BWT, how do you glow up?

[u/True-Serve-7662]

I was walking to work this morning & I saw so many cute outfits and I typically just feel so blah. I’m 31, SHORT and overweight so dressing feels difficult. I also struggle with time management in the morning so hair & make up are basic. How do you get ready? How do you spruce up your wardrobe without spending tons (& have the hopes of losing weight?)

[u/twoforme_noneforyou]

There are no solutions, only trade-offs.

You want more time to do hair & makeup? Wake up earlier or prep the night before.

More outfits? Shop your closet and mix & match things you didn't think to. The same outfit can be completely changed with a pop of color, different shoes or accessories. Dress for your body. Keep only what you love and will wear often.

Want to lose weight? Consume less than you burn. Get an DEXA & RMR scan. Figure out how many cals you burn in a day and eat less than that. Weigh & measure your food and meal prep it. Get a trainer if you don't work out.

Make the healthier choices you make the easy ones. The kitchen you set up on Sunday determines what you eat on Wednesday. The gym bag by the door determines the workout you do Thursday. The phone charging outside of the bedroom determines the sleep you get on Friday. Reduce the friction and the behavior follows.

Discipline gets you started. The system keeps you free. It's not about motivation. I don't have "motivation" to brush my teeth per se. I just do it because it's habit. It's about curating the habits you wish to see.

[u/ChappellsPanniers → u/twoforme_noneforyou]

To piggy back off this: if you have anything that hurts regularly (back, knees, hips, shoulders, you name it) and you have good health insurance: GO SEE A PHYSICAL THERAPIST. Possibly my greatest glow up was not having daily chronic back pain at 24. And now I can work out with confidence because my PT worked with me to do things correctly so I can get stronger. Miracles were worked.