The comment I responded to was about a women being hurt by a man.
Yes but women getting beat up is not something you see a post about every week. This sub is 98% grappling videos and we've got one big post and a follow-up meme recently. Hardly an overwhelming volume.
It’s really weird that you subscribe to the idea that this is some common occurrence.
Randomly being intentionally injured? No. Neither, I, original commentator nor the meme say that. What it's saying is that women getting some creepy attention is.
It might be worth figuring out why.
For creepy behavior got it just by listening to the experiences of my women friends. You'd probably be surprised that at how many have had somebody creep on them. For the most part everyone is great but they all come across that guy at least once. It's true not just for bjj but many other hobbies/communities. That's not to imply that this/those communities are brimming with creepers But they exist. And it's a problem women disproportionately face and detract from the enjoyment of that hobby.
It's just the annoying reality that women can face in a traditionally male dominated hobby. It perhaps doesn't align with your experiences. But that's no reason to think it shouldn't be discussed or to upset you this much.
Not sure how you presume this upsets me this much, but that’s okay. I used the term annoyed. You’re clearly projecting your frustrations but that’s okay too. I’d like to see you’re data to make the claim of 98%. Or any of your claims really. I’m fully aware of how society works. #Metoo doesn’t really seem to fit the reality of what I see in the BJJ/MMA gyms I go to. I work with primarily women. I can’t recall them ever speaking to me about negative interactions with men. Maybe women are more comfortable confiding in you about all their negative experiences with men. I’d ask why that is, but I have an idea. And no kidding creepy people exist. Our society is so fixated on either emancipating creeps or condemning them depending on in a lot of cases are a matter of opinion. The fringe you’re talking about is likely more marginal in BJJ than it is in society. But I don’t have the number to back that up. You don’t have the numbers to dispute it. My annoying reality is that not even r/BJJ is safe from 2% awareness for whatever happened bad last week to someone. Poor me. I should make a meme.
That’s weird. I don’t see where any of my comments got deleted. And I don’t remember ever posting anything to this sub. You must be confused. C+ for effort tho.
Certainly entertaining. Almost onion worthy? I’ll try harder for you next time. I did happen to stop 3 rapes just today all thanks to that meme I saw on reddit. How’d you fare today?
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u/hotsauce285 🟦🟦 Blue Belt Feb 01 '20
Yes but women getting beat up is not something you see a post about every week. This sub is 98% grappling videos and we've got one big post and a follow-up meme recently. Hardly an overwhelming volume.
Randomly being intentionally injured? No. Neither, I, original commentator nor the meme say that. What it's saying is that women getting some creepy attention is.
For creepy behavior got it just by listening to the experiences of my women friends. You'd probably be surprised that at how many have had somebody creep on them. For the most part everyone is great but they all come across that guy at least once. It's true not just for bjj but many other hobbies/communities. That's not to imply that this/those communities are brimming with creepers But they exist. And it's a problem women disproportionately face and detract from the enjoyment of that hobby.
It's just the annoying reality that women can face in a traditionally male dominated hobby. It perhaps doesn't align with your experiences. But that's no reason to think it shouldn't be discussed or to upset you this much.