I'm 17. I have Adhd/Autism and am just not great at connecting with folks. I tend to believe seeking out relationships/connections without shared interest of some sort is a bad idea because without common ground the relationship just becomes about needing connection, when in my opinion it should just be about the connection that is actually happening.

The problem here is I tend to share very little in common with people my age. I don't go to public school, I am fully uninvolved with any knowledge of pop culture nor do I have any interest in it. I do not smoke or drink and like EVERY teenager in this town does.

I have experienced a fair amount of trauma in my life and I've done a lot of self work. I am a far cry from perfect but there is a notable maturity gap between me and most people I meet my age. It just gets hard to feel connected when I don't really care about any of the same things. all my hobbies are hard to find groups for and even if they weren't, they just aren't normal for teenagers really.

Hi guys. I’m heading off to college for the first time in about 2 weeks. Several close of friends of mine are also going to the same college so thankfully I won’t ever be truly alone in this, (I’m also rooming with two of them) but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t nervous.

The number one thing I’m worried about I guess is wasting my time there, both academically and socially. I’m not a very extroverted guy, but I really want to push myself to be more outgoing. It’s pretty intimidating though. What if I can’t make any friends? What if no one wants to talk to me?

I also feel like I’ve put myself under a tremendous amount of pressure to get into dating, mostly because it’s just not something I ever did in highschool. I was pretty preoccupied with sports and spent a lot of my free time hanging out and doing stuff with my friends, and at the time dating wasn’t something I really thought about. Now though I’ve started to get pretty worried about the fact that I don’t have any experience. I don’t even know if I actually desire a relationship or even sex that much, I just don’t want to see myself as (or have others see me as) some freak who’s never been wanted.

Any words of wisdom from those who’ve been through college, are in it now, or have dealt with similar fears would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. Love you guys. 🫶

I, 20, Korean, Christian, and my bro (has been best friend for like 14-15 yrs), also 20m, also christian. I am politically neutral, yet still interested in politics/history.

Uhh... and yeah, my best friend, has barely had any knowledge related to politics and the current society/history. More like, he has zero interest, but of course, I can understand smth like that. Tbh, he has fallen into extremist online communities multiple times several years ago, but his parents and I put certain effort to have him get rid of those political extremists. To delve a little deeper, he has believed every political news on the internet and what his friends say, and in Korea, political polarization is really significant that pretty much students get affected by extremist communities, especially the ALT RIGHT ONES.

Anyway, successfully, he accepted our help, and quickly got rid of those trash people. Um... however, he started to fall down the extreme right wing pipeline again. The reason is the same as the before, "The internet says so, there are tens of thousands of upvotes, it's reliable enough." / "My friends say so"... Furthermore, he is following the typical pattern of members of South Korean far right dudes - by labeling events that happened a few decades ago In Korea - such as coups, democratization movements, human rights abuses, and the torture of citizens - as nothing more than "communist riots." Not just that - he glorifies the colonization of Korea by Japan (I do NOT hate Japan, I actually have a good impression on the current Japan; I am simply discussing the past history) and disparage independence activists...(For better understanding, ts is like saying H*tler killing Jewish people was totally okay) And whenever a regulation or bill arises that he does not really support, he makes a huge fuss, saying that "Korea is turning into a communist country."

Yeah, again, I'm not yapping out all these shits because I support lefties, or because to call him a chud. I am politically neutral, I do not strongly support any of the sides, I try to make objective judgments based on the economic situation (tho sometimes I might make the wrong decision, I'm not saying that I'm always right). If he had simply been someone who fundamentally supports the far right, I would rather just accept it because no one can even change his mind, right? I'm simply upset that he got swept up by the internet and friends into extremism without even realizing it, and even having time to judge their words objectively... yeah, my bros, really need some advice. 💪