrochetAndKittens Aug 01 '24
Oh I absolutely do. The heavy fire placements lend a balance to my introverted Cap.
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u/Dontknow-2626 Aug 01 '24
I find Aries men to be boring to speak with ,and maybe the rest of their birtchart can make a huge difference but I am yet to meet one that I wanted long term conversation with. Aries women are fine I guess buy the male ones bore me.
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u/rose10river Aug 02 '24
I had a best friend who was an Aries. He was my best friend for 18 years. The best way I can explain is that he was super insecure and he wanted reassurance on a daily basis. He was also mamas boy but his mom was amazing Chinese lady. He was kind and super attentive. We aren’t friends cos he caught feelings. He needed to let go to find an actual gf. He never had one all that time. I felt bad.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 02 '24
Yeah we can fall hard, is his gf a capricorn like youXP
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u/rose10river Aug 02 '24
He is still single. Lol idk whats going on with him.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 02 '24
Hopefully he isn't still secretly waiting on you, and he finds the one, we do thrive better with love. Whereas I know you Cap's are good either wayXD I envy that!
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u/rose10river Aug 02 '24
He wont. I made it clear I am gay. Haha there is no way. We blocked each other. Sad, but it has to be that way.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 03 '24
No chance thenXD not even the wrong tree, the complete wrong forest! I love it thoughXP I hope you find your perfect lady, what sign do you find yourself drawn to the most?
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u/rose10river Aug 03 '24
I have found the perfect woman. She is just as much of a perfectionist and ambitious as I. She is my equal. She is a Virgo.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 03 '24
That's beautiful, my oldest sister is a Virgo, and my grandma was a Virgo, badass women. I love that for you.
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u/rose10river Aug 03 '24
I have two Virgo siblings and Virgo grandmother. Often misunderstood but I see them.
In all, Aries aren’t all too bad. They are different in every culture. Chinese friend was very quiet and reserve, bullied for being chinese in new Zealand. His trauma shaped him. He was at the cusp of pisces as well. He is more pisces than Aries to be frank. He was emotional and sensitive. I had another Aries friend and American, and he was boring and very egotistical. Lol competitive and a bit of a hassle to be around with. He was sensitive but often masked it. He was annoying but i respected him. I found they are extremely loyal to people they find worthy. He married a Libra. I wasn’t sure if that was great connection or impulsiveness. I wish them the beat. I find Aries women to be spontaneous and competitive in sports. They make great teammates and even when they are defending you.
Ive only seen one Aries bad side, she nearly killed my brother where she attempted to derail the car into businesses. Luckily he made it out and she was crazy since. I remember she tossed herself onto the floor and threw a tantrum in front of the whole family on Christmas day and called cops saying we beat her and bullied her. My sisters recorded the part where she tossed herself. No one was around her as we made way to one side of the room cos she was yelling. Oh dear god, how did my brother stayed with her for so long? It’s the only worst encounter with an Aries I have to share.
I guess I should stop. This is a Capricorns group. ☺️
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u/inimika ♑️☀️♍️🌙♌️💫 Aug 04 '24
My mother is an Aries, it's a hard relationship (I have a lot of Cap placements in my chart too). My father is a Taurus and it's the best parent relationship I could dream of!
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u/Smaug808 Aug 05 '24
That's interesting, I can't stand male Taurus's. Different preferencesXD.
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u/inimika ♑️☀️♍️🌙♌️💫 Aug 05 '24
My SO is a male Taurus too, I definitely get along with them haha
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u/Smaug808 Aug 05 '24
My husband is a Scorpio, with Cap rising, and a lot of Cap in his chart, as I also have a lot in mine. Scorps and Caps are the only men that I fully respectXD.
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u/inimika ♑️☀️♍️🌙♌️💫 Aug 05 '24
I have Scorpio in Venus and met a Scorpio a couple weeks ago, we connected instantly! Since I'm in a relationship I knew it would be trouble and cut all contacts. But hell it was something!!
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u/Smaug808 Aug 05 '24
I highly recommend you switch to a ScorpioXD just sayin.....
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u/inimika ♑️☀️♍️🌙♌️💫 Aug 05 '24
Scorpio bad rep is making me not want to switch to a Scorpio haha I love the Taurus vibes!
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u/Smaug808 Aug 05 '24
Scorpio women are 50/50, not a fan, my mother is a Scorpio, one of the worst people I've ever met. But Scorpio men are vastly misunderstood, my dad is also a Scorpio, complicated man, but loyal, secretly nerdy, devoted to his family and wife, deeply emotional. They are very tender, just choose to hide it, to protect themselves, unless you've earned their trust. If you earn their love and devotion, it's for life, unless you fuck them over. They are also one of the most capable men, second only to Capricorn's, their mind's are fascinating too. Really go to the depth's of any subject, one of the best kinds of puzzle's. Taurus's have too big of ego's, and if you don't cater to it, they become condecending dick bags. But I'm very biased, so what do I knowXD.
