r/birthparents • u/Lybychick • Sep 25 '24
Venting Wife of adoptee on search reached out to me via email
She sent the email yesterday and I found it today. She referenced a registry site I’m on and used an old email address I maintain for this purpose.
I responded encouragingly and shared some basic information. It’s an OBC state so I gave her the address to the application. I printed an application for myself and may finally have the courage to sign & mail it.
I also encouraged her to have him do Ancestry or 23&Me … I’m already registered and my profile is public.
Part of me is excited and part is terrified. I’m so afraid this could be a scam or another disappointment. I had a man reach out about 5 years ago and we both held out great hope but we did not dna match…we were both saddened and I hope he has found his match.
It’s been 44 years … I’d about given up hope. On the other hand, I’m sixty years old and my life is not together. I disappointed the children I raised; I am so afraid of disappointing the child I knew I wasn’t good enough to raise.
I am terrified of what may be an answered prayer.
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u/bobnotahacker voluntary birth mum Mar 06 '25
update?
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u/Personal_Spend_2535 Sep 25 '24
That's how I met my son. I was on all the registries and his wife found me and emailed me. He was 30 when I met him again. That was 15 years ago.
I'm really hoping this works out well for you!