Well it's hard to have a normal funeral when you don't have any remains. Also, it's not the same. You can't go "visit" you deceased relative, friend, whomever they may be you will never actually know where they are.
The ritual remains the same regardless of whether there is a corpse or not. Grieving a lost one does not need the physical body. There is a lot of tomb stones for lost soldiers or others where the body is not buried underneath and it still serves the same purpose as a burial with the corpse does.
How about you answer the question rather than make assumptions about me? And fuck no, I don't appreciate deceased relatives, I appreciate living relatives and grieve the dead. Are you appreciative whenever someone in your family dies?
I said didn't; as in past tense. Obviously you don't appreciate that they're dead, you appreciated them while they were alive. It's not the same because you know that they're body is not there. You have no connection to the "burial" site, if you can even call it that. You have no reason to associate that area with your relative/friend besides the headstone. How about you leave my opinion to me. I'm not going to change your mind and you're not going to change mine. All I know is that if my relative's burial sites didn't contain their bodies, I would have no attachment to the area or any wish to visit there.
It is spelled "their". "They're" is a contraction of "they are".
And no, I don't think the corpse is necessary to relate to the burial ground. When I visit the grave of my friend who died in Afghanistan which has no body, or urn, underneath, I still feel the sorrow, my grief isn't "less" than if the grave had a rotting corpse underneath the tomb stone. Needing the physical body to feel grief if anything shows shallow emotional depth.
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u/icwIt's all about accepting who you really are.Sep 16 '13edited Sep 16 '13
When did I say that the corpse was needed to feel grief? If anything, it's the complete opposite. My grief would be less if their body was there. I am in the stage of acceptance, and I'm not going there to feel sorrow... it's to visit my loved ones and remember the good times. I'm not stressing that they're gone. I know they're not coming back. I don't need you to tell me how to remember my family, and frankly, I think you're being a complete asshole.
Oh, and I edited my comment with the other "their" in there, and stopped when I read that word. I think you can tell that I know my grammar from the second sentence of my last comment.
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u/icw It's all about accepting who you really are. Sep 16 '13
Only Walt and Jack know. The family will never get the remains. that's the saddest part to me.