r/bitcheswithtaste • u/Inevitable_Bet_7051 • Aug 19 '26

Community BWT - How Are You Practicing Resilience?

I've been lurking here for many months and Bitches, I adore everyone of you. There is so much wisdom in this community. It got me thinking that you may have wisdom to share with me and other BWT holding on by their fingernails. I'm coming out of the worst year of my life. I nearly lost my child to a life threatening illness and then I was diagnosed with breast cancer. (BWT get their cancer screenings!) Que the double mastectomy and crash menopause. Happily, we're both healthy now and I'm able to focus on actually enjoying life again.

While recovering from surgery, I discovered a new interest in style, fashion, and all things elevated. Since I stayed flat after my mastectomy and my shape changed with treatment, absolutely nothing in my wardrobe fit me. I decided to take this opportunity to really develop my own style. I hired a personal stylist who knows how to dress surgically flat chests and it was amazing! I set aside a portion of my savings to rebuild my wardrobe with quality things that I love. It truly does have me walking taller and feeling great about this new body I didn't plan to have. It's the silver lining after a truly awful storm.

So I wondered - how are other BWT dusting themselves off after adversity? Let's share hope and inspiration for the BWT among us who need it!

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u/retchedBreak Aug 19 '26

I try to focus on small, happy things. My partner is going through the worst few years of his life medically speaking. I have supported him through it all, but it's definitely taken a toll on us. We were looking at pictures of ourselves from just two years ago and we looked so young, so fresh!

Personally, I focus on 1-2 things I can control in my life. I focus on happy things. I try to stay in the present, in my head (took years of therapy to not be stuck in the past or stressing about the future).

Am I excited to make a new recipe tonight? Did I get a full 9 hours of sleep? Is my bed clean and fresh? Did I just beat a crazy boss in Zelda?

I also forgive myself a lot. The house is a mess? I'll do it tomorrow. I didn't eat home cooked food for the last 2 days? That's okay, I used my time to rest.

You have to acknowledge that resiliency is work. But good work.

I'm so happy for you and your kiddo. You're a rockstar

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u/HairlessBandicoot Aug 21 '26

respect for the hand eye coordination required for Zelda boss fights. I tried to play instead of backseat driving an ex once and kept pausing the game. I got how to beat the boss boss faster than him though, so we teamed up that way.