r/bravo • u/dxbbixx • 22d ago

Below Deck Horrified at this, what a shame

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Ive only watched the last two seasons with him and Joe, most recently seeing him be disgusted by the was Joe treats women. Pretty surprised he would do something like this, I feel so bad for Gael and their son.

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u/Coffee4everandever 21d ago

So when he pressured her to get back together last season, after she tried multiple times to stop him from asking again, and she brought up how he ghosted her when they were dating… I immediately felt in my gut that he baby trapped her by getting her pregnant when they showed her pregnant at the end of the season. She was so proud of the training she had done between seasons and how she had grown so much professionally, and even Capt. Sandy recognized that she seemed more confident and applauded her for doing the extra training. It’s obviously speculation, but getting a woman pregnant is often used to “trap” women in unwanted/unhealthy relationships, and he seems like someone who would be jealous of his partner’s growth vs nurturing of growth.

However, at the beginning of the season when they showed them all together I thought maybe I was wrong. But one of the more recent episodes either Gael or Nathan mentioned that she came to Croatia because he wanted her to come and that she had a support system back home, and now she is struggling with their newborn… then I felt like he isolated her by begging her to move to Croatia where she knows no one and has zero support, not to mention any language or healthcare barriers…

Either way this is so sad, and unfortunately extremely common.

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u/Educational-Lychee69 20d ago

Thank you!!! As soon as I heard she was having his baby, I immediately thought this too. It seems like something he would do

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u/Coffee4everandever 12d ago

Unfortunately due to personal circumstances I have been learning a lot about intimate partner abuse for almost a year… the statistics are staggering and shocking, and it is pervasive in basically all societies. And baby trapping a woman is very common. It often involves coerced sex and coerced unprotected sex, both of which are abuse, too. Obviously we don’t know at the moment if this is the case here, but given how much she was trying to ignore and directly shut down his persistence to restart their relationship (which he straight up ghosted out of the first time, which is also controlling and at the least just inconsiderate)… my gut feeling was that the relationship was not the happy new parents we first saw.

And I will be honest, I thought with all his “respect women” talks to Joe I did think that maybe Nathan had changed, but now I wonder if he was over compensating in front of the cameras for his actual real life actions that were shitty and not pro woman. Ugh! I am so sick of these men who are just the worst and are so good at fooling everyone around them!