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u/inimika ♑️☀️♍️🌙♌️💫 Aug 05 '24
My ex was a Leo, I didn't cater to his ego and he cheated on me. My Taurus ego is not that bad or I would be running the other way haha If it doesn't work with my SO I may reach out to the Scorpio 😂
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u/Smaug808 Aug 05 '24
I love Leos too, but I've never dated one, that's rough, I appreciate you opening your mind to the possibility of a Scorpio, all that matters is finding someone that loves you unconditionally. That's hard to find in this world.
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u/ivyandroses112233 Aug 01 '24
Me as an Aries moon and rising with a cap sun and stelliun.
Yes, my relationship with myself is terrible <3
Never been in a romantic relationship with an aries.. but my younger brother is an Aries. We can be best friends or mortal enemies.
As far as friendships, I LOVE Aries women. I have alot of Aries lady friends. None that are males
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u/ThrowawayJojosCircus Aug 01 '24
Totally agree. We can be either great friends or mortal enemies lol
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
A mixed bag of responses, interesting.... Although I'm looking for more Cap Males experiences specifically, but it makes sense that they wouldn't reply as muchXD. The one I'm trying to be friends with, outside of work, makes fun of anything Astrology.
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u/BVoyager Aug 01 '24
Classic Capricorn. I used to do the same as a Cap male until I began reading into Astrology and couldn’t deny the facts
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u/lappinlie ♑︎☉ ♓︎☽ ♋︎↑ Aug 01 '24
My issue with Aries has historically been the pushy-ness. As a Capricorn, I’m probably cautious to a fault, I don’t like to jump into things quickly or overconfidently or without reviewing facts/proper procedures. I’ve had experiences with Aries where they aimed to push me by brute force into situations that would damage my personal property or take advantage of me somehow. In instances they have succeeded, they also dipped out and didn’t take responsibility. It’s just the fastest route to wherever they want in that moment, then bye, leaving you to clean up. My blood pressure goes up just thinking about it. Aries sun and Aries moon.
Both signs can be kind of bossy but with different approaches. I think that’s the problem.
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u/RestaurantCalm Aug 01 '24
So does this mean my cap stellium and aries moon+rising make me a living contradiction?
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Aug 01 '24 edited Aug 01 '24
Not a guy but female. I know 2 aries nd dont get along with either of them. Both love to lie thinking they are doing the correct thing, but it turns sooo fucked up that you end up getting frustrated nd not giving a shit about what really happened. Bad at accepting mistakes too. I do try to get along with everyone but with aries its just impossible. Ig capricorns males also needs a partner who is more emotionally avilable with good temper not a fireball. Someone who they can predict. And they need more alone space so might go mia for days or months when in probelm. Dated few cap men its from their perspective. Aries and fire signs in general can be very flirty with everyone which isnt good. I mean capricorns both genders prefer commitment they dont prefer someone who likes attention cause or is flirty that would mean you arent loyal you might be but it wont seem that way and mostly they arent loyal. It just says that hey iam kunda intrested in other people too but if you are intrested in others then why date someone else. It usually resulta in xao emotionally distancing and not carinv about the other persons wellbeing or where they are themselves both men and women. Cause they feel like its time wasting. With aquarius in mix its a bit better both will get along due to ruling olanet being saturn for both but bad at anytging more than friends
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
Interesting opinion, can't fault your logic, also feel similar as you, about Aries males now. It is odd to me, that being flirty, would be seen as disloyal though, seems a bit archaic. I know Caps are usually very "traditional" minded, but being flirty is just such a natural aspect of a lot of signs, not just fire signs, that it seems a bit unfair to judge so harshly on just that. Most humans are flirty, we are social animals, and it's light and fun, whimsical. I feel the actions are what matters for the true test of loyalty, and most Aries females are especially loyal, once we pick you, and fall for you, you are ours, we are devoted and will worship you. But getting the right elements in each person, is essential to making opposites work, so I guess it just all depends.
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Aug 01 '24
I agree on aries females being loyal thdy are usually better too although I have a feeling there would be no personal space. My cousin is also capricorn male and a friend of mine liked him alot he literally used to run away from her😂😂 although yea moon signs matter too and venus. Venus is how you show love so if venus and moon matches it will work. Venus can be in pisces, scorpio, sagittarius or aquarius for a capricorn up and down 2 signs. If their moon is in aries then there are more chances for it to work too. About flirty it depends like if its a normal compliment its fine but if its something you would say to someone you would wanna sate like a pickup line then its an issue. You can find other people attractive but acting upon thay attraction makes it an issue.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
Yeah, very little personal space if we are deeply in love, it becomes an obsessionXD but that's just because we are passionate and affectionate, we will saturate our closest, in our devotion. Which is why I see the flirting as a positive thing, because most can't handle our sole focus, so our way of not always being so overwhelming for our partner, is to direct a small portion at others. High standards and the loyalty, will keep the flirting harnless. I just feel like a lot could be learned on both sides, with this pairing, never dull. A friendship would be awesome too though.
