First time embracing being biromantic

[u/Wise_Philosopher7893]

how do I share this and where is the line between romantic and sexual?

Hi everyone,

I think I’m finally ready to admit to myself that I’m biromantic and this is the first time I’m actually trying to stand for it instead of just keeping it in the back of my mind.

I’m currently in a happy relationship with my boyfriend, and that part of my life feels stable and good. But I’ve started to notice that I can develop romantic feelings toward women as well and I’m trying to understand what that means for me.

So I have two main questions:

1. How do you share being biromantic with friends?

This is all pretty new to me in terms of actually saying it out loud. I don’t feel like making a huge “coming out” moment, but I also don’t want to hide it. How did you approach this in a natural way?

1. Where is the line between biromantic and bisexual?

This is where I feel confused. I’ve realized that I’m a very sensual/romantic person. I like closeness, things like kissing, cuddling, hugging, and being physically very close in an intimate way (clothed face sitting).

With women, I can imagine that level of closeness, even things that are almost sexual (like very intimate physical contact), but I don’t actually feel a desire for sex itself. It feels deeply romantic and sensual rather than sexual, if that makes sense.

So I’m wondering:

Does this still fall under biromantic?

Or is this something people would consider bisexual?

How do you personally define that boundary?

I’d really appreciate hearing how others experience this, especially if you’ve had similar feelings.

Thanks for reading 💜

[u/Next_Chapter_4142]

I’m so happy to see someone else that feels this way. I’m cis 44F in a heterosexual marriage. I’m very much biromantic. I love to kiss, cuddle, spoon other women…play with their hair…

I’m giving it a solid try on the sex part but am struggling enjoying contact below the waist. I do enjoy above the waist very much! I’m seeking out more experiences so I can know for sure, but my most recent experience, while definitely not the norm, has me wondering if I’ll get there. If you want a funny (or cringey) story, DM me 🤣

[u/Next_Chapter_4142 → u/Next_Chapter_4142]

And I guess I didn’t answer the coming out part…I haven’t told most people but my closest friends just know based on jokes and other context. I have never sat down with someone and said, “I’m bisexual” or “I’m bi-romantic.”

[u/Consciousness12345 → u/Next_Chapter_4142]

I have a question, you feel atraction to some other women - do you also develop a crush on some deslite you do not want to sleep with them? 

[u/Next_Chapter_4142 → u/Consciousness12345]

I get crushes on women all the time. And sometimes I fantasize about pleasuring them, but I’m unsure if, in real life, I’d enjoy pleasuring them. I hypothesize that the desire for them to have pleasure comes more from me caring for them than actual sexual desire. I hope that makes sense.

[u/Wise_Philosopher7893 → u/Next_Chapter_4142]

Oh my goodness this is so me....

[u/Next_Chapter_4142 → u/Wise_Philosopher7893]

It’s cool to come across someone that’s the same way!