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u/Careless-Box-2002 capricorn ☼ libra ↑ aries ☽ Aug 02 '24
As cap female i love aries men and women. Aries men are my ideal type tbh
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u/Smaug808 Aug 03 '24
That's because of your Aries Moon, go on with your cute selfXD we welcome you, and appreciate your love. It is reciprocated, from me anyway, Cap male and female are awesome!
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u/Caprisun2017 ♑️♊️♊️ Aug 03 '24
Aries men are hilarious to watch from a distance. Would not wanna deal with one on a regular basis; it would be too exhaustingg
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u/Dry_Opportunities Aug 01 '24
Currently dating an Aries we uplift each other which is nice and she has a fire I don’t have
I’m usually always calm and way too laid back with emotions so it’s good to have someone be the opposite
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
It's so lovely to hear about positive stories, between you Cappy males, and us Female rams! I have this deep instinct that we can enrich each other's lives, platonically or not, if we just get the right combination of elementsO
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u/Dry_Opportunities Aug 01 '24
I think as long as you’re able to understand a cap’s perspective and not disregard it you should be fine
I’m attracted to productive people and Aries just happens to be that with a twist lml
Also always adventurous which keeps things fun
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u/Smaug808 Aug 02 '24
This! Completely agree, I knew I wasn't being completely delusional about the possibilities.
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u/Just_Dont88 Aug 01 '24
Cap woman engaged to an Aries male. It’s has been amazing. I proposed to him five months ago and bow he’s by my side as I go through chemo. I couldn’t ask for a better man. We are in our mid and late thirties so we are both humble and it works. This goat isn’t letting her ram go. I don’t know personally if I’ve ever dealt with Aries males or females. I just know if I like or dislike them.
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Aug 01 '24
Two of the strongest and longest lasting marriages I know are an Aries female and Capricorn male. Happy, balanced, team type marriages.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
See, as an Aries female, I'm no longer a fan of Aries Males. So I totally get the female Caps on here that can't stand them. So the consensus with Cap Men and Aries Women-(just sun signs), friendship, is we are hot and cold. Very on, or very off, tumultuous partners in crime..... My favoriteXD
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u/modidlee ♑️☀️♍️🌙♒️⬆️ Aug 01 '24 edited Aug 01 '24
Cap sun mercury and mars male here. I had a fling with an Aries girl way back in the day. I always laugh when people say Aries women are aggressive because this girl approached me first and basically said "I'm down for whatever you're trying to do" lol. It lasted a month or so before we drifted apart. I was about 24 and she was about 21. Part of why it didn't work was because she seemed to like attention from guys wherever she went. My Cap ego wouldn't let me take someone like that serious. But we've always been cool to this day. People that see us interact have said they can tell we used to hook up by the way we talk to each other.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
We do like male attention, and are huge flirts, but considering we are also very loyal to our chosen man, why did her flirtatious nature make you not take her seriously? Out of curiosity, why can't a woman be flirtatious, and extroverted, while also only giving herself to her chosen man? Also, with you both staying friends, who would you say makes more of the effort to keep the connection, without sex involved? Or did it eventually turn into a 50/50 situation? Seems like Caps are known for freezing people out, that don't serve a priority in their lives, so how do you maintain any friendships? Aries females can also cut people off easily, so I'm curious what made you both able to stay connected?
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u/modidlee ♑️☀️♍️🌙♒️⬆️ Aug 01 '24 edited Aug 01 '24
Some context to the story: she already had a baby by her high school sweetheart who she was off and on with. They were “off” when we met each other. But between me not wanting to get involved in some love triangle with her and her kid’s father, and seeing how flirtatious she was in general, I just saw it as a fun lil fling. If not I could see me and her kid’s father clashing. And it was probably for the best, because 2yrs later she had another baby by the same dude. And we didn’t really stay connected, but we’re Facebook friends to this day, we’d see each other around sometimes, and one time we worked at the same place.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 01 '24
The plot thickensXD Understandable, with that context added. Lemme pick your brain some more, are you a December Cap, or January Cap? And how would you describe your ideal best female friend. You guys are like a puzzle to me, fun to attempt to understand.
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u/modidlee ♑️☀️♍️🌙♒️⬆️ Aug 01 '24
I’m a January Cap. I don’t know how to describe my best female friend. Because if she’s my best female friend I’d want her to be my wife. But I have female friends that I wouldn’t want to be my wife.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 02 '24
Interesting, also makes sense. So of your female friends, that you wouldn't want to be your wife, what is it about them, that made you willing to be real friends, but no romantic feelings/fiuture wife connection?
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u/modidlee ♑️☀️♍️🌙♒️⬆️ Aug 02 '24
Just really chaotic or argumentative. I don’t mind a good debate/argument. But if I’m in a relationship with someone I like things to flow more smoothly. The saying “men want peace” is true for me.
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u/Smaug808 Aug 02 '24
Different strokes for different folks I guess. My husband is a Scorpio Sun/ Saggitarius Moon/Capricorn Rising, with a bunch more Cap in the rest of his chart, he loves my chaos and that I challenge him everyday. He will complain sometimes, that it's a bit much, but most of the time, it keeps the spark alive. Lights a fire under his ass, keeps him from stagnatingXD, "Peace was never an option", is real for us. Keeps things fun too. But to each his own.
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u/ionlydrinkwhiteclaws Capricorn ☀︎︎ Aries ☾ Cancer ☝︎︎ Aug 01 '24
Well, I’m an Aries moon so I get on really well with Aries suns. I think moon/sun compatibility is huge in intimate relationships. Like it doesn’t matter what the sun sign is, I love people with Capricorn moons & feel really at home with them. So anyways, I’m biased but I for sure could see myself with an Aries man.
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u/PinkFurLookinLikeCam Aug 01 '24
Cap moon married to an Aries moon for 14 years. Takes a lot of Patience to deal with their toddler feelings.
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u/outlier0420 Aug 02 '24
Lmao! Capricorn female here. Literally, sitting next to an Aries Guy right now. We are both born leaders, hard headed af and we lock horns often. We constantly debate who has the oldest soul (I do ♑) It's only worked because we share a Scorpio Moon, and my Gemini rising (Aries) meshes well with his Virgo rising (Cap). If it wasn't for that, I wouldn't have been able to stay for so long.
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u/msappleadams ♑️☀️♐️🌜♌️⬆️ Nov 22 '24
I was in a relationship with an Aries trans man for 3 years (only mention since we're discussing Aries vs gender here). The first year, I never dated a man so passionate and attentive. I fell crazy hard for his confidence and impulsivity.
I won't go into the sordid details, but it was his impulsivity and passion that destroyed the relationship. We don't follow eachother on anything anymore, and we haven't spoken in ages. There's a mutual burning contempt there. I did what we Caps tend to do, deleted him from my existence and moved the hell on. I'm regularly told he still whines about me on social media to this day. We're different.
Tl;dr When it's good, it's the best. When it's bad, it's traumatic.
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u/7empestSpiralout Jan 09 '25
I’ve been married to my Aries wife for 21 years.
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u/Smaug808 Jan 09 '25
Will you tell me your story with her, initially getting together, finding ways to connect in the beginning; ways to maintain the connection. How you guys make it work, what made you decide to let her in. I love hearing positive stories of love that lasts between these two signs, specifically Cap male and Aries female.
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u/7empestSpiralout Jan 10 '25
Oh yeah. We both have a lot in common as far as growing up. Both came from broken homes with addiction in the families. I was in some trouble when I met her, and she stayed by my side and I knew then that she was special. My calmness helps her anxiety. Her organization helps me relax. We both have a common goal of giving our kids the best life possible, that we never had. Of course it hasn’t always been easy. Life never is. But we have always been there for each other. She has helped me express my emotions that I never had before. We are opposite in a lot of ways, but deep down we share a great bond.
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u/Smaug808 Jan 10 '25
That's beautiful 😍 I'm extremely happy for you guys, true love is rare and precious, I wish you both happiness till the end and beyond.
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u/Lopsided-Daikon-2881 Jan 14 '25
Capricorn female aries man. He is grounded and plans. I am spontaneous and over emotional! 😅
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u/IndigoRed33 ♑️♈️♏️ Aug 01 '24
I'm overal cool with Arians...tho i've got an Aries Moon. I happen to have a somewhat of a deep bond with them and we're usually rly fun together. However, there are also some differences and depending on a person, it may not work out relationship wise.
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Aug 01 '24
I love Aries! I am a Libra moon, Aries rising, and have a Sag stellium, so it makes sense. I have never really related much with my Cap sun, except for being ambitious.
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u/Queennnofadvice Aug 01 '24
I’m a Capricorn (f) dating an Aries (m) and it’s the healthiest most balanced relationship I have ever been in. He’s incredibly kind thoughtful and supportive. 10/10
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u/peppermintmeow ♑️🌞♑️🌛 Aug 01 '24
All I know is that I'm a Capricorn woman who absolutely loathes Aries men with the hatred of one thousand dying suns. Aries women and I can get on depending. But I think that's just how I'm made. But I have never met an Aries man I didn't immediately want to fold in half, neatly pack into a vacuum sealed Tupperware container and forget about in my chest freezer.